Meet Abigail Carver

We were lucky to catch up with Abigail Carver recently and have shared our conversation below.

Abigail, we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?

I’ve struggled with a low self esteem most of my life and only in the last few years through therapy have worked to build it. I still shocks me every time I notice I’ve done something, said something, let myself feel something that in the years past I would be so afraid, or wouldn’t think I’d deserve it.

It sounds so simple but a huge revelation for me has been having some form of (easily modifiable) daily routine. I think it all comes down to doing esteemable acts to build that self esteem and pushing myself to do things that make me feel uncomfortable or that, in the past, I would have given up on if I wasn’t immediately good at.

Through this I have gained skills I hadn’t had before, hadn’t believed I would ever develop and it’s been such a huge self assurance for me that that is possible. I feel more equipped to take on challenges and give myself the grace to be bad at something when I start at it. Something that would have been an immediate hit to my already low self esteem and confidence in the past.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

My main focus at this point in my life is my ASMR Youtube channel. I’ve been creating and posting every weekday for over half a year now after multiple years of not having a consistent schedule and it’s made such a huge difference. It went from a hobby, something I would occasionally update, to an actual income source. One of my favorite parts of having a Youtube channel is the community aspect. I have subscribers that have stuck with me for years now and when I see their usernames I always get excited.

Having an income source outside that is creative keeps that side of my brain engaged and it’s such a blessing. My other job is as an usher at a performing arts theater and I just feel so grateful I can be constantly surrounded by people doing what they love in the arts.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

In the last decade I’ve been off on my own trying to figure out what exactly I want and how to get it I think I’ve had pretty good discernment about who is trustworthy and who maybe has ill intent. It’s important when you’re a young woman trying to build a career in music or the arts and you’re out on your own to understand that there are going to be predatory people who will dangle carrots in your face. Always listen to your gut.

Even though I’m a pretty shy person, I know I also lead with kindness and I think that makes a huge difference. I try to be reliable for the people in my orbit and especially when it comes to my friends who are also in the arts, being supportive and helping out when you can leads to the same support in your direction.

Over the last few years I’ve really worked on developing my patience and overall ability to be in the present and I think it’s helped me overcome a lot of the anxieties or insecurities I’ve had about ‘not making it’ or not being as successful as I would want to be. It’s natural to compare yourself to others and with social media, it can sometimes feel like if you haven’t made a name for yourself by the time you’ve hit 25 then you’re a failure. In the latter half of my twenties I’ve really had to reframe my intentions and how to accomplish my own version of success. Life is made up of living and I don’t want to waste the living I’m doing now being stuck in my head worrying about how much better it would be if I had XYZ.

One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?

I’ve had this dream for awhile to make music with other women. I’m also on the lookout for women producers. Anyone can reach me through my Instagram: abbycarver20.

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