Mar Fayos of Back Bay on Life, Lessons & Legacy

Mar Fayos shared their story and experiences with us recently and you can find our conversation below.

Hi Mar, thank you so much for taking time out of your busy day to share your story, experiences and insights with our readers. Let’s jump right in with an interesting one: What are you most proud of building — that nobody sees?
In my opinion, the most important thing you can build and nobody sees is a good relationship with yourself, working actively in self-acceptance, love, compassion, and forgiveness. Some steps taken towards that direction may not noticeable for others, but have the potential to make a huge difference in the way you feel, you act, and you treat others.

Can you briefly introduce yourself and share what makes you or your brand unique?
I am a vocalist, composer, producer of live shows, educator, and social activist, and I happened to graduate in journalism and PR too in what it feels like another life. I love singing music I resonate with, which ends up being jazz blended with pop, R&B, soul, and latin and mediterranean roots, and coaching new generations, as well as traveling – and if it is to go to sing, even better-, cooking new recipes, and watching a good movie while cuddling with my cat. I value and enjoy creativity in all its forms, and in my free time, I have fun painting with watercolors, playing around with pottery, restoring old furniture, and engaging in lots of reading and writing, as well as going to as many concerts, jam sessions, festivals, and markets as I can, and if it is with friends who inspire me, even better. My brain can’t stop envisioning projects still to be made, and that’s why I can’t stop doing it, and though I love to learn by the books and be a student, the trial-error and brainstorming solutions applied to real situations in a team setting is always even better. I am excited to be working on the writing and production of my second album, to be released by the beginning of 2026, as well as keep digging on new projects, and engaging deeper in research to learn more about how the singing voice works and can be trained to take advantage of its full potential.

Thanks for sharing that. Would love to go back in time and hear about how your past might have impacted who you are today. What did you believe about yourself as a child that you no longer believe?
As a child, I believed that everything was possible, but that some things were just too hard to even try for real, as they would be impossible for me to achieve, such as spending my days singing and making a living out of it, and that thought made me work even harder for what I wanted, but with an extra pressure and stress I forced myself to carry anywhere I went that was unnecessary and really detrimental. Growing up, I found out that pursuing your dreams and being consistent even when things don’t go as expected, or when you have other issues you need to take care of and may be interfering with such dreams and ambitions, is indeed tough, even heartbreaking, but by working to understand what is going on and what you can do about it, to slow down if needed, they become possible, and really fulfilling. I also learned, sometimes the hard way, not to allow myself or others to make me feel like I won’t be able to make it, or to distract me from my focus. It can take longer than expected, and even transform into something different, but it is never late to keep working for whatever it is that makes you wake up in the morning and gives sense and happiness to your life.

What did suffering teach you that success never could?
My parents always say that whatever it happens to you, it is meant to be to teach you a lesson and make you stronger. My worst enemies have been to have a low self-esteem, to give too much weight to what others thought or said about me, and to deal poorly with frustration, disappointment, and heartbreaks. I have not always been my best friend and ally, I loved and cared about others desperately to be deserving of love, and I double-questioned my thoughts and decisions way too much. Those experiences of suffering taught me a valuable lesson: that no matter how painful it is or how bad you feel, from there it can only get better, and it does. Keeping that into account, allowing time to heal and embrace your feelings, and try to get into conclusions that can turn into positive changes and skills to use when something similar may come my way, is something that success has never been able to teach me, not as deeply as failure did.

Sure, so let’s go deeper into your values and how you think. Is the public version of you the real you?
What I show to others is the real me, I truly value authenticity and honesty, but most of the times, it is only a part, the part I feel it is appropriate or comfortable to show, so there are some parts, especially the more personal ones, that I try to keep for myself, and I even have a hard time letting my close ones see! Showing my vulnerabilities, and feeling good with them being exposed, is something I am still having trouble with sometimes, and I keep as a work in progress.

Okay, we’ve made it essentially to the end. One last question before you go. Have you ever gotten what you wanted, and found it did not satisfy you?
It happened to me that I made some achievements that seemed impossible, or that I wanted badly and worked truly hard to get, and by the time I got there, they didn’t mean that much to me because I had changed, the circumstances changed, or even my focus and priorities changed. When that happened, I tried to think that I did it for the version of myself who wanted it enough to put lots of effort and made some choices that brought me there, and that I should honor that, be proud, and believe, as experience has proven, that everything, even the most tiny or unrelated things, are worth it in the long term.

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