Meet Ellie Curry

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Ellie Curry a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Ellie, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?

I used to think confidence was something you either had or didn’t have. That if I wanted to become confident I would have to become someone I wasn’t. So I searched for confidence outside of myself. I would become who I thought people wanted me to be instead of embracing who I actually was. Then I realized, I was doing it all wrong. The more I was able to embrace my authentic self, confront the self-judgment I held, and practice kindness toward myself the more confident I became. When I learned how to motivate myself with compassion I was able to start taking steps outside my comfort zone and going after my goals which also then built my confidence in my skillsets and abilities!

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

When I was 23 I got my first job out of college thinking my life was finally beginning. However, in reality, I was spiraling. I didn’t enjoy my job, I started to struggle with depression, and I didn’t see how I could change my life. Then I found life coaching. It was a beautiful mix of learning how to build confidence and take action on my goals. I realized I wanted to help other women grow their confidence so I became certified and founded the company Own Your You.

Own Your You started with life coaching services and has evolved into a resource to help women with different areas of their self-growth journey. I designed a signature roadmap (called the Own Your Confidence Method) that breaks down the different steps to growing your confidence. And now I create different resources including workbooks, journals, meditations, etc. making growing your confidence affordable and manageable.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

My mindset has been the foundation of everything I have learned about growing my confidence. Learning how to take control of my thoughts and transform them so they are loving, supportive, and kind.

Emotional regulation has been another important aspect of growing my confidence. Learning how to validate my emotions, label them, and allow myself to feel them has helped me with stress management, and embracing happiness.

Breaking up with self-judgment has been essential to learning how to embrace myself with kindness and love. Learning how to judge my actions and emotions has helped me build my confidence. It has helped me embrace being able to make mistakes and allowing myself to try new things without the fear of beating myself up for not doing those actions “correctly.”

All three of these skills combined have become essential to my Own Your Confidence Method and helping other women learn to love who they are and build their confidence.

Awesome, really appreciate you opening up with us today and before we close maybe you can share a book recommendation with us. Has there been a book that’s been impactful in your growth and development?

It’s Not Always Depression by Hilary Jacobs Hendel

In her book, she teaches how to process through your emotions through a technique she calls the change triangle. She explains that we have core emotions that if we have not been taught to feel we then experience inhibitory emotions (shame, anxiety, guilt, etc.), and when we struggle to process and feel our inhibitory emotions we numb out in some way (smoking, eating, etc.)

She talks about the importance of allowing yourself to experience your core emotions and how to move through the change triangle so you don’t have to numb out your emotions.

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