Meet Tori Lubecki

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Tori Lubecki a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Tori, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.

I was born with really high expectations of myself, which is great to have if you aim to be excellent. But these impossibly high expectations actually made me hyper-aware of my flaws and shortcomings. I spent years hating myself and feeling inferior to everyone even though I have always been above average in most of the things I do.

The self loathing came naturally to me and threatened to be a permanent fixture in my life. There is no feeling worse than not liking yourself. It creates so much suffering in our lives and leads to all kinds of coping mechanisms like self-isolating and substance abuse. We will do anything to escape the torture of this feeling. Fortunately, this is also the place from which we have the choice to become the person we came here to be.

I reached my lowest point, but I knew I was meant for great things. I knew I was meant to be of service. We can only rise as high as our roots go deep. The depths of my despair created the conditions for me to learn to love and trust myself. The qualities that make me great were not given to me to stroke my ego. The world needs my medicine and when I operate from this place, rather than from one of ego gratification, there is no reason for me to not be confident. It’s not about me. It is my sacred duty to be a healing balm for humanity and in that mission, I have no time to waste with self doubt.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

I have spent the majority of my life and career inspired by the beauty of the human form and the capacity to defy gravity through dance and acrobatics. My performance career culminated with a decade performing an aerial duet for Cirque du Soleil. After abusing myself through my art for 30 years, my body began to fail me and I was forced to pivot onto a new path, one of nurturing and sustaining the body that got me this far.

My wellness journey lead me to a plant-based diet, yoga, meditation, and finding ways to create art that heals rather than causing further damage.

I live in Las Vegas and teach at Lifetime Fitness and Vibe Yoga as well as work one on one with clients, in person and virtually, to help them achieve their fitness and wellness goals.

I have had my biggest breakthroughs and life transformations while at retreats and yoga teacher trainings, which has lead me to create offerings of my own. This year I have two retreats and one 200 hour yoga teacher training:

Enlighten Up, Luxury Yoga Camp
Joshua Tree, California
April 30-May 4

The Art of Being, Yoga Retreat
Big Island, Hawaii
May 22-30

200 HR YTT, certified by Yoga Alliance
Bali, Indonesia
October 5-26

All the details can be found on my website, www.torilubecki.com or on my social media channels, all under my name: Torilubecki

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

No matter your career path, I think the three most important qualities that will benefit everyone are: being a perpetual student, following your own curiosity, and slowing down to go fast.

Take your time figuring out what you like, and dive deeply into that subject. Learn everything you can about it. And don’t take shortcuts. When you cut a corner, you make two. It’s 10,000 hours to expert in any field, and you have to complete those hours with integrity. If you are willing to do the work, you will succeed. And if you try to jump to the destination without the journey, you will fall short.

Thanks so much for sharing all these insights with us today. Before we go, is there a book that’s played in important role in your development?

The Creative Act by Rick Rubin is a great read if you’re looking for permission to live out loud. Artists often feel compelled to dilute their work or conform to what they think the audience wants to see. But that is not how great art is made. We should be mining along the vein of our own curiosity, working to scratch our own itch because no one knows what other people want and that’s irrelevant anyway. Make the art that you want to make. If you have an idea for a creation, that thing is trying to be born through you. If you don’t make it, someone else will because that ideas time has come.

Rubins points out that we are all artists since we are actively co-creating life with the universe. “The best work is the work you’re excited about.”

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.torilubecki.com
• Instagram: Torilubecki
• Facebook: Tori Lubecki
• Linkedin: Tori Lubecki

Image Credits

Musashi Flores
Vincent Deplanche
Rose Muse
Anastasia Dutova
Guillermo Lugo
Desiree Bargiel