Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Carissa Lataillade. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Carissa, so good to have you with us today. We’ve got so much planned, so let’s jump right into it. We live in such a diverse world, and in many ways the world is getting better and more understanding but it’s far from perfect. There are so many times where folks find themselves in rooms or situations where they are the only ones that look like them – that might mean being the only woman of color in the room or the only person who grew up in a certain environment etc. Can you talk to us about how you’ve managed to thrive even in situations where you were the only one in the room?
As a black woman and a psychotherapist, I’ve often found myself being the only person of color in a room. The unspoken expectation of representing an entire ethnicity can be overwhelming. Amidst the whirlwind of thoughts, staying focused and successful can be challenging. However, I’ve developed three essential strategies that have helped me thrive in such situations.
1. Understanding Your Purpose and Familiarizing Yourself with the Environment
Whether it’s your first time visiting a space or attending a networking event, understanding the purpose of the meeting is crucial before you decide to RSVP. For instance, if it’s a professional setting, I always ask myself, “Why am I attending this event?” If I can’t answer this question, then there’s no reason for me to go.
2. Preparation and Setting Intentions
Preparation is key to success. For a recent event I attended, my intention was to inform people that my private practice is accepting new clients and that I am an integral part of the local community. One way to communicate this is by referencing the immediate vicinity or local area. Comments like “I live 10 mins away” or “I used to work in the facility on such & such drive” directly link me to the local community.
3. Embracing Your Individuality and Owning the Room
This might be the most important tip of all because, at the end of the day, there is only one you. So, boldly be you! When I walk into a space as the only black woman, I remind myself that I am also the only ME in this space. Embracing your individuality involves identifying what you will and will not do (i.e., speaking on behalf of your ethnicity vs speaking on behalf of your business). This can be a unique opportunity to let others in the room become more familiar with who you are and what you do, on your terms.
By following these three tips, I ensure that by the time I step into the room, I am comfortable. Comfort leads to confidence, and it’s with that confidence that we can be more effective and successful. Remember, your uniqueness is your strength. Own it!
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
I am Carissa Lataillade, LMFT, a dedicated Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist passionate about supporting individuals through their most challenging life moments. As a Black psychotherapist, I am committed to assisting clients with turning obstacles into opportunities for growth and self-discovery.
In February 2024, I opened my private practice, Paladin Psychotherapy & Family Counseling, Inc. With a focus on psychotherapy for adult individuals and couples, Paladin Psychotherapy offers a strength-based and collaborative therapeutic approach, incorporating techniques from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, and Mindfulness. At Paladin Psychotherapy & Family Counseling, Inc., we provide a safe space to guide clients on a transformative path towards redefining what’s possible.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
Reflecting on my journey, I am often amazed by my capacity to grow and the exciting potential that still lies ahead. The road to licensure as a mental health professional is a winding one, fraught with challenges that test our mettle, pushing us to our limits, and sometimes beyond. Yet, it is precisely these trials that shape us, molding us into the professionals we aspire to be.
One of the most impactful qualities I’ve cultivated is understanding my motivational factors. What fuels your fire? What gives you the strength to rise, dust off, and march on when life knocks you down? For me, it has always been my faith, a beacon of light guiding me through life’s darkest adversities. I urge you to delve deep within yourself, to discover that which keeps you going in the face of adversity.
Another crucial aspect of this journey is striking a harmonious work-life balance. In our relentless pursuit of career advancement, we often bite off more than we can chew, inadvertently straining our personal lives. Remember, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Creating space for our personal lives early on can pave the way for a healthier work-life balance and a more fulfilled life.
Lastly, as my former mentor once told me, “never lose your sense of curiosity.” The path to licensure is a wealth of knowledge, and even after we’re licensed, the learning never ceases. As mental health professionals, our curiosity is our compass, guiding us to stay abreast of our clients’ health changes and the latest best practices in our field.
So, to those embarking on this journey to becoming a mental health professional, I say this: Discover your motivators, strive for balance, and let your curiosity guide you. The road may be long and winding, but every step, every stumble, every triumph is a part of your unique journey. Embrace it all, for it is these experiences that will shape you into the professional you aspire to be.
How would you describe your ideal client?
When I think of my ideal client , I think of someone who’s ready to really get to know themselves, to dig deep and figure out who they are and what they’re about. They might be dealing with some tough stuff like mood swings, grief, or family drama.
They’re looking for someone who gets them, who can give them the tools they need to handle life’s ups and downs. They want to feel good about themselves, be proud of where they come from, and learn how to deal with feeling alone.
Their big goal? To find a balance in life where they’re growing as a person and feeling good at the same time. They’re all about making real, meaningful changes in their lives. And that’s the kind of journey I’m here to help with.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.paladinmft.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paladinmft
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/paladinmft
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paladinmft
- Other: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/carissa-lataillade-santa-clarita-ca/826933
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