We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Mary Piasecki a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Mary, so great to be with you and I think a lot of folks are going to benefit from hearing your story and lessons and wisdom. Imposter Syndrome is something that we know how words to describe, but it’s something that has held people back forever and so we’re really interested to hear about your story and how you overcame imposter syndrome.
When I first started looking into becoming a doula it was overwhelming. And I didn’t feel capable of walking along people I had never met. But the more I learned about birth and the more births I attended the more I realized people just want to be heard. Sometimes birth is unpredictable and that’s ok. As long as you have a seat at the table – you feel empowered. And that’s my goal. To help women feel heard. I just remember what I wanted and needed in labor and try to provide that.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
I’ve been a professional Doula based in Mid-Michigan since 2017. I am a mom, wife, and author. I believe in being a good friend and supporting women in every area of their lives. Motherhood specifically holds a special place in my heart. I have been a doula since 2018. I have attended over 98 births in that time. I have been to homes, hospitals, and birth centers. I do not believe there is one particular way to birth a baby. How you choose to birth your baby is not my business. I am here to make sure you have all of you options, and are heard! If your birth takes an unforeseen turn I will be there to support and guide you! Since having my third baby I take a limited number of clients but I do offer a one on one birth planning consultation service!
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
I think being a doula is a calling. It is not easy. Losing sleep voluntarily is a choice that comes with a price. I am empathetic and I love helping people.
I try to learn something at every birth and I keep a journal to remember things I’ve learned. I enjoy learning different techniques and position ideas from things like spinning babies but you can’t learn empathy and the power of listening
Learn about birth. Talk to other experienced doulas and see the pros and cons of what it takes. It’s the best job in the world but it does come with a cost.
Alright so to wrap up, who deserves credit for helping you overcome challenges or build some of the essential skills you’ve needed?
Having a support system of my own has been the most vital. My husband is behind my business 110%! He is always willing to accommodate our schedule if I have to run to a birth. Planning our life 9 months in advance all the time can be difficult but we do it together. Having amazing childcare on stand by is another thing that is vital.
I am the co founder of Christian doula’s of Michigan. We are a network of about 20 doulas all over Michigan and we help each other so so much. We can vent, get wisdom and a listening ear. We help with resources and referrals and provide vital backup support.
Life is unpredictable and we do our best to make it to every brith but we are also aware that sometimes it just can’t work knowing our clients are in good hands is critical.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://Marykeithpiasecki.com
- Instagram: Marykeithpiasecki
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Kaitlyn Kellie photo
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