We were lucky to catch up with Nilzara Rivera recently and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Nilzara, really happy you were able to join us today and we’re looking forward to sharing your story and insights with our readers. Let’s start with the heart of it all – purpose. How did you find your purpose?
I started to step into my purpose after my second abusive marriage. It took me admitting that I was the common denominator in all the craze that I was experiencing. I knew the only way to change was to sit in my sh*t and heal. Once I started that journey, there was a shedding of trauma that occurred. This shedding allowed me to see myself in raw form. It was in that rawness that I started to unfold my purpose as an intuitive healer.
Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
I recently transitioned from an Intimate Partner Violence Recovery Coach to an Intuitive Healer and Light Language Practitioner. My heart is to help you unLayer the bullshit holding you back from being your unique expression of God. I am focusing on my Distant Energy Healing, Light Language Sessions, and in-person healing meditations.
Before I share more about my transition, let’s lay the foundation for it!
I used to say that an alcoholic father raised me, but the truth is, I raised my father. I stepped into the mother role once my dad became an addict.
His inability to father and love me appropriately left me subject to so many traumatic events, and this bled into my adult life.
I lived my life through the lens of trauma. Even as a devout Christian at the age of 21, my life was still unsteady, and I found myself in two different abusive marriages!
It wasn’t until I left my second husband that I came to terms with the fact that I was the common denominator in all the craze I had endured.
Now, I am not saying that I deserved what I experienced, but I am saying that I did not take responsibility for my healing, and because of that, I perpetuated a wild cycle of craze in my life.
After I left my second ex-husband, I still claimed to be Christian but was not active in my Christian walk. I still loved God but was confused and upset at how things unfolded. After I married my third husband, I felt God calling me to connect. I wasn’t very excited because “connecting” meant I had to pray, read my Bible, and go to church. I had no desire to do any of those things.
One day, I said, “God, if you want to have a relationship, I need you to strip the crap. God, strip the crap! I want to see you for who you are without the bullshit. And, bring people to help me with this new walk.” My life changed after that.
God brought me people who were unorthodox to Christianity. They loved God but pulled tarot cards or were psychics, which was all considered witchcraft in my Christian world. However, these people displayed more “Christ-like” attributes than the self-proclaimed Christians I knew. It was confusing, mind-blowing, and fascinating all at the same time.
At this time, I already had my own coaching business. However, this transformation inspired me to transition from a Life Coach to an Intimate Partner Recovery Coach. I had a new desire to share my story, and by doing so, I was able to heal in such a different way. I even co-authored a book where I shared my story and became an international best-selling author.
During this time, God showed and taught me about myself. I discovered that I was an intuitive healer. As I practiced, my gift grew more and more, and my desire to be an Intimate Partner Recovery Coach dwindled. My heart yearned to step into healing as a business, and I gained profound freedom by doing so.
Some people do not believe me; God is the one who has brought me to this place, and it’s a beautiful place to be. Life has not necessarily gotten easier, but I now have the emotional maturity and the tools to manage life healthily.
Now, I share my story and gifts with others as much as possible. I love holding in-person events, such as healing meditations. But, I specialize in distant healing so I can be home more often with my one-year-old.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
1. If your life is on repeat, you’re a part of the problem. It’s time to humble yourself and get the help you need to make life different. 2. It’s important to know that healing is a lifestyle. It is a lifelong commitment. It can ease up once you release expectations of what healing is supposed to look like, feel like, and the length of time needed. Also, forcing healing isn’t always the best. God will let you know when it’s time to pursue the next layer of healing. Learn how to enjoy life until the next layer shows up.
3. No healing modality is more important than the other. They all serve a purpose and have their time and place in your healing journey.
To close, maybe we can chat about your parents and what they did that was particularly impactful for you?
I have already shared about my father. My mother wasn’t the best, either. But, as an adult, the difference between the two is my father is still the same. He is still an addict, and I cannot be honest with my feelings about what I experienced with him. However, my mother is fantastic now. I am in therapy, and there are still things that come up regarding my mother’s negligence. What makes her remarkable is that I can call and share those things with her. She attentively listens and is very apologetic. She is always eager to hear my perspective and is even grateful; sometimes, it helps promote healing in her life. Because of her approach, I am open to listening to her reasoning behind her actions. It helps me to understand her journey better. It deepens our relationship.
Contact Info:
- Website: www.nilzararivera@gmail.com
- Instagram: nilzararivera
- Facebook: Nilzara Rivera
- Other: My website is currently being revamped. I also have a Facebook group call the unLayering Effect: Spiritual & Intuitive Healing for Women.
Image Credits
Leigh Ann Watts Photography.
