Some marriages last a year and others last decades – but from what we’ve seen, divorces are always difficult. It’s often disruptive emotionally, socially, financially and the emotional wounds can leave us less ready to take on challenges right when we need that strength the most. In an effort to help those going through divorce or separation, we have put together stories from others who have gone through divorce.
Cat Lantigua
Well, to put it quite frankly, it wasn’t easy.
I went through an intense period of feeling shame, failure, and embarrassment because I’d told myself that I would do everything possible to avoid that as an outcome in my life. I spent months crying and feeling aimless because my entire life plan suddenly became null. At some point though, I began to shift my perspective and interpret my divorce as an opportunity to begin anew and commit to myself like never before. Instead of hyper fixating on what went wrong I thought about the fact that I had the chance to recommit to my dreams and build a new life centered around adventure, joy, creativity, platonic/familial love, and most importantly the freedom to do whatever I wanted. Read More>>
Robert Anderson
My wife and I started out as good friends. As most love stories go, our beginning was unsuspecting and curious. She had a boyfriend at first, so that helped keep things simple. But I admit, I was the first to catch feelings. I didn’t want to cause any frustration or sabotage to her relationship, so I backed off. I backed off to another state where I found another job. I guess you can call it divine intervention where I was prevented from drowning in the sorrow and drama of unrequited love.
After years of painful silence, we were reunited with the most impeccable timing. Although we were both looking for true love, we didn’t know how much growth and maturity needed to take place. Our time apart helped prepare us for one another. Read More>>
Antonese Davis
Prayer, therapy, and self-care helped me to overcome divorce. Divorce was never in my plans, but unexpectedly, I received a phone call that would change my life forever. I found out my husband possibly fathered a child by someone else. Life as I knew it was over, and I had to decide what I wanted. It took time, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to do it alone. I shared the news with my tribe and asked them to keep me in their prayers because, in the beginning, it was hard to pray for myself. We started couples therapy, but the therapist suggested we do counseling separately. So, I started my therapy journey which completely transformed my life. I was able to process and learn how to understand my emotions, and I learned how to be intentional with my self-care. Taking the time to work on ME allowed me to understand my worth and learn what I wanted and what I desired. It also taught me to realize that I could only be responsible for my actions and my choices, not for the choices of others. It is because of prayer, therapy, and self-care that I am living and thriving after divorce! Read More>>
