Meet Alessandrina Dorer

We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Alessandrina Dorer a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Alessandrina, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?

A lot of my resilience comes from lived experience—growing up with developmental trauma and navigating deep personal losses throughout my life. Those early patterns shaped me to bounce back from intensely challenging situations, and over time, I’ve learned that I don’t need to be perfect or hold it all together to feel safe, loved, and accepted.

For years, I coped by overworking and disconnecting from my body. But that kind of dissociation wasn’t sustainable—it nearly led me to burnout and collapse. My resilience really started to take root when I began healing my nervous system and diving into my training in Somatics. That’s when I started to understand what true healing actually requires.

I began learning how to feel safe in feeling again—how to rest, how to play and be curious, how to meet myself with gentleness and love in the hard moments instead of pushing through them.

Resilience, for me, is about regulation, softness, deep relaxation, not taking life too seriously (I mean—we all die someday!), and cultivating deep self-trust. It’s about building capacity over time, not forcing it. And that’s the foundation I live from and bring into my work with others.

Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?

I support people who are healing from hustle culture, chronic stress and anxiety, trauma, and burnout—especially those who’ve spent years overriding their bodies and inner needs just to keep up with life, work, or expectations. My work is rooted in nervous system healing, somatic practices, and emotional regulation.

I focus on helping people learn how to slow down safely, reconnect with their bodies, and build a life that feels spacious, nourishing, and true. This isn’t about “self-care” in a surface-level way—it’s about the deep work that helps us fundamentally change who we are. We’re rewiring survival patterns, healing early wounds, and learning how to be in the world with more ease, rest, play, and joy.

What’s most special about this work is how gentle and powerful it is at the same time. There’s no fixing or forcing—just a steady invitation back to presence, to softness, and to a version of strength and resilience that’s rooted in self-trust and real connection. I get to witness people come back to themselves after years of being stuck in fight, flight, or freeze—which is one of the most meaningful parts of my work as well as building authentic connections with my clients.

Right now, I’m focused on expanding my online programs and creating more accessible ways for people to work with these tools—whether through an online coaching program, guided practices, private sessions, or VIP and retreats. I’m especially excited about building out a digital space that feels like a soft landing place for people who are exhausted by the constant push of life and want to learn a new way of being.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

Looking back, the three things that shaped my journey the most and had the greatest impact on my capacity to become the person I wanted to be were:

1. **Learning to listen to my body.**
For so long, I ignored the signals—tension, exhaustion, anxiety, confusion. I didn’t know that my body held the deepest wisdom and that listening to it is key to healing. Learning to track my nervous system and build a relationship with my felt experience has been foundational to arriving where I am now.

2. **Unlearning perfectionism and self-pressure.**
This was a big one for me. I used to think success meant doing everything right and being everything for everyone all at the same time—or I had failed. But the more I softened that grip, the more spacious and aligned my life became. Now I see that rest, play, and learning to love my humanness are the most direct path to true happiness.

3. **Staying committed to my inner work.**
Whether through somatic therapy, coaching, or my own practice, I’ve stayed committed to the process of growing and evolving over time. Even when it’s messy. Especially when it’s messy. That commitment—to keep showing up for myself with honesty and care—is what’s allowed real change to happen for me.

For anyone starting out, my advice would be:
Start by building safety. It’s the foundation for healing and wellbeing. You don’t need to rush. Find spaces, people, and practices that help your nervous system feel held and where you can expand in places you’ve felt tight or contracted in your day-to-day actions. Learn to notice what feels good and supportive in your body, and follow those signals of wellbeing. Growth and healing don’t have to be painful to be effective. They can be rooted in gentleness, conscious choice, and self-trust.

For me, that’s the kind of path that creates lasting, positive change.

Who is your ideal client or what sort of characteristics would make someone an ideal client for you?

My ideal client is someone who’s tired of pushing through life on empty—hitting walls that throw them into dysregulated states. They’ve been caught in hustle culture, chronic stress, anxiety, or trauma for years and feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or stuck. They’re ready to slow down and start truly enjoying life but don’t know how or where to begin.

They want to feel safe in their own body again and are open to deep healing that honors their nervous system, emotions, and past experiences—done in a way that’s gentle, non-invasive, and free from retraumatization, while also bringing play and connection. They’re willing to be gentle with themselves, curious about what’s beneath the surface without needing to retell their story, simply being present with what arises in their body. They’re committed to showing up for themselves, even when it feels hard or messy.

They don’t want quick fixes or surface-level “self-care.” They want tools and guidance to build real, lasting resilience, self-love, and self-trust. My ideal client is ready to create a life that feels spacious, nourishing, fulfilling, and truly aligned with who they are.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://dexterandalessandrina.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesafecoach
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dexterandalessandrina/
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DexterandAlessandrina
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