Meet Monet Foxx

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Monet Foxx a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Monet, so great to be with you and I think a lot of folks are going to benefit from hearing your story and lessons and wisdom. Imposter Syndrome is something that we know how words to describe, but it’s something that has held people back forever and so we’re really interested to hear about your story and how you overcame imposter syndrome.

As far back as I can remember, I was a people pleaser. I wanted to make sure everyone was laughing, felt comfortable, and that they liked me. It was a nagging responsibility that I gave to myself, likely because I did not feel supported or ‘seen’ within my own family. I had gone through most of my adult life trying to accommodate others while I was never really satisfied with myself. Although I have always had an ambitious spirit, I lacked clarity and discipline. I never understood how to be fully committed because this was not taught in my home. As a teenager, I was made to feel weird and out of place because of my natural curiosity coupled with the fact that most of my interests were not topics that were taught in the Bible. I teetered back and forth with the idea of religion for years and wanted to make sense of the things that didn’t make sense to me. As I got older, I recognized that the way most religions were structured had more to do with control, rather than any creative or individual expression. After many years of indecision, I finally decided to leave the church. My family disowned me and the community I was raised in no longer spoke to me. Initially, I blamed myself and felt that I just wasn’t good enough to maintain their love. I was depressed and cried a lot during that time. The sadness became anger and I began to isolate myself. To add to this depressed state I was also in a dead-in relationship. It was a devastating time. I felt that the only two options that I had were to either be alone and unloved or to be unhappy and unfulfilled. Despite all of this I had always given myself the notion that God was a forgiving God. Even if my family could not forgive me and move forward, I knew that God did. This was when a light turned on for me. As I contemplated what I would do with my life I began to read books on the mind and how we were able to change the wiring within us. One book that helped me tremendously was “What Happened to You?” by Bruce D. Perry, MD., Ph. D., and Oprah Winfrey. The title is what caught my attention initially. I had been asked so many times what was wrong with me, I felt that understanding what had happened to me was more relatable. Especially since I didn’t have anyone around me who supported me at that time. That book gave me great insight into how our pasts can shape us and determine how we function even in our adult lives. I began to seriously consider who I truly was and what made me happy. It was at this point that I understood that my life was more valuable than the value I had been placing on it. I owed it to myself and to my son to do better and to be more.
This was when the real work started for me and I took action. I discovered Dr. Joe Dispenza and Billy Carson who both spoke about the power of the mind, our body’s ability to change its frequency/vibration, and that “everything is energy.” I attended a conference on the West Coast, hosted by Lisa Nichols on becoming a Speaker & Writer. It was out in L.A. that I had my first major breakthrough. It was extremely emotional but I finally allowed myself to be vulnerable enough to talk about what I had been going through. I cried so much that weekend that my jaws actually hurt. All the pain, the aching in my heart, the sadness around no longer having a healthy relationship with my mother, staying in a relationship that was going nowhere, and having no one to talk to about it, all came to the front. It was time for me to release the energy I had held onto for so long but somehow still wanted to protect. Less than a year later, I walked away the relationship I had been in and decided to take a Lifetime Mastery Achievers Course. This course allowed me to identify my limiting beliefs around love/relationships, money/wealth and gave me the courage to determine how I wanted to show up in the world. A few months into that course I traveled to Peru for spiritual healing and to gain clarity on my life. It was in Peru that another shift happened. I realized that throughout all of the things I had gone through to that point, I was still fighting to overcome it all. I was beginning to recognize my inner strength. I developed an intense desire to help others overcome their challenges. Particularly for women and young girls who didn’t have supportive people in their lives. I decided to take a coaching course. I am proud to say that today I am a TCA Certified Transformational coach. I was also introduced to RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy). I understood the power of hypnosis and that learning this skill would allow me to help on a faster, deeper, and longer-lasting level. These trials and the journey that I trekked have blessed me with a supremely strong sense of myself. There is no longer an imposter trying to please everyone except herself. I have learned to set boundaries and offer myself praise, love, and grace. I know that offering myself praise gives me the freedom to no longer seek it from others. I am enough!

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

I am building awareness about my coaching/therapy business. I launched a global initiative titled, “E.C.H.O.Love” (Education. Community. Hope. Opportunity. in Love). My mission for this initiative is to build awareness around our universal need for Self-Love. I offer group coaching sessions, facilitate live interactive workshops, and provide one-on-one coaching. I am focused on building the ECHOLove Brand and creating opportunities to speak on this topic in forums around the globe. My strongest hope is to begin my family’s legacy on Love. (website: www.monetfoxx.com) (IG: @only1mofoxx)

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

1. Grace. I didn’t understand what that word even meant before someone told me it was what I needed to offer myself. It means forgiving yourself, eliminating the shame you are made to feel, and loving yourself immensely.
2. Patience. Value has nothing to do with time. Identify what specific strengths allow you to value yourself and that may provide value for others and work on developing those things. Stay committed to yourself and don’t rush the process.
3. Honesty/Integrity. The more you tell yourself the truth about yourself, the more improvements you will make on yourself. Not one single being on this planet is perfect so we must get over trying to be something we are not. Don’t deny who you are. Take an honest look at your present self and circumstances, and gain clarity on where you want to be. The journey in between is yours to experience.

Who has been most helpful in helping you overcome challenges or build and develop the essential skills, qualities or knowledge you needed to be successful?

I would have to give this credit to my son. He has been my biggest reason ‘WHY’ throughout this entire journey for me. I want to be and do better and have more because of him. Before I ever thought that I was worthy, I knew that he was. He encourages me to continue on. He expresses how proud of me that he is. His heart is big and strong. I want him to have every good thing that he desires. I hope to put him in a position to accomplish all of his goals. He is my driving force.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.monetfoxx.com
• Instagram: @only1mofoxx
• Facebook: Mo Foxx
• Linkedin: Monet Foxx