Meet Lorne “Lonnie” Hughes

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Lorne “Lonnie” Hughes. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Lorne “Lonnie” below.

Hi Lorne “Lonnie”, thank you so much for joining us and opening up about the very personal topic of divorce. So many in the community are going through or have gone through divorce and we think hearing about how others dealt with the aftermath and managed to build a vibrant, successful life and career despite the trauma of divorce can be helpful to many who might be feeling a degree of hopelessness. So, maybe you can talk to us about how you overcame divorce?

I wasn’t married the traditional way. And I wasn’t divorced that way either. Somewhere along my childhood I wanted more. I had everything and nothing. Growing up on an island in the Caribbean with no running water in the house but an active imagination with a well of love from my marternal grandmother made life magical. I always wanted the white picket fence, the dog, the family. But first I needed to find the mate… it might be strange to hear this all coming from an Afro-Caribbean Blackman growing up when Mtv was my playground. I had learned how to dream early and I had become married to myself! This was the person I had learned to trust and the person I knew the most. After graduation with my mind set on the Arts I became actively aware that even in this arena of freedom in the Liberal Arts there’s a game of politics that has nothing to do with your talents. To not die in my own creativity literally and metaphorically I began a slow divorce from myself si could fit in, So I too could be chosen.. Unfulfilled and undernourished I started a slow divorce from my source, I decided the only way to survive was to reconnect, remarry myself publically and I did. I had an unannounced wedding in LaurelCanyon home with my mom and a few friends I had over for and afternoon lunch. No one had any idea what I was about to do., And to be quite frank, neither did I but I had a calling from my imagination and I knew this was going to be the start of my new life and it was. I found love over proving in this marriage with self. I found honesty over acceptance and I found courage in standing alone. With this new freedom , my voice as a writer became richer, my art in its abstract form had more feelings and my love for self which has taking some time finally fused the Man with the boy and together this dream of the white picket fence now was no different from the smile on my mature face emanating from the joy of that little barefoot Caribbean boy and the freedom he had before he left and the experience of being and artist of discipline is never separated it’s always one and it will always be my first marriage and my last.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

This excites me .. to share. I love, love recognizing the spark that appears to have been lost or buried in someone’s creativity. And that isn’t just in the Arts it’s in life. I enjoy the process of aiding someone back to the seed of why they are ALIVE… The remembrance that somehow gets lost! This is what I do as an ACTivator. It’s not fixing anything instead it’s the ability to turn the joy up so high that the seemingly problem just can’t exist anymore. In short, I assist people in reclaiming their joy. I went to school for psychology and ended up on Tv.. so the marriage of a non-traditional technique of Art, therapy, love . And joy, creates a highway to self that I know is invaluable! As and artist my first love was dancing, and I’ve had the opportunity of dancing for the world through private and public events globally aswell as I the Mtv platform ClubMtv-where I got my start. With the knowledge from this fast moving growing machine I developed skills of creating art out of nothing but turning my pieces into magical stories. Art for me is a feeling stuffed in an image with a heartbeat that beats to and undiscovered tune, Thats a hit ona unclaimed billboard waiting to be discovered! Yes! Art iare words seen and felt on and image with out words… And art in writing is words seen and felt without and image… it’s the perfect marriage of seen and unseen! This is what I do in my work. I provide and opportunity for and individual artist or not to possibly see a pot of view that they wouldn’t choose as maybe a fair solution! And in doing this type of work with individuals I am constantly developing new ways of seeing the same thing but different! Life becomes magical with this framework as a guide or reference to Allow the impossible to be possible! This type of interaction helps me to develop stories, Art and new ways for companies to integrate old ways of thinking onto new platforms.. I’m currently doing this type of work with myself of integration by shooting my first feature film The Elephant and The Donkey. The umbrella is wide so I go where that heartbeat is the loudest… A mentor once told me… “ if you want to do what you want to do, just do it and be aware” And so this is my gift to myself and the clients I share with.

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

The three qualities or skills that has been the most impactful on my journey… one, the ability to listen to all sides of a story without judgement until I feel compelled to do or say something. Two, I never go against my gut feeling even if it appears that I’m the only person on my side of the fence. And third, I practice the love of loving even the things I don’t understand so I can definitely know when I’m not suppose to engage… and by choosing to love regardless, no one has power of me, but instead I get to choose how I play the game, even if I should appear to loose.

What was the most impactful thing your parents did for you?

The most impactful thing my Parents ( Grandma-and Mother) give me was my freedom to figure things out! Yeah, I had rules and chores but when it came down to personal decisions, especially from my mother-She had this uncanny confidant way of looking at me that instilled a trust that silently and firmly announced “ You’ll figure it out” At first i thought well this doesn’t help me but I soon started to see as I grew older that she was assisting me to get to know myself in a way that I had to rely on that six sense, my gifted intuition… As an adult I’ve asked her how did you know to tell me this. And she often times would smirk and say “ this is what you needed”. So trusting myself was the seed that nourishes the all of me… And the times that I appeared to fail, she was always there to say “ what did you learn? And what will you never forget? There’s a magic in just having the experience, I suppose. Something so often overlooked out of being embarrassed or just a need to be perfect. I learned early on that Perfection isn’t where you’re going , it’s where you’re at!

Contact Info:

• Website: https://HuesNewArt.com
• Instagram: @hollywoodjunkii
• Facebook: Lonnie Hughes
• Linkedin: Lonnie Hughes Hughes International
• Youtube: @lonniehues1

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