Carla Romo shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.
Carla, we’re thrilled to have you with us today. Before we jump into your intro and the heart of the interview, let’s start with a bit of an ice breaker: What is something outside of work that is bringing you joy lately?
A few weeks ago, I got married! Yes, the dating and relationship coach tied the knot. That day brought me feelings beyond joy: love, connection, and a deep sense of spirituality I had never experienced before. People often say they wake up the next day and feel the same, but my husband and I agreed that we woke up feeling more deeply connected than ever, something I didn’t even think was possible.
I’ve been in my share of codependent and toxic relationships, and I’m deeply grateful that I took the time to heal and work on myself so I could be ready for a love like this. I always tell my clients, “You don’t know what you don’t know” and I truly didn’t know love could be this good. Every low point in my past led me here, and I don’t regret any of it. Now, I feel safe, at peace, and overflowing with joy.
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m Carla, a certified dating and relationship coach who’s helped over 1,000 singles rewrite their love stories. I know what it’s like to be stuck in toxic, codependent relationships and wonder if real love even exists. The good news? It does. After doing the inner work, I not only found the kind of relationship I once thought was impossible, but I just married my dream partner. Now I get to help others step into their confidence and worth so they can attract a love that feels safe, joyful, and deeply connected. Because the truth is, the love you want isn’t a fantasy, it’s 100% within reach.
Amazing, so let’s take a moment to go back in time. What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
As a child, I believed I wasn’t lovable. I struggled deeply with feeling worthy and enough. My father was abusive and left when I was very young, and I internalized it as if it were my fault. That belief followed me into adulthood, leading me into unhealthy relationships where I was constantly trying to “fix” people or prove my worth.
At 24, I hit rock bottom in an abusive relationship and realized I had two choices: keep self-sabotaging and settling for pain, or break free from codependency and finally build the most important relationship of my life, the one with myself. I chose the latter. I learned to fill my own cup, to love myself fully, and to know I am lovable just as I am. Today, nothing, no relationship, person, or situation can shake my truth.
If you could say one kind thing to your younger self, what would it be?
You are worthy, enough, and lovable, exactly as you are. Your value will never depend on how another person treats you, and you don’t have to earn love to deserve it. One day you’ll see that the love you’ve been searching for begins with the love you give yourself.
Sure, so let’s go deeper into your values and how you think. Is the public version of you the real you?
Yes! The other night my husband and I were on a double date when one of our friends said, “You know, everyone’s a different version of themselves with each of their friends.” I laughed and said, “Not me.” My husband jumped in and added, “I think Carla might actually be the exception here.”
I will say I’m more professional with clients, that’s something I take a lot of pride in. I’m serious about creating a space where people feel safe and supported, with structure and trust. But at the end of the day, it’s still me – all the damn way.
Before we go, we’d love to hear your thoughts on some longer-run, legacy type questions. If you knew you had 10 years left, what would you stop doing immediately?
I’ve actually thought about this and honestly, nothing. I live my life with no regrets or waiting to make moves. And I don’t say that as fluff. I truly mean it. I’m at peace with the choices I’ve made because they brought me to this exact moment. I love my life today – the people in it, my hobbies, my friends and family, and where I live. To me, life is lived when we’re fully in today.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.carlaromo.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlaromo/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlaRomo
- Other: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcarlaromo?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc
Image Credits
Wedding photo credit goes to Laura Gagnon
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