We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Sharon Well a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Sharon, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Developing my confidence and self-esteem definitely took me awhile. Growing up, my attempt to meet my parent’s expectations was nearly impossible. I then developed a trait of people pleasing, that was my worst enemy. This caused my identity to be found within people’s acknowledgements and approval. Everything I achieved was led by how people will perceive me or what I am going to prove to my parents. That whole perception caused my gifts and talents to be laid dormant. I held myself back so much. The voice of criticism caused me to reroute many decisions and choices in my life just to “fit in”. I would lie to myself, making up lies after lies on who I am. But now, let’s keep it real…you ready? Please put on your seat belt. One random day in the month of September 2014, I had a supernatural date with destiny. The encounter that I will never forget, a “I was lost but now I’m found” type of moment. This encounter was with Jesus Christ, I have never been so stable in my life after that. Of course, we all go through rough patches, it’s life. But I have never found myself so resilient from hardship and experienced so much peace. It’s a peace that surpasses my human understanding, it’s insane. I experienced a perfect love that this world cannot offer nor can define, you will just have to experience it for yourself type of deal. I searched and searched, but no love was compared to this perfect love from Jesus, He became my main security and foundation. I then learned over time through Jesus to not rely on humans, they will all disappoint you. Psalm 146:3 says “Don’t depend on your leaders for help. Don’t depend on people, because they cannot save you.” So from that moment of truth, I kept renewing my mind with how Jesus sees me rather than the world. I was able to eventually wean myself off of that mindset. Human views and the pressure of society’s expectations suddenly held less weight in my life. I went through a healing process with Jesus after encountering Him. There were a lot of humps needing to be ironed out. From unraveling my childhood wounds to the traumas that scarred my soul. This entire journey I can say is something that is priceless and am so grateful to experience. I am still learning and growing. But I can truly say now, I am whole, healed and unshakable. Not saying there won’t be anymore challenges, nothing is perfect. But I have a source that will back me up to no longer let life take me by surprise. All of this caused me to find purpose and a reason why I am on here on earth. There’s this new flame of fire inside of me that cannot be put out, a fire to impact other’s and to bring this truth to every human being. To whoever is reading this…I want to stand in the gap and apologize on behalf of every single human being that has ever hurt you, I am truly sorry for all that you’ve been through. You are LOVED beyond measure. Please know you that you are RARE and ONE OF A KIND. There’s only one of YOU, you are needed on this earth and you matter. Do not let humans or opinions of this world be the death to your purpose, do what you truly love. I want to impart this love and freedom to you, if you want to invite Jesus into your life, just agree in your heart. God created you and imparted gems inside of you, now go SHINE for God. I am who I am today and I do what I do today is all because of Him.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
Because of my date with destiny, I now found purpose. Hesitation and fear no longer has a hold on me. I have the privilege and honor to birth some platforms that allow my gifts and talents to shine for impact and purpose!
I have a non-profit organization called “Royal Diadem Ministries”, this organization is to bring healing, restoration, counsel and aide to the women and their identity. We cater to abused women, trafficked women, mothers, wives etc. Living in this world and society, we have been conditioned to think our worth is in a certain object, idea, look or status. This deception causes us women to misunderstand and mis-locate where and what our true worth and value lies. Royal Diadem Ministries is here to bring HER back to her true identity and nature of how God originally created us. We hold once a month gatherings for all women to come together to heal, restored and revived.
I make music to heal hearts and souls under “Sharon Well Music”. Music is very special and sacred to me, I choose to share this gift to the world. The world and humans need healing, regardless if it’s one person or a million, I hope my music can touch and heal lives. New music coming soon in 2025!
I also have a great love for beauty, fashion and photography. I am a creative overall and I will embrace all of it!
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
The three qualities that are the most impactful in my journey, I would say forgiveness, humility and unconditional love.
Forgiveness is one of the cures to our wounds and insecurities. We always have the opportunity to forgive but not all the time we will want to. Whatever capacity of pain and hardship we suffered, we tend to gravitate to agony and pain. We are human and yes we have emotions, yet we carry that for so many years. We then find ourselves wasting time as time passes us by and still feel imprisoned with ourselves. Freedom requires forgiveness and forgiveness will set you free from your pain. Sometimes you will not receive the apology or closure that you’re looking for in order for you to forgive. The most important thing is for you to set yourself free from the suffering. The inability to forgive in my experience is a great cause for all sicknesses to sprout, all that stress of holding on does no good to your mental or physical health. Also, the most crucial thing I always tend to forget is forgiving myself. I can be so hard on myself and dwell on my mistakes over and over, it becomes a torment to my mind. I eventually feel imprisoned in the end. But after forgiving myself, I experience a release and relief of pressure and peace takes over. Most importantly, do not forget to forgive yourself. Be gentle with yourself, if you are not nurturing yourself then how much more of life will you be able to go on with an empty tank. It’s time to set yourself free, with or without reason. You are here to exist, make the best out of this life.
Humility is something I had to develop this trait over time and yet still developing. Wait, a lot of people get mixed up with this word “humility” for humiliation. Let me give you the definition to the word “humility”, humility means a modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness. I have seen and experienced myself with all opposites of humility. I had been chewed up, spat out and broken down to bring myself to a humbling position. I listened to no one, I was so full of myself and thought I knew everything. I thought I was “it”, getting full off of people’s compliments and adorations. Nobody could tell me nothing until I fell into a rut. Pride was the death of me. Not until after I met God, I had to face my flaws and my brokenness. I felt like a monster. I had to admit to myself, I don’t know everything. I eventually learned the importance of being teachable, give honor where honor is due, and be open to receive correction. We are ever growing, but the most dangerous thing is when you think you’ve arrived. You can’t grow in life, your family, your business or career, if you don’t have humility. Humility I would say would be one of the key points to success.
Unconditional love is something I have to practice time and time again. Something unconditional requires nothing in return, which is pretty tough being taught the opposite. I came to realize that people will be people and hurt people will hurt people. I had to do some self-inventory and heal in order for me to even consider practicing unconditional love. I had to realize that a lot of times no matter what the circumstances are, majority of the people’s actions are all projections from their brokenness. There’s always a root to a person’s behavior or actions. I never thought I had it even in me to be someone to forgive so easily, yet still have the strength to love the unlovable. The perfect love that I experienced with God transformed me into being an empathetic person for people’s brokenness. It took awhile but I had to learn that my emotions are not always accurate, if I entertained my emotions all the time…I’d probably be locked up. Love is the most deadliest weapon of all time. In this world, most people deep down inside are crying out for help but just don’t know how to help themselves. Love will always be the most powerful cure.
All the wisdom you’ve shared today is sincerely appreciated. Before we go, can you tell us about the main challenge you are currently facing?
My number one challenge for me right now is to discipline myself to make time to rest. I am also a wife and mother as well, so I definitely have duties at home. There’s always something to do and complete on my task list, if it’s not one then it’s the other. Especially when my main priority is to be the best I can be to meet the needs of my family. Rest is so crucial, us mamas need our tanks filled. I am also learning to be more disciplined in stilling my mind. My mind can be going and going, thinking I am so invincible until my body tells me otherwise. Not just our body, but our minds need rest, mental exhaustion is real!. I can take 5 min of deep breaths and being still in pure quietness, that in itself rejuvenates me! We forget sometimes cause all we think about is what’s next on our to-do list. To avoid mental breakdowns and sleep deprivation, we must REST! What I have been doing more lately is to set boundaries with my phone, manage my time better and when to call it a night. Even if I have to drink some magnesium or sleepy tea to make myself sleep. Our battery must be charged!!!
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