Meet Tara Walker

We were lucky to catch up with Tara Walker recently and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Tara, really appreciate your meeting with us today to talk about some particularly personal topics. It means a lot because so many in the community are going through circumstances where your insights and experience and lessons might help, so thank you so much in advance for sharing. The first question we have is about divorce and how you overcame divorce and didn’t allow the trauma of divorce to derail your vision for your life and career.

Much like my now deceased father, on September 19, 2009, I married someone almost exactly like him. Unfortuneately my father spewd out negative words to me on a consistant basis, and my ex-husband did the same thing, using the exact same words. Something personal that I shared with my ex-husband, he then in turn used it against me. I dealt with, and on a very regular basis, domestic abuse, which consisted of mental, emotional, verbal. I was constantly made to feel like I was imprisoned because I had to show up and sit beside him on the front row as “the deacon’s wife” many Sundays forcing a smile for the sake of appearance, to not make him look bad. All the while behind closed doors, he was a complete devil. It was litteraly like being married to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I hated pretending, but he would always threaten to tell my personal business, if I told ours to anyone. He lied to others about what was going on, making it seem as though I was mistreating him, and it could not be an further from the truth.

After a long journey of these unfortunate circumstances, I was made aware of clear information concerning him. These revelations were right in my face the whole time, but I was very naive. On our second seperation from each other, I finally filed for divorce. I decided it was time to find my voice again, and to get back to myself. I realized this was not the life God had for me. God did not create his precisous daugthers to sit in marriages where they are constantly abused. No one can convince me otherwise.

Now I must say this, and I always do when I testify about my first marriage. I like to explain my fault as well. My fault was not ahering to all the (red flags) I was seeing and experiencing with this person. Never ever ignore the red flags! I saw them before I said “I do”, God was showing me these real things, but I thought I knew what was best for me. I was under a strong dilusion, that once we got married everything would get better. I could not be more wrong, everything became worse.

Once the divorce was final, I didn’t go straight into healing, as a matter of fact it was the opposite. I tried to fill a void of not being loved/treated properly, but I kept making mistakes in choosing the wrong people. I developed a habbit of choosing narcissistic men. They all had their different narcissistic attributes, but they all ended the same. These men were totally sweet in the beginning to lure me in. Then after a few months, they flipped the switch again, just like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

After a few years of this behavior, God called me into an isolation from everthing and everyone. I got off of social media, and I stopped talking over the phone a lot. I cut many so-called friends off, but I kept talking with one individual. I fasted, prayed, and read my bible daily for close to a year consistantly. I had never before been in a close relationship with God the father like that. However God revealed some things about the individual I was in communication with. What God revealed left me devistated and suicidal. I begged God to take my life in my sleep for two weeks due to what this individual did. However, God told me he could not take me right now, because he has plans for me, and things for me to do on this earth.

This place of isolation is where I received my healing (the first time). I would later in life experience this again on a deeper level. However it was in this place where God told me how precious I was to him. How I deserve to be with the man that he chooses for me, because he doesn’t make mistakes. He told me to hold on to his promises, and that he would answer my prayer to remarry again to the right person that he chose for me. God healed my mind from the suicidle state, and how I thought about myself. He reversed the word curses and told me I was not unworthy, or unloved, and everything else that was a lie spoken over me. God told me no one will ever love me more than him, and that I am and forever will be his daughter. He healed me, and in this place I found my resilience. It was in the place of isolation where I overcame my divorce.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

I am now the leader of an online ministry called Receive and Relate. The ministry is primarily on You Tube. We also have a TikTok, Instagram and Facebook page. On September 1, 2024, I became a self-published author. I still cannot believe that. It is really surreal. This is my memoir. It is the story of the first part of my life. Part two (God-willing) will be released next year in 2025. I am very excited about my book, as I pray that it inspires others to tell their own story. Whether that is verbally or written. God told me he wants me to be a voice for the voiceless. I also just received an email this morning that Receive and Relate is now approved to be trademarked, so am also thrilled abou that. I’m looking forward to more excited endeavors.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

1) I would first suggest that you never lose yourself. Do not allow someone to ever make you feel less-than. To know your worth in any relationship, whethever romantic, frienship, or family. Allow God to reveal to you how he made you which is perfect in his eyes, so that you will not receive anything different from anyone else.

2) Find your voice and purpose. Each of you have a purpose and something to do in this life that will bring an impact to others.

3) Remain humble, honest, trustworthy and transparent. When you tell your story, also tell the part you played in it also. This is imperative for your healing journey. “People receive when they can relate”®

What’s been one of your main areas of growth this year?

The biggest area of growth for me in the past 12 months is consistancy and determination. That it what I developed writing my memoir. I pushed to make sure I finished. I have started and not completed so many other things in the past, but this (along with school) was something I knew I could not stop. I knew I had to finish writing this book, not just for me but for others. It’s bigger than me.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.receiveandrelate.com
• Instagram: @receiveandrelatetv
• Facebook: @receiveandrelate
• Twitter: @tarthetruth
• Youtube: @receiveandrelatetv
• Other: tiktok:@receiveandrelate

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