Meet Michele Locke

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Michele Locke. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Michele below.

Hi Michele, thank you so much for opening up with us about some important, but sometimes personal topics. One that really matters to us is overcoming Imposter Syndrome because we’ve seen how so many people are held back in life because of this and so we’d really appreciate hearing about how you overcame Imposter Syndrome.

I hate to say it, but impostor syndrome is a persistent companion in my professional journey — it has never really gone away. Instead, it’s a constant challenge that I have had to learn how to navigate. My approach to handling my imposter syndrome has evolved over time. At the very core of my approach is simply to keep moving forward, putting one foot in front of the other, working hard to be prepared, and knowing that I just have to go do it. This persistence is driven by a deep-seated need to continue working, growing, improving, and excelling at whatever task is in front of me.

Impostor syndrome thrives on self-doubt, but it can also catalyze continuous improvement. Balancing the logical mind with gut instincts helps in managing these feelings. While my head might be filled with doubts, my gut often reassures me that I am capable. This internal battle between head and gut is a driving force, pushing me to hone my skills and trust in my abilities. My job isn’t one where I can second-guess myself often; my work in family law demands that I think and act quickly in the moment.

Ultimately, overcoming impostor syndrome is about grit and determination to get the job done and understanding that sometimes it’s okay to feel like an impostor. Oftentimes the imposter syndrome drives me to do better. My concerns and desires to truly help my clients helps drive me past that imposter syndrome because I have to do my best in order for my clients and their children to have the best possible outcomes. It’s a sign that I constantly challenge myself and strive to improve. By continuously putting in the effort, learning from each experience, and trusting my instincts, personal and professional growth is inevitable. I was fortunate enough to be able to use the Imposter Syndrome to help me get to where I am today.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

As a family law attorney and former Family Law Associate Court Judge, my work for the past 22 years has revolved around family dynamics and the judicial process. What makes my work special is its profound impact on people’s lives. I am passionate about improving family dynamics and protecting children from the repercussions of turbulent childhoods resulting from turbulent divorces and breakups of families. Family law has allowed me to practice law while expressing my passion and humanity.

One of the unique aspects of my work is that it is never black and white. It involves navigating complex emotional landscapes and finding solutions that prioritize the well-being of my clients and their children. Whether it’s resolving custody battles or advocating for survivors of abuse, my goal is to create a sense of security and peace for my clients while they go through contentious and lengthy litigation.

What I love is that I can dedicate time and resources to education and mentorship in addition to my time spent in the Court. I am grateful for having the opportunity to work with young lawyers, sharing my knowledge and experiences to help them navigate the complexities of the legal system. I aim to empower the next generation of lawyers to approach their work with compassion and a commitment to justice.

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

Reflecting on my journey, I realize three essential qualities have shaped my career: resilience, empathy, and a commitment to continuous learning.

Resilience has been crucial in navigating family law’s challenges and emotional toll. The nature of my work often involves dealing with complex, volatile, and distressing situations. Developing resilience has allowed me to handle these challenges without becoming overwhelmed. For those starting their journey, building resilience means learning to manage stress, maintain a positive outlook, and stay focused on long-term goals despite setbacks. This has not been a perfect journey. There are times where my work has taken a toll on my mental and physical health. Part of my success has been learning when I need to take a time out and reset. In some instances it has taken a peer or close friend to remind me to take a break.

Empathy is another vital quality. Family law requires a deep understanding of the human experience and the ability to connect with clients personally. Empathy enables me to advocate effectively for my clients and ensure their voices are heard. Empathy involves actively listening to others, engaging in reflective practices, and putting yourself in your client’s shoes. This approach improves client relationships and leads to more compassionate and effective legal representation.

Continuous learning is essential in a field as dynamic as law. The legal landscape constantly evolves, and staying informed about changes and advancements is crucial. Throughout my career, I have prioritized ongoing education, whether through formal courses, seminars, or self-study. Those early in their careers should adopt a mindset of lifelong learning. Seek opportunities for professional development, stay updated on legal trends, and be open to new ideas and approaches. You never are too old to learn. You are also never so experienced that there isn’t room for growth.

These three pillars have been foundational to my success. For those beginning their journey, focusing on developing these qualities will enhance their professional capabilities and enable them to make a meaningful impact in their field. They can build a fulfilling and impactful career by embracing challenges, understanding others, and staying informed.

What was the most impactful thing your parents did for you?

Reflecting on my upbringing, I see that three pivotal actions by my parents significantly shaped my path and instilled invaluable lessons. Ironically, the most pivotal moment for me was my parent’s divorce. I am thankful every single day that my mother divorced my father. Their divorce taught me resilience and independence at a young age. Navigating the complexities of a broken family structure helped me understand the importance of stability and compassion, which later influenced my decision to pursue family law.

Secondly, paradoxically, my father’s stern warning when I was 8 or 9 that he would disown me if I became a lawyer fueled my determination. His extreme opposition made me realize the importance of following my path and convictions, regardless of external approval. It instilled a sense of defiance against familial expectations, reinforcing my resolve to pursue a career where I could make a real difference. Where I could protect someone like my mother who was abused or prevent children from having the same experiences that my brother and I had while visiting my father’s house.

Lastly, my mother’s unwavering advice to never depend on a man for anything and to prioritize education has been an absolute cornerstone of my life. I will never forget her holding my chin in her hand one afternoon after I had come home from 2nd grade and looking me in the eyes and saying “Michele, you never depend on a man for anything and you get an education.” Her encouragement to seek independence through knowledge and self-sufficiency empowered me to strive for excellence in my career. This guidance shaped my values and work ethic, driving me to excel academically and professionally.

My mom’s and my stepdad’s lessons and examples continue to guide my approach to law and life, driving me to support others in overcoming their challenges and achieving their goals. There are never enough thank yous that I can give them that would be enough for what they have provided to me in life lessons. My mom’s strength to leave my father was the first necessary step in helping define who I am today. Thank you, Mom.

Though seemingly harsh at times, my parents’ actions gave me the resilience, determination, and independence needed to succeed in my career. These experiences shaped my outlook and influenced my mission in family law to advocate for those without a voice to ensure their voices are heard and protected within the parameters that family law provides. They challenged me to become a force for positive change for those who are bullied or abused by their partners and families and fight for a safe and equal environment for all individuals.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.michelelocke.com/
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michele-locke/