An Inspired Chat with Matthew Garth

Matthew Garth shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.

Matthew, a huge thanks to you for investing the time to share your wisdom with those who are seeking it. We think it’s so important for us to share stories with our neighbors, friends and community because knowledge multiples when we share with each other. Let’s jump in: What are you being called to do now, that you may have been afraid of before?
Right now, I feel a very real calling to speak in ways I never allowed myself to before. For a long time, I avoided sharing my story because I was afraid of being too vulnerable or opening doors I didn’t feel ready to walk through. But I’ve reached a point in my life where I understand that the experiences I’ve had, the challenges I’ve pushed through, and the moments that forced me to reconnect with myself weren’t just meant for me to keep quiet. I’ve rebuilt myself more than once, and in that process, I’ve learned what it truly means to return to who you are at your core. That perspective—those lessons—have value. So now, instead of holding back, I feel compelled to use my voice, to offer my story as a guide for others who might be searching for their own way back to themselves. What used to feel scary now feels like purpose, and stepping into that purpose is the work I’m committed to doing.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I’m someone who has spent a lot of my life learning through experience—sometimes the hard way, sometimes through reinvention, but always with the intention of becoming more aligned with who I really am. Professionally, I’ve built a strong career in sales and communication, but what really drives me now is the work I’m doing around storytelling, personal connection, and helping people rediscover themselves. My ‘brand,’ if you want to call it that, is rooted in honesty and real-life transformation. I’m not interested in perfect images or polished slogans—I’m interested in truth, in growth, and in showing people that you can rebuild your life from any point if you’re willing to face yourself. What makes what I do unique is that everything I share comes from lived experience, not theory. Right now, I’m working on stepping more fully into speaking, writing, and creating spaces where people can feel seen and supported in their own journeys. My story is still unfolding, but it’s unfolding with intention, and that’s the part I’m most excited to share.

Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. Who were you before the world told you who you had to be?
Before I learned who I could be, I was someone ruled by fear and anger. Growth changed that.

What have been the defining wounds of your life—and how have you healed them?
Two of the defining wounds of my life were my divorce and the period of homelessness that followed. Those experiences stripped my life down to its frame and forced me to confront parts of myself I had avoided for years. They were painful, humbling, and at times overwhelming; but they also became the foundation of my growth. I healed through self-mastery and self-love, by learning to take ownership of my choices, my patterns, and my future. Instead of letting those wounds harden me, I used them as a catalyst to rebuild from the inside out. Those chapters didn’t just teach me resilience; they taught me who I actually am.

So a lot of these questions go deep, but if you are open to it, we’ve got a few more questions that we’d love to get your take on. Where are smart people getting it totally wrong today?
The core error smart people make regarding love today is applying the same intellectual, goal-oriented methodology they use for professional or academic pursuits. They treat love as a complex external problem to be solved, a perfect variable to be found, or a resource to be secured, and this analytical overreach is precisely where they fail.

Their focus is overwhelmingly external. They dedicate vast energy to analyzing partners, assessing relationship potential, and executing dating strategies, effectively outsourcing their sense of emotional fulfillment to a third party. They often confuse the pure state of love with the dependent state of need for validation, security, or completion.

For all their intelligence, the relationships they build are based on a structure of hopeful expectation and interpretation. That is, they interpret a partner’s actions (consistency, affection, presence) as proof of their own worthiness of love. When a partner inevitably behaves outside of that highly demanding script, the intelligent person’s carefully constructed emotional framework collapses.

The only love that is truly constant, unconditional, and intrinsically available to the individual is self-love. Everything external, be it romantic affection or familial bond, is an interpretation of the external world based on our own needs and standards.

The truly intelligent corrective action is realizing that wholeness must originate within. When self-love is the foundation, external relationships cease to be a frantic search for completion and instead become a non-essential, yet valuable, sharing of already-existing emotional abundance. Smart people are simply looking for the answer to love everywhere but the only place it can be reliably found: inside themselves.

Thank you so much for all of your openness so far. Maybe we can close with a future oriented question. What do you understand deeply that most people don’t?
I deeply understand the absolute, non-negotiable supremacy of internal reality.

Most people operate their lives based on the assumption that their emotional health, validation, and sense of worth must be derived from external sources; how their partner treats them, the prestige of their job title, or social approval. They are constantly struggling to force the external world to match their needs, and consequently, they live in a state of high dependency and vulnerability.

What I understand is that the only reality that truly matters is the one I construct within myself.

I recognize that all external experience, every compliment, every perceived slight, every sign of affection, is merely a hopeful expectation or an interpretation filtered through my own current state. The core, stable reality of my being (self-love, self-acceptance) must be established first.

This understanding means I don’t use external forces as a gauge for my value. When you are internally whole, external relationships transform from a desperate search for completion into a secondary, optional sharing of existing abundance. I understand that the ultimate power lies not in controlling the world, but in relentlessly controlling and fortifying the internal framework through which the world is experienced. Most people spend their lives fighting the outside; I realize the battle is won only on the inside.

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