Meet J Marcellas Williams

Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to J Marcellas Williams. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Hi J Marcellas, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?

I come from a family that did not have a lot of money. My mother and father raised eight children with very little. There were days that the lights were off and there was no food in the refrigerator. There were other days where we would come home and all of our things would be out on the side of the curb because we were being put out and we would have to walk our things to the next best place because we did not have a vehicle. It was rough. But through all of those constant struggles my mother and father never left us. They never gave up. They kept trying. They kept working and they kept moving forward. They would argue a lot which most couples that are experiencing such hardships do, but they always showed each of us endless love. The lights may have been off but my father was out trying to make some money to get them turned back on and my mother made sure we ate and took us to grandma’s house to bathe. Then Mom, created such a fun night of games and learning to make us not focus on the lights being off and by the time night fell we were tired and it was time to go to sleep. They were and still are my examples of resilience. I don’t have quit in me. Hardships don’t rattle me they strengthen me. If they did it with taking care of themselves and eight children with very little then I can make it through this.

Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?

My wife and I have been married since 2006 (18 years October 2024) and it’s been an amazing rollercoaster ride. We have been counseling couples for the past 15 years. We are passionate about it. Neither of us grew up with great examples of a successful marriage modeled before us. Marquita’s parents were together for years had three children, never married and eventually gave her and her siblings up to family members to raise when Marquita was only 2 years old. My parents are still married after 40 plus years but they lived a violent and abusive marriage throughout my childhood. As we were preparing to get married we both new that we would need some help. Our counselor was horrific. At that time they had never been married and had no children. Needless to say they had very little to offer. But we knew that we desperately needed some guidance less we would inevitably reenact they only thing we knew which is what we were raise in. So we sought out counseling from a couple online. We bought their video series and went through it ourselves. From then on we became determined to help other couples to gain the necessary tools needed to have a successful and enjoyable relationship. We do couples retreats, couples counseling and relationship seminars.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

The three most important qualities that has helped me along my journey has been Knowing my purpose, never quitting and knowing my worth and value. In short, it’s embodying self confidence. Knowing your purpose is where it starts. This prevents you from meandering through life wasting time hoping you are doing the right thing. It is also how you can gain the discipline to never quit because you are sure of what you are to be doing. This allows you to quiet all of the noise around you, diminishes your desire to follow the crowd and motivates you when times get rough. Know where you are going and don’t quit until you get there no matter what. Lastly, along your journey you will have to battle people not taking you serious, taking advantage of you, selling you short, using you or belittling who you are. But what keep you strong is knowing your own worth and value and becoming and advocate for yourself. Fight for you when and if no one else does. You will have a hard time fighting for you if you do not truly believe you are worth fighting for. This belief comes from within, not without.

What would you advise – going all in on your strengths or investing on areas where you aren’t as strong to be more well-rounded?

When it comes to business, I think it is better to go all in on your strengths. But that doesn’t mean to neglect your weaknesses. What you are good at and strong in is your drawing card. It is why people are attracted to you. It is what will cause money to flow your way. So definitely weigh in on your strengths all day everyday. On the other hand, your weaknesses can be counter productive and can be the reason for your downfall and can block your success. So my advice is to first realize that no one is ever successful alone. Partnership, collaboration and team effort must be the norm. With this in mind, be strategic and wise enough to stack your team with people who are strong in the areas where you are weak. Admit to yourself and maybe even them that this is a weak area for you then let them lead in this area. Put your pride and ego to bed and trust that you made the right decision to place this person in the right position and applaud them for being your balance.

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