Meet Nayely Valdivia

We were lucky to catch up with Nayely Valdivia recently and have shared our conversation below.

Nayely, first a big thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and insights with us today. I’m sure many of our readers will benefit from your wisdom, and one of the areas where we think your insight might be most helpful is related to imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is holding so many people back from reaching their true and highest potential and so we’d love to hear about your journey and how you overcame imposter syndrome.
Growing up, I’ve always felt like an outcast and had very low self-esteem, to the point where I felt like I was worthy of nothing. Because of this, I was a people-pleaser and was more focused on everyone else’s opinion than my own. Every time I succeeded in something, I still felt like I wasn’t enough. So even then, I had a hard time taking compliments because I didn’t believe them at the end of the day. And to be very honest, I feel like I just recently started to break from what people like to refer to as “imposter syndrome.” Having social media become my workplace really made me wake up and realize I wasn’t the only one feeling the way I was feeling, which was very comforting but also concerning. A lot of the time, the reason we continuously doubt our work effort is because we are trying to compare ourselves to others. That can mean family, friends, coworkers, etc. Once that happens, you start setting high expectations for yourself. Every time you don’t reach that expectation, you create more and more self-doubt, to the point that when you do reach the expectation, you still don’t feel worthy enough. You’re not able to appreciate your success to its full potential. So it’s all about starting at the root of the problem. Stop comparing yourself to others and stop setting high expectations. Understand that in order to grow and learn, it’s okay to make mistakes; that is part of progress. Start living life in a flow state because you are only human and this is your own personal life. Those are a few tips that really helped me overcome my “imposter syndrome”.

Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
My name is Nayely Valdivia, and I am currently 20 years old and about to be 21. I’m currently working full time on social media as @naii.elyy and @elyy.naii, doing promotions for clothes, hair, music, etc. on TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube. Before it got to this point, I gained recognition for content such as my skits and POVS and also from joining a group known as the Hoodskiiz. It all started on TikTok and then drifted to my other socials. My artist name is NAII, and I have released music. I’m working on dropping a few songs before the end of this year and don’t plan on stopping anytime soon. Music is something I love a lot; I actually can’t imagine a life without it. I love spreading positivity and am a big promoter of self-love. These are the things I love to do the most, and I gain all my inspiration from my family, friends, and supporters.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
Three very important qualities to have in life are belief, faith, and patience. Always believe in yourself, no matter how hard it gets. Have faith in what you believe and know that it is real or that it can happen. And last but not least, be patient with yourself and with your life. Once again, with the setting of expectations, you have to understand that life is still its own process and nothing happens right away. But as long as you have belief and faith, patience will be so much easier because they all tie together.

Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?
When ever I feel overwhelmed, I always ask myself, “What is making me feel that way?” Once I figure that out, I ask myself if there’s anything I can do about it. Depending on the situation, can I walk away from it? If not, can I address it? If not, is there something about myself that I’m not accepting? All these questions are very important because it’s always about getting to the root of a problem. That’s the only way you can avoid feelings like these from rising up again or start to be able to get through them easier.

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