We recently connected with Cassandra Pickett and have shared our conversation below.
Cassandra, so glad you were able to set aside some time for us today. We’ve always admired not just your journey and success, but also the seemingly high levels of self-discipline that you seem to have mastered and so maybe we can start by chatting about how you developed it or where it comes from?
In high school and college, I was the picture of self-discipline. I double majored in dance and psychology, played Cinderella in the ballet, performed as a lead in the play, and competed on a state-winning drill team while preparing for Sterling Scholar. I’d eat lunch while running from one side of campus to the other, burning the candle at both ends. People praised that version of me endlessly. They said my peers didn’t have that level of discipline, that it made me unique. And I believed them.
But I didn’t really know who I was, because I was everything. I was vast and far, but not deep and full.
Now, at forty, I look less disciplined on the outside. My life moves slower and quieter. But the truth is, my discipline is stronger than ever. It’s saying no without guilt, resting without justification, and refusing to prove my worth through exhaustion. It’s wild how sometimes knowing who you are can look like a lack of discipline—but it’s actually the deepest kind.
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
Professionally, I help ambitious women stop over-functioning and start living boundaried, grounded lives. I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Clini-Coach, and my work blends depth with direction. In every conversation, I listen for the patterns and blind spots that keep people stuck, then help them turn those insights into action. My goal is always to guide people back to their own clarity. Efficiently, compassionately, and without judgment.
Two spaces I’m most proud of right now are my Girl You Good? podcast and membership. The podcast is where we talk honestly about juggling it all. The guilt, the burnout, the human messiness, and explore how to create more connection with less chaos. The episodes are jam packed and super short! The membership takes those conversations further, offering group coaching, tools, and community for just $47 a month…. about the cost of a copay… because accessibility and support shouldn’t be a luxury.
Everything I do comes back to this: you can have big goals and a calm nervous system. The goal isn’t to do more, it’s to live in alignment with who you really are
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
First, learning that I don’t need validation from external sources. Even when I still catch myself seeking it, I’ve learned to pause and ask who I’m actually asking and why. Most of the time, I already know what I want to hear. Trusting my own voice has been the real freedom.
Second, sleep it off. I don’t have to fix everything in the moment. My therapist, Bersuada, once told me, “Sometimes the bow is crinkled.” She was right. Not everything wraps up neatly. Things will be messy, but that doesn’t mean I have to be a mess.
And third, if someone truly wants to understand you, it doesn’t matter how you say it. That idea changed everything for me. Explaining myself endlessly won’t create connection. Understanding myself does. I’ve stopped chasing clarity from others and started giving it to myself.
For anyone early in their journey: listen inward before you speak outward, rest before you react, and don’t confuse proving yourself with knowing yourself.
Who is your ideal client or what sort of characteristics would make someone an ideal client for you?
The women I work with are the ones who’ve already done the work. They’ve read the books, taken the quizzes, done the journaling, listened to all the podcasts. They know the language of self-help inside and out, but they’re still saying yes when they mean no. They still end up in rooms, activities, or relationships they don’t actually want to be in. They doubt themselves in areas where they’re clearly excellent. It’s not a lack of knowledge, it’s a lack of boundaries that stick. My work helps close that gap, turning everything they know into how they actually live. I adore watching my cients turn self-awareness into self-respect.
Contact Info:
- Website: www.cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cassandrapickettcoaching/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cassandrapickettcoaching
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cassandrapickett/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@girlyougood
- Other: https://pod.link/1819092671
