Meet Christin Becker

We were lucky to catch up with Christin Becker recently and have shared our conversation below.

Christin, we’re thrilled to have you sharing your thoughts and lessons with our community. So, for folks who are at a stage in their life or career where they are trying to be more resilient, can you share where you get your resilience from?

Resilience Isn’t Just a Trait — It’s a Journey

Resilience is the ability to move through and grow from difficult times. When I look at the characteristics of a resilient person—flexibility, a positive outlook, emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries, a heart for service, problem-solving skills, and self-discipline—I see myself.

Four and a half years ago, I made one of the hardest and bravest decisions of my life: I walked away from a 27-year marriage that was unhealthy, emotionally and verbally abusive, and controlling. As a stay-at-home mom, I was so afraid of the unknown and what this journey of leaving would mean for me and our kids. I didn’t know if I could make it on my own. But deep down, I knew I had to try. Staying felt familiar, but it wasn’t safe. Leaving was necessary if I wanted to live the life I was meant for.

Since then, I’ve been rebuilding—not just my life, but myself. With every choice I’ve made on my own, my confidence has grown. I’ve discovered that I am stronger than I ever realized. I am a survivor. And more than that—I am thriving.

This chapter is mine to write. And I’m proud of the woman I’m becoming.

My four amazing young adult children have been my biggest cheerleaders, and watching them thrive too has been the greatest reward. Our healing has been a shared journey, and it’s proof that breaking free from what hurts us can lead to something more beautiful than we imagined. We have all learned and grown from facing challenges.

To anyone who feels stuck, scared, or silenced—I want you to know that resilience is within you too. You can do hard things. And when you do, you don’t just survive. You rise.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

When going through my divorce, I found a certified coaching program about becoming a divorce coach. I dove into the program and became a Certified Divorce Coach® in August 2021. I am passionate about helping women in this emotional transition to show up for themselves and thrive again. I have the education and the personal experience to partner with my clients to share tools, resources, and emotional support in one of the most difficult times in their lives. Taking an active role in your divorce journey is important, and I help my clients do just that!

Divorce is 80% emotional, 10% legal, and 10% financial. As a Certified Divorce Coach®, I tackle the 80% to help my clients make informed and emotionally sound financial and legal decisions. I am a member of several professional divorce groups that offer resources to guide my clients financially and legally through this journey. Gaining information and knowledge gives my clients more confidence, which helps them make informed decisions.

As I work with my clients, I am focused on their situation at the moment, as divorce is a fluid process and a roller coaster of emotions. I am an accountability partner with experience in navigating the peaks and valleys. By helping them with their emotions, my clients save money, take the lead with their divorce team, and can become credible clients (in mediation, in the courtroom, prepared for appointments, etc.).

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

One of the biggest things that helped me navigate my own divorce—and what I now guide my clients through—is learning to focus on the controllables.

Divorce is messy. It’s emotional. And so much of it is outside of our control. The legal process, the timing, your ex’s behavior, the court’s decisions—all of it can leave you feeling powerless. But I learned that letting go of what I couldn’t control and putting my energy into what I could control made all the difference.

For me, that looked like taking care of my physical health—I stuck with my personal trainer and even added a boxing class, which became a great outlet for releasing frustration and negativity.

I prioritized my mental health, seeking out experts who could help me understand the confusing parts of the process and give me tools to stay grounded.

And I invested in my spiritual health—finding a church family that reminded me I wasn’t alone in this journey.

When I work with clients, I encourage them to participate actively in their healing. I live by the phrase:
“If it is to be, it’s up to me.”

Reacting to the chaos of divorce can lead to big emotions, conflict, and more pain. But when you learn to respond—to be intentional, to let go of what you can’t control, and to focus on what you can—you begin to reclaim your peace and your power.

You don’t have to do it all at once. But each small step you take is a step toward strength, clarity, and healing. 💛

As we end our chat, is there a book you can leave people with that’s been meaningful to you and your development?

Let Them, by Mel Robbins

One of the most powerful things I’ve learned—and now teach my clients—is to focus on the controllables in the divorce process. There’s so much that’s out of our hands: court delays, co-parenting challenges, someone else’s anger or behavior. Trying to control those things only drains our energy. Letting go of what we can’t control gives us space to grow, heal, and move forward.

One resource that’s resonated with me and I share with my clients is Mel Robbins’ book, Let Them. It’s full of simple but impactful reminders. One of her core messages is:

Let them.
Let them be angry.
Let them delay.
Let them act out.
Let. Them. Go.

We often waste energy trying to manage how others show up, and all the what-ifs, but true freedom comes when we realize we don’t have to. We’re allowed to let people be who they are—and refocus on what we can control.

Mel breaks it down into three things you always have control over:

What you think.
You can’t always stop a negative thought from showing up, but you can choose what to do next. Refocus. Turn on uplifting music. Take a walk. Shake off the negativity. Your thoughts are powerful, and you get to direct them.

What you do.
You always have a choice in how you show up. You get to decide whether to speak up or stay silent, to pause or take action. Gather information, take your time, and respond with confidence and intention. The next step is yours to make, so be thoughtful in it.

How you respond.
This is your superpower. Whether it’s an ex trying to push buttons, a sudden court delay, or a life curveball—you get to decide how to respond. Responding vs reacting gives you control of your emotional state, and it keeps you in control. There is strength in staying calm and responsive.

These tools aren’t just for divorce—they’re for life. But they’re especially important during a season that’s full of emotion, uncertainty, and change.

So if you’re in the middle of it, remember:
Focus on what you can control. Let the rest go. Let them. 💛

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.divorcerecoverycoach.com/
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