Meet Sandy Bartlett

We were lucky to catch up with Sandy Bartlett recently and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Sandy, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?

I am a work in progress…aren’t we all? I am an introvert and consider myself a shy person. Most people don’t believe me when I tell them this because they have seen me in leadership roles. This is very much learned behavior for me. I have always had a drive to be a better version of myself including seeking advancement in positions – whether it was when I was working in paid corporate positions or in volunteer organizations. I am a life-long learner and am always learning something and taking courses for improvement – both personal and professional improvement. As I think about it, I never considered myself confident however as I look back on my life, there was confidence there, I just chose when to utilize it. The more I learn about myself through trainings I’ve taken as a coach, the more I realize that confidence and self-esteem has always been there however I’ve allowed my people pleasing tendencies to overshadow the confidence and self-esteem. As I continue to learn more about myself those people pleasing behaviors are taking a backseat and the confidence becomes more prominent.

Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?

I work with women experiencing their second spring standing at the crossroads of change. I help them reclaim their soul so they wake up every day excited, confident and fulfilled.

My journey began when my first husband decided he no longer wanted to be married. Rather than owning his part, he made the statement that I no longer needed him. I told him I still needed him, I just needed him differently. He still walked away.

When a friend dragged me to a singles event – someone asked me what I liked to do and I did not know what to say. It was at that moment I realized my entire entity was wrapped up in being who everyone else expected me to be.

I kept repeating that pattern over and over – in friend relationships, love relationships and work relationships. I felt like a chameleon – doing what everyone else wanted or expected me to do or be. I would say yes when I wanted to say no.

I grew tired of always being told who and what to be feeling like my voice didn’t matter and wearing a different mask depending on who I was with rather than being my true self.

It’s now my passion and my mission to help other women become their best self and recognize the worth they were born with.

I love working with women and helping them uncover their authentic self. As women we are raised to be nurturing however what typically happens is we take care of everyone else’s needs and not ourself. We are last on our own list, if we are on our own list at all. We feel guilty for doing anything for ourselves. Self-care is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. I know it sounds cliche however the saying is true – you can’t pour from an empty cup.

I’m in the process of launching a new workshop called “Redefining Me: A Workshop for Women Crafting their Next Chapter”. It’s about helping women discovering who they really are and how they got there but more importantly, where they want to go next.

This workshop is just a starting point. At the same time, I’m about to launch my new offering called “Second Spring Awakening: Cultivating Self-Renewal”. This is a 6 month coaching program designed to help women find themselves. I utilize a mix of spiritual divination tools like tarot, pendulum dowsing, and tapping along with 1:1 coaching techniques. My coaching is intuitive and designed based on the individual needs of each client.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

Great question!

Number 1 for me I would say is being a life-long learner. I am curious at heart and want to learn more about new ideas I hear – particularly when it comes to spiritual things. I often wish I knew then what I know now although I am also a believer that everything happens for a reason. Being retired from my corporate life has allowed me the opportunity and time to learn more about divination tools like pendulum dowsing, tarot, reiki, tapping, etc.

Number 2 is being willing to try new things and take risks. This sort of goes hand in hand with the first one. I don’t shy away from new technology, I’m willing to put myself out there and try new things. Most recently was writing my first solo book and putting my face on the cover large as life. It became a best seller on Amazon within the first week and I’m now planning more books.

Number 3 I would say is learning from challenges. I don’t like to use the word mistake or problem because I believe everything is a learning opportunity. I heard someone say recently you are either winning or learning and if you are always learning you are always winning. This is my new mantra.

My advice for those early in their journey is don’t ever give up and don’t let someone else tell you who or what you should be. You get to define life on your terms and be who and what you want to be. Put in the effort and take one step at a time.

Any advice for folks feeling overwhelmed?

When I feel overwhelmed I lean into it, take a break, breathe and meditate. I have a healthy morning routine that is one of my non-negotiables. Each morning I take ‘me’ time in our spare room – aka My Zen Den – and meditate, read a daily devotion, journal and sometimes do self-reiki and/or tapping. This has helped me so much. It sets the tone for my day. This is one of those things that I truly wish I’d learned to take the time to do when I was working in corporate.

I no longer stress about ‘getting everything done’. I know focus on the present and what feels good in the moment. If my husband wants to go for a walk, I say let’s do it and walk away from whatever I’m working on.

I have adopted the mindset that whatever is meant to be will be and it will happen when it’s supposed to. Another favorite mantra is “everything always works out for me”. This has helped with not getting worked up over something not going the way I wanted it to. Even when it comes to launching a new course or offer – it will happen when it happens.

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