We were lucky to catch up with Jade The HBIC recently and have shared our conversation below.
Jade, thank you so much for joining us today. Let’s jump right into something we’re really interested in hearing about from you – being the only one in the room. So many of us find ourselves as the only woman in the room, the only immigrant or the only artist in the room, etc. Can you talk to us about how you have learned to be effective and successful in situations where you are the only one in the room like you?
Throughout my life, being the only one in the room has become my norm, something I’ve learned to navigate adeptly. As someone of mixed heritage, I’ve often found myself either too black in Latino circles or not black enough in black communities. Similarly, as a gay person from The Bronx, I’ve felt out of place both in rooms full of gays and in heterosexual settings, never quite fitting in either. These experiences extend beyond ethnicity and sexuality; they include moments when I’m the only one dancing and shouting at 7 AM or when I’m overdressed for a casual event.
There are several ways one can respond to these situations. Some may choose to blend in, becoming chameleons who adapt to each environment. Others might avoid such settings altogether, seeking out more inclusive spaces where they feel more at home. Still, others may opt to hide, wearing a hoodie, keeping their mask on, and staying silent in a corner.
Personally, I’ve chosen to embrace my uniqueness. I enter every room with an open mind and heart, fully aware of how my appearance—standing at 5’9, plus-size, with split hair and long nails—can turn heads and shift energy. I accept myself with all my flaws and strengths, holding my head high and wearing a confident smile. This self-assuredness comes from a deep understanding, appreciation, and love for who I am.
By taking the time to understand myself and empathize with others, I’ve developed a mindset that isn’t daunted by being the only one in the room. Instead, it propels me towards greatness, allowing me to express myself authentically, whether loudly or softly. I celebrate my Latino and black roots, my walk, my talk, and every aspect of my presentation.
This mindset has not only helped me excel in various roles—be it at work, in drag, as an entertainer, or an entrepreneur—but has also enriched my interactions with people and situations. I’ve honed my ability to read people and energies, translating this awareness into my work ethic and creativity.
For instance, in founding my business, Head Bitch Productions, I leveraged the power of being different and challenging norms. Similarly, with my clothing brand HOL, I’ve reimagined streetwear, infusing it with authenticity and uniqueness. Along the way, I’ve transformed negative words and perceptions into sources of empowerment, refusing to let them hold me back.
Ultimately, these experiences of standing out and overcoming adversity have taught me invaluable life lessons and skills. They’ve allowed me to embrace my individuality, love my differences, and use them as catalysts for personal and professional growth. Walking into rooms with confidence and pride, I’ve learned that being different is not only okay but a source of strength. As Nicki Minaj once said, “I am the star in any room that I stand in,” and like Beyoncé, I embrace being “one of one, the only one” truly unique and irreplaceable.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
I’m Jaden from The Bronx, NYC, a 23-year-old entertainer and entrepreneur known as Jade The HBIC. I dabble in everything from drag, music, choreography, and dancing to YouTube, podcasts, modeling, and acting—essentially anything in entertainment. I’m also the proud owner of Head Bitch Productions, which goes beyond just entertainment. We provide a platform for talented and hardworking up-and-comers to showcase their skills.
At Head Bitch Productions, we host shows like The Hotbox with The HBIC and Kwueens on Deck podcast, where I delve into various topics and play engaging games with my guests. But we’re not just about entertainment; fashion is also our forte through HOL, our clothing brand. HOL takes street fashion, adds a touch of chic couture, and makes it accessible. We believe in embracing yourself through fashion—whether it’s cute and chill, cozy yet stylish for work, or comfy and sexy.
What sets us apart is our commitment to being a company and clothing brand for everyone, regardless of gender, race, orientation, or background. We aim to create something special for everyone involved—viewers, consumers, and our collaborators. Our company is all about pushing boundaries, creating new norms, and starting movements.
We don’t just entertain; we inspire, connect, unite, and empower people. I’m thrilled about our Summer ’24 launch and eager to connect with people at our upcoming Launch event (stay tuned for the date on my Instagram on May 1st). Whether you join us there or follow us on social media, where we’ll be sharing videos, fun interviews, and more, I hope to see you engaging with Head Bitch Productions.
Instagram: HeadBitchProductions
YouTube: Head Bitch Productions
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
I believe my perseverance and ambition have profoundly influenced my journey. Knowing myself well has instilled a deep sense of belief and trust in my abilities. This self-awareness enables me to gauge how hard to push myself, driven by my desire for greatness, change, and a fulfilling life. It keeps me focused and resolute on my goals, navigating through life’s challenges with confidence and intuition. A skill that has greatly impacted my journey is my ability to read people, which goes hand and hand with self-awareness. By being attuned to myself, my surroundings, and energy, I’ve honed the art of understanding people. I can decipher body language, energies, and thoughts—not through superpowers, but through observation and learning human behavior. Recognizing that everyone is unique, I tailor my approach in different interactions, be it in work, business, or social settings, enhancing my ability to navigate life’s complexities.
Furthermore, having an open mind and a kind heart has been instrumental in my journey as well. While I hold my beliefs and values, I prioritize understanding others’ perspectives. Listening to diverse viewpoints not only enriches my understanding but also fosters mutual learning and common ground. Coupled with a compassionate outlook, treating others as I wish to be treated has facilitated meaningful connections and positive impressions. Embracing differences while seeking common aspirations like happiness, success, and peace has allowed me to forge impactful relationships and leave a positive mark on others.
Ultimately, the willingness to understand, listen, and treat others with kindness has been instrumental in my journey. It has facilitated learning, meaningful connections, and a positive reputation. By striving to comprehend diverse viewpoints and fostering empathy, I’ve made strides in both personal growth and building impactful relationships. This mindset not only opens doors but also leaves a lasting positive impact, even in rooms I haven’t yet entered.
What would you advise – going all in on your strengths or investing on areas where you aren’t as strong to be more well-rounded?
I believe this question is situational. Generally, focusing on your strengths can be advantageous because you’re already proficient in those areas and may not need as much improvement. It’s the easier route since you don’t have to invest as much effort as you would in improving weaker areas. For instance, as a drag performer with a strong background in performance due to years of dance and choreography experience in various styles, I initially concentrated solely on my strengths when I started drag. However, drag encompasses more than just performance, especially in places like LA where looks are paramount. Despite being a fashion sketch designer, I couldn’t initially afford high-quality looks, so I made do with what I had. Yet, in any field or career, one must be open to growth and evolution. Being well-rounded requires exploring beyond your strengths.
Focusing solely on strengths may hinder your progress because certain situations or roles may demand versatility. For instance, while I excelled at performing crowd-pleasers like Beyoncé or Britney songs, I found opportunities in brunch gigs and venues with different demographics. This pushed me to diversify my performances with ballads or comedic songs, showcasing my adaptability.
I also realized the importance of enhancing my appearance. Initially criticized for certain outfit choices or wig quality, I invested time and effort into elevating my looks. I didn’t want to be pigeonholed as just a lip-sync performer; I aimed to be a versatile queen, strong both on stage and the runway.
In conclusion, leveraging strengths can be effective, but to truly excel and evolve, investing in areas of improvement is crucial. Being well-rounded opens doors to diverse opportunities and ensures you’re prepared for any challenge or role that comes your way.
Contact Info:
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jay_hbic/.
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@jaydah.b.i.c1421
- Other: Company Instagram https://www.instagram.com/headbitchproductions/
