We recently connected with Nyla Monastero and have shared our conversation below.
Nyla, thank you so much for joining us today. Let’s jump right into something we’re really interested in hearing about from you – being the only one in the room. So many of us find ourselves as the only woman in the room, the only immigrant or the only artist in the room, etc. Can you talk to us about how you have learned to be effective and successful in situations where you are the only one in the room like you?
Being the only one in the room that looks like me has taught me to embrace and amplify everything that makes me unique. I truly believe that there can never be another “Nyla” who does it like me. I’ve crafted my personal brand around my individuality—red hair, long nails, tattoos, ear piercings, editorial makeup, a slit eyebrow—traits that people often associate with rebellion or nonconformity. Yet, when I step into a room, I bring not only my confidence and intelligence but also a sense of style and professionalism that commands respect.
I’ve always loved the juxtaposition of being stylish and bold while defying expectations. There’s a stereotype that individuals who care about their appearance lack depth or capability, and I love having the opportunity to shatter that illusion. When I speak, it’s like throwing a curveball—people realize I’m not just about looks; I’m knowledgeable, articulate, and capable of elevating the conversation. It’s a powerful reminder that appearances don’t define intellect or professionalism.
I’ve learned to use my unique physicalities to my advantage, turning them into strengths that make me memorable. Whether it’s my fun hairstyles or fresh acrylic sets, I’ve found a way to balance individuality with professionalism, proving that you don’t have to fit into a traditional mold to succeed. I’ve broken the status quo by showing that you can be authentic, daring, and unapologetically yourself while still owning the room with grace, intelligence, and class.
Ultimately, I’ve learned that success isn’t about conforming to anyone else’s idea of what you should look like. It’s about how you educate, elevate, and carry yourself. That’s what people remember, and that’s what makes me effective no matter where I am.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
I’m a recent graduate from Temple University (Class of 2024), where I served as the President of the Temple Advertising Club, Director of Marketing for the Fashion and Business Club, and Vice President of the Beauty Birds Club. Currently, I’m thriving in the public relations industry, where I’ve gained incredible experience working with renowned Philadelphia companies and major events, as well as assisting at New York Fashion Week for multiple seasons. I’m fortunate to have a career that allows me to meet inspiring individuals, build valuable connections, attend wonderful events, and hone my skills in content creation and professional storytelling. Each day feels like an opportunity to step into spaces I never imagined I’d be part of, and I cherish every moment of it.
Beyond PR, I wear many hats as a content creator, stylist, and makeup artist. I find joy in expressing myself creatively. My personal style is influenced by everything from the city’s energy and weather that day, to the music I’m listening to — or a recent movie or show that left an impression on me. For me, fashion, beauty, and music are an extension of my personality and a way to connect with others on a deeper level.
My ultimate goal is to become a creative director, and I’m actively building the foundation for my dreams. I’m currently working on launching my own makeup artist services as well as style consulting services. These ventures allow me to help others embrace their unique beauty and style while pursuing my own creative aspirations.
Through everything I do—whether it’s attending high-profile events, creating content, or experimenting with new looks—I strive to bring authenticity, passion, and creativity to the forefront. I want my work and personal brand to inspire others to break boundaries and embrace who they are with no regrets.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Looking back on my journey, I’d say the three most impactful qualities that shaped my path were fearlessness, being personable/authentic, and staying involved and connected.
Fearlessness taught me to step out of my comfort zone and take risks. Whether it was walking into a room full of strangers or seizing opportunities that seemed intimidating, I reminded myself that growth comes from discomfort. Fear can be paralyzing, but once you face it head-on, it loses its power.
Being personable and authentic has been a cornerstone for building genuine connections. People are naturally drawn to authenticity, and I’ve found that staying true to myself not only helps me stand out but also allows me to thrive in ways that a more conventional approach might not. Staying authentic gives you the freedom to stand out and make a real impression.
Lastly, remaining involved, relevant, and connected has kept me grounded and consistently growing. Networking, maintaining relationships, and staying active at my university and in my industry helped me stay top of mind while also keeping me inspired and informed. These connections open doors, provide support, and offer countless opportunities to collaborate and learn.
My advice to anyone starting their journey is simple: Own who you are and stand on it! Don’t ever change or tone down your personality just to fit someone else’s standard. Your individuality is your superpower. If you choose to water it down, you’ll make the mistake of dimming the light that’s meant to make you shine the brightest.
When it comes to confidence, you’ve got to walk into every room like it’s YOURS. Yes, it can be nerve-wracking at first, but when you’ve put in the work and mastered your craft, step up and show them what you’re made of! And if something doesn’t go perfectly—whether you blank out, stutter, or skip a slide—it’s okay. We’re all human, and no one is expecting perfection. The same people in that room have made mistakes themselves or might not even have the courage to do what you’re doing.
Remember, a small hiccup doesn’t take away from your intelligence, knowledge, or capability. Keep moving forward, and trust that you belong in that space as much as anyone else.
To close, maybe we can chat about your parents and what they did that was particularly impactful for you?
I absolutely love this question because it gives me the opportunity to thank my parents for shaping me into the woman I am today. My mom instilled in me the importance of independence and drive, teaching me to work hard and never rely on anyone else to define my success. On the other hand, my dad sparked my creativity and resilience, always encouraging me to think outside the box and reminding me that no obstacle is too big to overcome.
The most impactful thing they both did for me, though, was teaching me how to stand up for myself. Growing up, I was sensitive, non-confrontational, and often anxious, which made it difficult for me to express my emotions or set boundaries. My parents didn’t push me to change overnight but instead showed unwavering confidence in me, trusting that one day, I’d find my voice and learn to advocate for myself. And they were right—something clicked. I began to understand that my emotions are valid, my thoughts and feelings matter, and I should never let anyone take advantage of me.
Thanks to their guidance, I now carry myself with a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, knowing exactly what I deserve. Their belief in me laid the foundation for the person I’ve become, and for that, I’ll always be grateful.
Contact Info:
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nylamonastero/
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nyla-monastero-871b18221
Image Credits
Christian Orellana Arielle Champion DavidCR Tyji Perkins
