Meet Myra Toribio

 

We were lucky to catch up with Myra Toribio recently and have shared our conversation below.

Hi MYRA, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?

Growing up I have always been a “BIG” girl. My Mama said that at the age of 6 months I just blew up and I have stayed that way. In my household I was never treated differently so I did not really see my weight as a huge issue. I was active and I did not overeat as many people would have you believe overweight people do. It was as I was preparing for Junior High School and was really starting to notice boys that I realized that society did not see me as pretty. I was seen as a pretty fat girl. And boys did not like pretty fat girls. In my household my parents always made sure that I felt beautiful and I was just as good as anyone else. I remember from a very early age they instilled that into me, and if the only thing bad someone could say about me was that I was fat tell me something that I didn’t already know. I was raised to respect everyone and to treat others like I want to be treated. So for that reason I never saw myself any less pretty than anyone else because of my weight. My parents always told me that I was beautiful and I felt like they did not have a reason to lie to me. I carried this all through life even until now. As I have gotten older I also realized that your heart and how you treat others is where the real beauty comes from. Within the last several years I have lost 100lbs on my own. I have not been treated any differently because I was never really picked on about my weight. (at least not to my face.) I make every effort that I can in my daily life to pay someone a compliment or like their picture on social media because everyone did not have the support in the background like I did and still do. Social Media gives people a distorted view of themselves and I make sure to always cheer whomever it is on because it cost nothing to be kind. Thanks Mama and Daddy!

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

I work as a Spiritual Life Coach and Intuitive Reader. I started my business Intuitive Readings By Myra back in 2017 after I finally came out of the closet and let people know that this Black girl really does have magic. (Chuckles) I have always been in the realm of some capacity of helping people find their way. Prior to starting my business I was a Case Manager for over 20 years. So everything has really played out for me as it should have I think. I love working with my clients to help them find answers and give them a different perspective on life in general. Sometimes that comes from Spirit/Source/God/Universe or sometimes just my own life experience. I am so thankful to be able to create a safe space for my clients to be seen and heard because there are so many of us that don’t have that privilege. I take my job very seriously weather it’s flipping a few cards for clarity or helping people with some life changing events. Everybody needs guidance and my clients range from Physicians and Attorneys to just your everyday working people. I even have a Pastor as a client and I felt really validated when he reached out for my services because most religious leaders speak on people as myself and say we are going to hell for using the gift that in my case GOD gave me.
One morning about a month ago I felt in my spirit that I needed to start making jewelry. I was already making natural soaps, candles and Shea Butter so this took me quite by surprise. I taught myself how to make pendants, earrings and other pieces and that led to my second business MWL By Myra (made with love by Myra). I find the process of creating something really special and it makes my heart smile to see other people enjoying my products and creations.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

For me the main quality that has helped me is having empathy for people and their situations. Also paying attention to details and being organized. Sometimes the smallest details are the most important and we have to train ourselves to pay attention to those so that the really big mistakes aren’t made in life or at work. If you are just starting out on your journey of life or even your career it is so important listen and pay attention to details. There has been many times during my journey that I thought oh I already know that or my way will work better and ended up making some mistakes. Never think because you are coming from a better situation that you can’t be taught something. Having empathy for others and just listening has gotten me a lot of opportunities that I may not have received. Sometimes you have to bite your tongue even when you’re right to see the bigger picture.

What’s been one of your main areas of growth this year?

My biggest area of growth has been to accept people for who they are and not who I want them to be. I tend to wear rose colored glasses where others are concerned and that has gotten my feelings hurt this year. Not a lot thankfully but it has affected some key relationships in my life that I neve thought would end. I love family and friends who are like family. Unfortunately this year I found out that some of those people that I held near and dear really did not take care of my feelings in the same way. I was so hurt because these are people that I never thought I would be without. Like ride or die kinds of friends. But once I moved through my pain of the issue I was able to see that sometimes people are a lifetime and some are for a season. Even if that season lasted for 20 plus years. I know that I did everything I could to nurture our relationship and in my opinion did not do anything wrong. The situation has not made me sour or bitter I am still open to meeting and making new friends, but I am no longer attached to people and things like I once was.

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