Meet Alyssa Mongiovi

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Alyssa Mongiovi. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Alyssa below.

Hi Alyssa, we’re so appreciative of you taking the time to share your nuggets of wisdom with our community. One of the topics we think is most important for folks looking to level up their lives is building up their self-confidence and self-esteem. Can you share how you developed your confidence?

I think I spent so much time in my life being called weird that it started to feel less like an insult and more like a description. I guess somewhere along the way, I started to further discover the weird things and learned that they were my deepest strength. I guess the lesson is that there’s nothing wrong with having a hard time adapting to society because not all of us are meant for it. I realized from a young age that I connected to art and music in a way that made no sense to the people around me. I would spend hours studying the lyrics of my favorite songs and understanding why the artist chose the composition they did to connect to a certain feeling or sentiment. It’s all I thought about, and all I wanted to do was sing and write music. I dedicated hours to something, and that constant focus on becoming better at writing, singing, playing, or whatever it was made me proud of myself. I think it’s easy to have a level of self-esteem when you’re showing yourself that your passions and interests are worth doing and doing well. Self-respect is the most valuable kind.

I’ve come to realize in my very short time on earth that you have to do scary and embarrassing things to become a brave and confident person. At this stage of my life, I genuinely don’t feel perceived. I just always assume that no one will remember me or anything that I do. I sort of feel like everyone I meet is a 10-year-old in an adult body, and I give them the same grace that I’m naively assuming that they’re giving me. The truth is, no one remembers me; they remember the music and how it made them feel. That’s all I want for them. Also, if I really think about it, I don’t think anyone is on their deathbed thinking that they made too much art and expressed themselves too much. I don’t even think they’ll care if it’s controversial or likable, they’ll just remember how proud they were for being brave.

I think when I’m on stage, I genuinely feel like a kid dancing to her favorite rock songs in her room. It makes it hard for me to care at all about the opinions or thoughts of anyone around me because that little me in my head that writes all of the songs would absolutely love what I get to play now.

I realized that I could spend my whole life wondering what would happen if I felt every single emotion, experience, and spoke on every instinct so that I can be honest with myself and the people around me, and therefore have genuine experiences.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

I’m Alyssa Mongiovi, musician and songwriter based in Colorado. A year ago, I left my high-level corporate life to pursue music full-time. I won’t lie to you. At first, I lost everything, but eventually I gained something more valuable than anything–a life of creating. Since then, I’ve had the opportunity to play at legendary venues, opening for big names in music, such as Late Night Thoughts and Trapt. I write songs about real-life experiences in the hope that they make more sense in writing. I waslucky enough to tell the story of my leaving my old life behind with the release of my last single, “Poet,” which tells the story of me digging out of the gutters of a life that wasn’t mine to one that I’m lucky enough to live right now.

With the hopes of topping 2025, I’m releasing my next single,”Julie” on Feb 13th, aka Galentines Day, about a friend of mine in High School who inspired me to become who I am. Julie was someone I met in the music scene when I was very young. She was a creative herself and was as fascinated with me as I was with her. She was, to this day, the coolest person that I ever met, and at that point in my life, I looked up to her. She would pick me up, and we would take off with the windows down, listening to rock music way too loud.

I wrote the song during the final weeks of finalizing “Poet.” I was driving in my car with the windows down, and out of nowhere, I remembered everything–the smell of various hot topic perfumes, the hair dye, the energy drinks, the trips to the gas station, the insane feeling like something could happen at any moment, and it did. I was with a crowd way beyond my depth of cool, and we were in the crucial time in our lives where we were experiencing everything for the first time. I started singing what would eventually become “Julie” with the windows down on a back road. By the time I had gotten where I was going, the song was done. If you loved “Poet,” you’re going to love the story of two girls learning about life together. The song makes you dance and scream in the best ways.

“Julie” by Alyssa Mongiovi comes out Feb 13th!

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

I think trying to be a sponge of all of the qualities of the people that you look up to helps, but if I was forced to narrow it down to three, I would the first one is focus. There are a million tiny distractions outside of and inside of the music world. The overstimulation and overwhelm of starting is the hardest part, but you HAVE TO. Just do one small thing at time. I’m just getting started, but it seems the place to start. The second thing would be to be follow through. For example, if you say “Tomorrow I’m going to practice two new songs for the set list,” then you have to keep that promise to yourself. Saying you’re going to do something and then deciding there’s no world in which you weren’t going to make it happen, you’ll respect yourself which gives you the confidence to do the big things. The last thing is connected to the second one is trust. I don’t like when people say that they tried to stay “optimistic” or “hopeful.” I find that non-committal. It’s not a dream, it’s a commitment. If you have the focus and the follow through that you have to trust yourself after that. Trust that you’re ready. Trust that you’re deserving. Trust that each step you make will work out better than you could have even imagined. Trust that you will eventually look back on this moment and be grateful that you took every bit of the sanity that your actively sacrificing to do something that can outlive you. I’m very new to this. I’m just starting my journey, but I have the strongest feeling that it’ll be something special that lasts.

How would you spend the next decade if you somehow knew that it was your last?

The same way I would if I had only a week to live. I’d spend it writing and recording incredible music with the best musicians that I can find while playing as many shows as I can. I am not someone who lives with this illusion of waiting for the life that you want to come to you. I did the waiting and working hard thing and it did nothing. It built up my resentment and left me too exhausted to feel any joy or feel like the world that we all saw clear as day wasn’t here. Like every other American, I felt completely and totally removed from society, from communities around me and worst of all from myself. I remember trying to talk to my friends about it and although I knew we were in the same boat no one knew what to do about it. I think the only way out of a bad situation is out. I took the door after seeing how much damage was done in complacency. Every time we don’t stand and speak up about something that isn’t right, we are not only guaranteeing that it will happen again, but we are showing ourselves who we are. Who you are in private will eventually come out in public. So if you are not brave in your own time, you won’t be when you need to be. Being brave comes with consequences, but you can chose to see them as lessons. That helps. I think it’s inevitable that I’m going to do things wrong and even more so that I’ve already done things that I’ll regret, but life is for living not for predicting. I think when it comes to me, music was inevitable.

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Boogie on Down Productions, Mandy Michelle Photography, Robin Schneider Photography.

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