We recently had the chance to connect with Sami Garrett and have shared our conversation below.
Sami, so good to connect and we’re excited to share your story and insights with our audience. There’s a ton to learn from your story, but let’s start with a warm up before we get into the heart of the interview. What are you most proud of building — that nobody sees?
My inner world for sure. I love myself and love my inner voice and imagination and find so much internal freedom in letting myself be as I am in this moment with love. No one really sees this and yet it is what makes my days full of joy, peace, and deep connection. 🙂
Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
Hi, I’m Sami, the founder of Good Enough Matrescence (GEM). We are a Collective and Community of moms who are rewriting and redefining what motherhood support gets to look like. We are a group of moms intentionally expanding joy, peace, presence and connection in motherhood together. Whether you’re navigating fertility, pregnancy, birth, the 4th trimester, the wild years beyond, or raising children with intention, GEM is your one-stop home for trusted, in-depth, evidence-based resources… and the daily replenishment you crave. You don’t have to do it all. You just have to be resourced.
We have created a new paradigm of motherhood support that benefits all of us mothers while encouraging and empowering us to do motherhood our way. The way that feels the most true for you, for me, for her. The way that reminds us we are not broken and don’t need fixing- instead, maybe we are undersupported, undernourished, underslept, overstimulated, etc and we have the resources inside to nourish our heart, body, mind, and soul in motherhood.
I’d say what makes us most unique is that we aren’t a one-size-fits-all all or even a coach-led space- we are a true collective, where community has access to different resources and is empowered to flow in the way that feels good for her, not what is “trending” right now. We don’t make moms choose between themselves and motherhood. We bring peace of mind and joy to all of our experiences. It is a space that actually fits into moms’ lives and doesn’t ask them to change or add more to their plate. We give moms permission to want more out of our lives. It’s for moms who want to feel good without guilt, stress, shame, or burn out and continues to support us throughout our entire motherhood experience.
GEM started after I came out of my own postpartum survival mode with my second, after healing from postpartum rage and postnatal depletion. I wanted a space where comes could come, connect, find evidence-based resources, and trust their intuition. A space that followed us throughout motherhood and oscillates in and out of different seasons without having to be a part of or find 500 different groups. This place is a library that moms can step into and find what they need in this moment. It’s the plate that holds them and not another thing on their plate. It’s a place where soul-nourishing connections feel good and not like an inconvenience. So I started connecting with other professionals and mamas and the rest is history. If this speaks to anyone, I invite you to come join us inside and bring more ease into your motherhood!
Okay, so here’s a deep one: What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
I believed that my ideas, wants, desires, beliefs, and opinions would make others mad and thus be unsafe for me to share. I learned to “go with the flow” and became agreeable in every situation. I was there to be others’ cheerleader, sounding board, and emotional support, but couldn’t have my own spoken opinions or support. I stopped using my voice, but kept my mind strong, so I wasn’t lost in others’ beliefs and opinions. I just didn’t share them with anyone and it definitely played a role in how I participated in the world into my young adulthood. It took a while to unravel those beliefs and start feeling safe enough to express my thoughts…
I don’t believe them now. While I am still practicing using my voice to speak what is in my soul, I also believe that I don’t have to share it with everyone and that I get to choose and neither makes me good or bad. If something I say makes others mad, it is no longer a threat to my well-being and shows me more about their inner world and how they are interpreting me vs it being about me. That belief and unraveling it, helped me to see that we all experience the world through our own nervous system and reflect where we feel safe and not safe. It’s not ever about the actual belief or opinion, but about how safe we feel to be real on the outside. This is one reason I believe so deeply in regulating our nervous system, listening to our body and our emotions, and noticing where our subconscious comes into play in how we experience life- and a big part of why I started GEM for moms.
What did suffering teach you that success never could?
That I can do hard things and always survive. That nothing lasts forever. The good times and the bad times always pass, and there is always a silver lining if we choose to look for it. Suffering is also the greatest teacher in the practice of making a heaven out of hell or a hell out of heaven.
Next, maybe we can discuss some of your foundational philosophies and views? What truths are so foundational in your life that you rarely articulate them?
That nothing matters- in the most freeing way. and there is no good/bad/right or wrong. There are no problems. Everything just is as it unfolds. The sun always comes up, the seasons always turn, and how you live your life doesn’t really matter. So why not live it in a way that feels alive, because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what you did during the day, what you’re stressing about, how well you handle a conversation with a toddler in the middle of a tantrum- it doesn’t even matter how you feel. It’s all a choice and a perception. Feeling is what creates aliveness, though, and joy, peace, and ease definitely feel better than pain, grief, and anger- though none of them are right or wrong, good or bad. Maybe just being there and feeling into what is happening on the inside, and how life unfolds, is where the true magic is. Sometimes we have a smooth, happy day, other days we’re wrestling a toddler to get their socks on. What’s important is how you want to experience things, because that perceived reality is what we feel in life- even though none of it really matters. And that is freeing. If nothing matters, we drop expectations, definitions, and create room for expansion, multiple meanings/possibilities, and choice to create the life we want to live, the life we want to feel, and we get to choose what’s important to us. So in short, nothing really matters, so do what feels nourishing, good, peaceful, joyful, alive, true, and let yourself be sad sometimes too. It’s all good. 🙂
Thank you so much for all of your openness so far. Maybe we can close with a future oriented question. What is the story you hope people tell about you when you’re gone?
I hope people say(especially my children), “She made me feel safe enough to share my wildest desires and deepest secrets. She was an embodiment of love and connection, a warm hug and a good belly laugh. She didn’t take herself seriously and invited me to have fun with life too.”
Contact Info:
- Website: https://goodenoughmatrescence.com
- Instagram: https://instagram.com/goodenoughmatrescence
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sami-garrett-1a881b51
- Facebook: https://facebook.com/goodenoughmatrescence
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