Meet Dan Drake

Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Dan Drake. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Dan, first a big thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts and insights with us today. I’m sure many of our readers will benefit from your wisdom, and one of the areas where we think your insight might be most helpful is related to imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is holding so many people back from reaching their true and highest potential and so we’d love to hear about your journey and how you overcame imposter syndrome.
Man, this is a tough one. Imposter syndrome? Not me… Oh wait, that’s me too…. I have to say that I’m perpetually indebted to the clients I see day in and day out with imposter syndrome. And if I could be so bold, that’s all of us. We all have things about ourselves or about how we show up in the world that we feel insecure about. If only____. If I could be like ________, I could ______. Or, if people only knew _________ about me they would never ___________. Sound familiar? Well, that’s so core to all of us. So I’m grateful to know so many brave clients who have been able to be vulnerable to share their own imposter syndrome. And these are clients who have achieved the highest awards, accolades, successes, etc. So I have to come to learn that all of us are insecure on some level. And maybe as I accept my own imperfections, I find my perfect humanity.

Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
I’m a psychotherapist who has specialized in treating sex addiction and betrayal trauma. I love my work and yet my work is tough. People I work with are experiencing the most devastating pain of their lives after discovery of sexual betrayal. But I have the honor and privilege to walk with couples as they are healing their relationships after sexual betrayal. My biggest contribution to the field of healing after sexual betrayal is my work in the full disclosure process – how couples can heal after sexual betrayal. A colleague and I have written a series of workbooks for couples in the “Full Disclosure” series, including “Full Disclosure – How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal.”

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
Some of the things I’ve had to learn that have been most impactful to me are to see that we are all fundamentally good, but also that we’re all fundamentally insecure. When I coudld come to terms with what it meant to be a human being, it really helped me to be the best version of myself.

For folks early on the journey, I’d really strongly recommend for you to become the best version of yourself. I know it’s cliche, but there is nobody like you in the universe. Stop trying to be someone else. Really be YOU. The world needs YOU.

As we end our chat, is there a book you can leave people with that’s been meaningful to you and your development?
So, this is going to be a strange pick. But “Crime and Punishment” is my favorite book, I love how Dostoyevsky portrays the impact of something catastrophic that someone does, and the ways that this behavior impacts the individual. It’s been so pivotal for me to see that we are all so influenced by what we do. I know I’m not what I do, and yet what I do mirrors who I am and who I can become. This book inspires me each and every day to become the best version of myself. I want to put into the world what I want to get out of it, and to operate each and every day based on what helps myself, others, and the world become a better place.

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