Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Allan Ting. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Allan, we’re thrilled to have you sharing your thoughts and lessons with our community. So, for folks who are at a stage in their life or career where they are trying to be more resilient, can you share where you get your resilience from?
My resilience came out of necessity because my dad lost all of our savings from a bad real estate investment when I was a sophomore in high school.
We had to go live in an In-Law unit in San Francisco where the landlord converted the garage into a very tight living space. We had enough money to cover rent and food but nothing more. I was just appreciative that we were not homeless. So my sense of purpose became that I needed to take care of my mom and dad.
With no money to attend college, I join the Army to help pay for my college tuition. When I came back from basic training, I studied as hard as I could in college so that I could find a good job to get our family out of the rut.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
My story:
When I was young, my mom always reminded me to love learning. The proverb she said was, “Grow to old, learn to old.” That always stuck in my head so I became a life long learner.
For the last twenty plus years, I immersed myself in topics of motivation, work-life balance, and neuroscience. I promised myself to take at least one self-help seminar a year (three seminars a year on average) so I became a product of the self-development industry.
I started my coaching and shared sharing my message on TV news stations across America, published a #1 bestselling book, and got invited to speak on TEDx.
What I do:
When my daughter was three years old, I decided to pivot my coaching career and refocus on what’s more important to me in life – raising a good human being.
So I took everything I learned on motivation, apply in my parenting, and my method works! My coaching clients told me what I do is so much needed now days because of children mental health crisis, so I launched Remarkable Parenting Academy.
The premise of the academy is to raise happy and successful children.
What I’m excited about:
At the heart of RPA, our mission is to teach parents how to connect more with their children and end children suffering. This past year, I had the honor to serve as a captain at a leadership event called Global Youth Leadership Summit. One thing that shocked me was out of 240+ teens (14-16 years old), 95% of them knew someone tried to commit suicide.
As a parent myself, I can’t imagine the amount of pressure kids have to face today from the constant reminder of comparing oneself on social media, to cyber bully, and low self-esteem.
I’ve taken twenty year plus years of learning Western child psychology, peak-performance mindset, and neuroscience. My clients call it like having a parenting manual to understand their kids’ unique personalities, different learning modalities, and parent accordingly so that they can connect more with their kids.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
1) Develop a growth mindset – I might not know it now, but I’m on this path of mastery. So be better tomorrow than you are today. Never stop learning.
2) Be vulnerable and courageous – Put your heart on the line every day. You won’t always succeed but you know in your heart, you have done your best. The opposite of this is regret and give excuses like: I should have done this… I should have done that… I don’t have any experience, I don’t have the education, I don’t have time. I’m too old. I’m too young and live a life of regrets.
3) I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul. Life will never be fair so get over it. Be accountable for your thoughts and actions because blaming will get you nowhere in life.
One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?
I am looking for parent influencers to join me in the movement to end children’s suffering as I had mentioned about 95% of teens know at least a friend who tried to commit suicide,
I am creating a ripple effect like a stone cast into a pond so that we reach more parents out there to learn how to connect with their children in times of crisis.
I’ve seen enough examples when children are crying for help, and the parents either a) don’t know what to do or 2) bury their heads in the sand like nothing happened and hope it’ll eventually go away or c) they’re so ashamed that they just don’t want to acknowledge or talk about it.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.remarkableparentingacademy.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/remarkable_parenting
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/remarkableparents
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/theallanting/
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/allanting
