Life, Values & Legacy: Our Chat with Ranbir Puar

Ranbir Puar shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.

Ranbir, really appreciate you sharing your stories and insights with us. The world would have so much more understanding and empathy if we all were a bit more open about our stories and how they have helped shaped our journey and worldview. Let’s jump in with a fun one: What do you think others are secretly struggling with—but never say?
Because of the work I do, and have done since 2009, I have some insight into this question. The most common thing people struggle with is self-trust, with what I call “self-like” coming in second.
Most people, deep down, have a hard time truly trusting themselves. Just look at how often people break appointments they have with themselves. Whether it’s downtime, a workout, or some play, it’s remarkably easy for people to reschedule their own plans to prioritize others instead.
People also tend to look outside themselves for reassurance. If they had a strong ability to trust themselves, they would become more self-reliant and less at the whim of the emotional, mental, and physical demands of others around them.
When you begin to truly like yourself, you start treating yourself with respect and kindness. This naturally leads to a stronger sense of self-trust. Think about how good we are to people we like. Think about how much hurt you’ve experienced through “love.” That’s why it’s best to start with self-like and self-trust.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Ranbir Puar is a TEDx Speaker, Author, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Strategies Coach, and Nervous System Architect and Certified HeartMath® Coach who has been helping adults and children transform their lives since 2009. She blends neuroscience, somatic regulation, neurofeedback, and mindset training to rewire both mind and body, creating breakthroughs where traditional coaching or talk therapy often plateau. She is also a licensed provider of the Integrated Learning System (Focus), the Rest & Restore Protocol, and the Safe & Sound Protocol, providing her clients with access to cutting-edge tools that accelerate transformation.

Ranbir is a 20-Time Staff Pick on Insight Timer, the world’s largest community of meditators, and has spoken at global parenting events such as the Mindful World Parenting Summit alongside Eckhart Tolle and Dr. Shefali. She is the creator of the popular Today I Practice life strategies app and has been featured in publications around the world. Read about her impactful work on Forbes. Ranbir also serves as Chief Strategy Officer for TiniHabitat | Plantentary Health Lab.

Her clients include physicians committed to sustaining the clarity, energy, and emotional resilience needed to provide exceptional care to their patients; high-performing executives navigating high-stakes leadership with composure; parents dedicated to creating harmony and connection at home; and couples ready to rebuild trust, deepen communication, and strengthen their bond.

Her journey is equally inspiring, overcoming early life challenges that damaged her self-image to create a life with her husband and two sons that is fulfilling, joyful, and deeply aligned. This lived experience, combined with her expertise, makes her uniquely qualified to guide you beyond pain, baggage, and limiting beliefs. Her methods are grounded in reality, built on systems you can apply daily, and designed to create lasting transformation.

Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. What relationship most shaped how you see yourself?
The relationships that most shaped how I see myself are the ones I have with my two sons. I cannot fully put into words how much becoming a mother changed the trajectory of my life. Becoming a mom allowed me to align with the real me, in the core of my being. It allowed me to nurture, guide and love my boys the way I had always wished to be.
In essence, I was able to ‘create’ my happy childhood in how I raised my sons. I also allowed myself to become deeply honest with myself in the process. Looking into the light and the shadows of me and becoming so comfortable in my own skin.
I see myself as having value now as well through the way my sons show me appreciation and love. I have been able to connect to my self-trust and self-like. I really like myself now.
If someone had told me before having my sons that I could have this level of love, connection, joy and peace in my life, I would have actually found that hard to believe. I feel eternally blessed.

What did suffering teach you that success never could?
Suffering, at times, has brought me to my knees. It has taught me about having faith, in myself and in something greater than me. It has showed me how incredibly resilient and resourceful I am. It’s also shown me how capable I am. But, perhaps more importantly, it’s shown me how important it is to have love and community in your life. To suffer alone can feel unbearable, but to have people to support you along the way can be deeply healing.
Suffering has also taught me that when you are squeezed, your true nature comes forward. It allows you to remove all ‘excess’ and be your true self. There is a tremendous amount of grace in that. Suffering has also taught me that all humans experience highs and lows, and both are temporary.RetryClaude can make mistakes. Please double-check responses.

Next, maybe we can discuss some of your foundational philosophies and views? Where are smart people getting it totally wrong today?
I like this question because it’s been on my mind a lot the last few years. I have begun to observe that people I consider smart are moving more towards emotional thinking and becoming anchored in what they ‘believe’. This could be for many, many reasons, but I know one thing for sure: the algorithm life certainly doesn’t help.
It takes a great deal of effort and awareness to go outside of what social media and media companies are serving up in our feeds. It takes time to go and explore the ideas of people you may disagree with. But it’s essential for a healthy community and for a healthy mind.
One of my core beliefs is that a true intellect is fascinated by the unknown. Hungry for knowledge, learning, and understanding versus becoming locked into a belief system. We can ‘believe’ when it comes to things like faith, but with science, for example, which is ever changing, it is important to keep an open mind. Science is also based on asking loads and loads of questions, discourse, dissection of ideas, and trying to provide reasons.

Okay, we’ve made it essentially to the end. One last question before you go. If you laid down your name, role, and possessions—what would remain?
A life full of love. This is what I am most proud of: the size of my heart and the love in my life. I watched both my mom and my dad pass away. What I know from having had these experiences, especially when my mom passed, is that you take nothing with you when you leave this world. That led me to understand and come up with a phrase: “It’s the size of your heart, not the size of your wallet that truly matters.”

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