We recently connected with Allison Bray and have shared our conversation below.
Allison, we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?
Honestly, developing confidence and self-esteem has been a layered process, and it is still ongoing. Motherhood has a way of both humbling you and empowering you at the same time. I didn’t wake up one day feeling confident. It came from showing up for myself in the small, quiet moments. It came from proving to myself that I could do hard things, even when I felt overwhelmed or unsure.
In the early postpartum days, I often questioned if I was doing enough or doing it “right.” But over time, I started giving myself more grace, more credit, and more compassion. I began to trust my instincts, not just as a mother, but as a woman, creator, and business owner.
Building My Motherhood Agenda was part of that journey too. I created it not just to support other moms, but to hold myself accountable to the kind of balance and self-worth I wanted to model. Confidence for me hasn’t been about being loud or fearless. It has been about being grounded, clear on my values, and learning to validate myself without needing external approval.
Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
My Motherhood Agenda was born out of a real need — the need to make motherhood feel more manageable, more supported, and more intentional. As a mom, I know firsthand how easy it is to lose yourself in the chaos of caring for everyone else. I wanted to create a space and a system that helped women stay connected to themselves while navigating the constantly shifting seasons of motherhood and postpartum life.
Professionally, I’m focused on creating tools and content that support mothers not just as caregivers, but as whole people. Through our guided agendas and resources, we aim to support mothers in reclaiming time, clarity, and a sense of self.
What feels most exciting to me right now is the community forming around My Motherhood Agenda. There’s a genuine connection happening — women showing up for themselves and each other in ways that feel honest and grounded. We’re not here to promote perfection. We’re here to offer support, structure, and space to breathe.
We also have something really special launching at the end of the year that will be focused on supporting new moms in their journey. I can’t share too much yet, but it’s designed to meet them right where they are and offer the kind of practical and emotional support that often gets overlooked.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Looking back, there are three key qualities and skills that really stand out as most impactful in my journey:
1. Resilience: Running a business, especially as a mom, requires the ability to adapt and bounce back from setbacks. There will always be unexpected challenges, but the ability to keep moving forward — even when things don’t go as planned — has been critical. Building resilience comes from learning to embrace the ups and downs, rather than expecting a smooth road.
2. Time Management & Boundaries: In the early days, I often felt like I had to do everything myself. As I grew both personally and professionally, I realized how crucial it was to set boundaries and manage my time effectively. Whether it’s setting work hours, saying no to certain opportunities, or carving out time for self-care, these practices allowed me to prioritize what matters most. For anyone starting out, I’d say learning to respect your time and energy is one of the best investments you can make.
3. Empathy & Connection: Being able to understand and connect with my audience, clients, and community has been invaluable. In both of my businesses, the goal has always been about building relationships, not just transactions. This has helped me offer genuine value and stay aligned with the needs of the people I’m serving. I’d encourage anyone starting out to take the time to listen and build meaningful connections.
For those early in their journey, my advice would be to invest in learning and practicing these skills. Resilience comes from experiencing the highs and lows, so don’t be afraid to fail and learn from it. Time management and boundaries are skills you can start building from day one — practice saying no, prioritize what truly moves you forward, and stay disciplined in protecting your personal time. And finally, never underestimate the power of empathy. Focus on understanding your audience or clients, and create real value in your offerings. Relationships matter.
What do you do when you feel overwhelmed? Any advice or strategies?
When I feel overwhelmed, I try to ground myself and break things down into smaller, manageable steps. Here are some strategies that help me when the pressure builds:
1. Take a Step Back: Sometimes, the best thing you can do is pause and get some distance. Whether that’s going for a walk, stepping away from work for a bit, or simply taking a few deep breaths, giving myself a moment to reset can make a huge difference. This allows me to approach things with a clearer mind.
2. Prioritize: I look at what’s on my plate and determine what absolutely needs to be done right away versus what can wait. I’ll write a list, and often just seeing it on paper helps me see where to focus. If something feels overwhelming, I’ll break it down into smaller tasks so it doesn’t feel so daunting.
3. Delegate or Ask for Help: I’ve learned that I can’t do it all myself. If I’m feeling overwhelmed with work or personal responsibilities, I reach out for support. Whether that’s delegating tasks within my team or asking family for help with daily duties, sharing the load is key to maintaining balance.
4. Practice Self-Compassion: When I’m overwhelmed, I try to remind myself that it’s okay to not have it all figured out in the moment. Perfectionism can make it harder to cope with stress, so being kind to myself and acknowledging that I’m doing my best has been essential in managing those feelings.
5. Focus on What I Can Control: If I can’t solve everything at once, I focus on what I can control in the moment. Whether it’s making one decision or tackling one small task, taking action in any way helps me feel more in control and less overwhelmed.
These strategies are part of what I do to stay grounded when things feel too much. Overwhelm is a natural part of juggling multiple responsibilities, and it’s all about finding your rhythm and knowing when to slow down or ask for help.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.MyMotherhoodAgenda.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mymotherhoodagenda/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mymotherhoodagenda
so if you or someone you know deserves recognition please let us know here.
