We were lucky to catch up with Alesha Trimble recently and have shared our conversation below.
Alright, so we’re so thrilled to have Alesha with us today – welcome and maybe we can jump right into it with a question about one of your qualities that we most admire. How did you develop your work ethic? Where do you think you get it from?
I grew up with pretty meager beginnings. My parents were blue collar workers in western Kentucky and worked in a local factory in my early childhood. They divorced when I was two, so being single income parents to two kids was challenging. We didn’t have all the “things,” so I started working at 11 years old with my first babysitting gig so that I could have my own money. I’d spend summers with my dad helping him landscape for clients or handing over nails for a carpentry job. I shucked corn and shelled peas on the porch in the evening with the adults. The people in my life always worked, and worked hard only to live paycheck to paycheck.
That kind of upbringing created a drive in me. I didn’t really know any other way than to work. That’s what everyone did. But I wanted more- to learn more, to see more, to do more. I wanted to work at something that mattered to me, not just a daily grind that left my feet sore and my body exhausted.
I used that work ethic and drive to earn an academic scholarship, becoming the first person in my family to graduate from college. I graduated from there with a 3.9 GPA. Because I was the smartest? Not at all, because I worked at it. I tell my kids all the time, ” There will always be someone smarter than you. But you can always be the hardest worker in the room,” (And yes, they roll their eyes). Grit is a huge determinate for success and that humble beginning developed my determination and desire for success.
Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?
I focus my wellness coaching business primarily on helping women recover from divorce. My focus is to move them forward by gaining an understanding of the person. Coaching is a partnership. This is a raw, vulnerable time in their lives and they need someone on their team with their best interests at heart, but is willing to push them when needed. That’s me.
We spend a lot of time in sessions figuring out who they are now and what their dreams and goals look like. We create short and long term goals to get them where they want to be and create a roadmap for that along the way. We focus on healthy co-parenting if children are involved. I guide them through starting a new life and how they can be their happiest, healthiest selves.
Wellness Collective Coaching is truly built from my own life experiences. I believe that to effectively coach, divorce is one of the experiences that is crucial for the coach to have lived. I’m a child of divorce and went through my own about 3 years ago. I can understand the child’s perspective and I know what it’s like to have your entire world turned upside down and manage two kids through that storm. When my clients start to get their feet back under them, feel confident about themselves and hopeful for the future, that is THE most special part of my job.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
1. Experience
Experience in my coaching expertise has been crucial for me. I am passionate about helping women through this difficult time of life. The rollercoaster of divorce and all of the it brought was necessary for success in this field.
2. Active Listening
We often listen to respond. Many times we are formulating our response while the person in front of us is still speaking! Becoming an active listener has been crucial. I have to truly hear them to know how to effectively coach them. There is no blanket method or advice to help someone through divorce. Each individual and journey is completely different. The only way to understand that journey is to listen.
3. Being fearless/confidence
Launching a one-on-one business is not for the faint of heart. It takes time. Sink or swim. You have to believe you can succeed. And that work ethic and grit? It’s crucial.
For folks early in their journey, dig into what really makes you tick. What makes you want to work hard? What drives you? Where is your heart’s passion? Do that. That passion and energy will get you far. Find mentors in that space that are willing to guide you. Be humble enough to ask for help and admit the things you don’t know. Our minds are so powerful, so you have to believe you can succeed.
How can folks who want to work with you connect?
I love collaborating with local law offices. This is a great way to enhance their services and provide comprehensive support to clients going through divorce. Here are some great ways to work together:
1. Referral Partnerships: Establish a mutual referral system where the divorce coach refers clients to the law office for legal matters and, conversely, the law office refers clients to the coach for support in emotional adjustment and coping strategies.
2. Workshops and Seminars: Organize workshops or seminars on topics related to divorce, such as navigating the emotional challenges, co-parenting strategies, and resources available. These are great for Instagram/Facebook live.
3. Client Support Groups: Co-host support groups for clients going through divorce, where legal information can be shared, and the divorce coach can offer emotional support and coping strategies.
4. Cross-Promotion: Feature each other in newsletters, social media, or websites.
5. Coaching for Attorneys: Provide training sessions for attorneys in the law office on how to recognize when a client might benefit from coaching, helping them support their clients more effectively.
6. Joint Events: Host community events or panels that discuss various aspects of divorce, allowing both the legal and emotional sides to be addressed and providing unique value.
7. Feedback Loop: Establish a system where feedback is shared between the coach and the law office to improve services, understand client needs better, and adapt approaches accordingly.
8. Online Presence: Collaborate on creating blog posts, podcasts, or videos discussing the intersection of legal and emotional aspects of divorce.
By working together, this ultimately leads to better outcomes for clients.
Anyone can connect with me on Instagram @wellnesscollectivecoaching or via email, wellnesscollectivecoaching@gmail.com
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.wellnesscollective.coach
- Instagram: wellnesscollectivecoaching
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