Meet Anya Shakh

Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Anya Shakh. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Anya, so good to have you with us today. We’ve always been impressed with folks who have a very clear sense of purpose and so maybe we can jump right in and talk about how you found your purpose?

I experienced what was possible in my life when I got outstanding coaching. I saw how everything I thought I knew was not as it seemed. The types of relationships and situations I experienced in my life were not ‘just how it was’ but a direct reflection of who I believed myself to be (which at the time was lacking in self-worth and self-belief). As the coaching process began I suddenly started seeing new possibilities and experiences open up to me. I had begun to change or rather I was removing all the layers of “not me” as I like to say to my clients. The more I healed and unlearned old patterns, the more layers shed. What was left was the me I had been yearning to be all along. The old patterns of anxiety, self-sabotage, and confusion were like dirt and rain coving the window and the more I healed, the clearer the window became. The clearer the window became, the more I saw that the deeply fulfilling and satisfying love I yearned for was possible. I knew that by going through this and coming out the other side, I had to give this to others.

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

My work as a coach is closely linked to my podcast, Ancient Intelligence, where I explore the foundational ancient dynamics at play between men and women. My belief is that modern feminism doesn’t help women (and it definitely doesn’t help men). While media and culture want us divided, I know that we are meant to be partners so everything I do is in support of our collective union. I’m always asking the question: what is the ultimate harmony that can be experienced between men and women and how do we get there? My podcast works to build a bridge that unites the sexes through science, psychology, spirituality, history, myth, pop culture, and self-development.

Within my 1:1 private coaching practice, I coach men. Men that are ‘successful’ by every measure of society, but still feel like something is missing whether it’s the partner of their dreams or a deep satisfaction in their lives. I help men understand themselves and women in a revolutionary way, resulting in a newfound sense of self-worth and authenticity. My coaching helps men cultivate a secure attachment style so they are not chasing women and instead magnetize exactly the types of women they want towards them.

I’ve been growing my Youtube channel where anyone can find thoughtful and meaningful insights about men and women for free. I am currently accepting new clients for 2025.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

I’d say the first one is definitely self-understanding. There’s a beautiful quote I’m forgetting exactly from where but it goes something like “we never really encounter the world; all we experience is our own nervous system.” This is profound in that most of what hinders us in life are our own perceptions and projections. So upon really understanding why we do what we do and where we might have learned those behaviors, we can get into the work of peeling back all that isn’t serving us and leaving it behind making way for who we truly want to be.

The second one is curiosity about people. There’s a story about Winston Churchill’s wife where she had dinner with the two different president elects on two different nights at a certain point in history. The story goes that after the first night she felt like she was dining with the most amazing man in the world. But on the second night the president elect made her feel like he was dining with the most important woman in the world, her! We want to be like the second man, making people feel seen, understood, and encouraged to shine. I believe this is one of the most underrated and important relational skills in the world.

The third one is letting go. It seems simple and it is, but boy it is not easy. David Hawkins has his book ‘Letting Go: A Pathway to Surrender” which is hands down one of the most important books I have read in my lifetime. We don’t realize just how much we hold onto resentments, belief systems, and negativity that hinders our development and acts like a brick wall between us and what we want in life. Henry Ford says “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, either way you’re right.” This rings so true and when we just let go, we find that things are so much clearer for us to move forward..

Thanks so much for sharing all these insights with us today. Before we go, is there a book that’s played in important role in your development?

The Way of the Superior man is one of the books that started me on my journey into becoming a mentor and coach on the foundational dynamics between men and women. This book is what helped me begin to see that there are foundational ancient dynamics at play between men and women (no matter how much media, tech, and pop culture tells us otherwise). That’s when I knew I could bring my insights about men and women to help people overcome confusion and dissatisfaction about their interactions and relationships with the opposite sex.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.anyashakh.com
• Instagram: @anyashakh
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@anyashakh