Meet Daniela Pair

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Daniela Pair. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Daniela below.

Daniela, so great to have you with us and we want to jump right into a really important question. In recent years, it’s become so clear that we’re living through a time where so many folks are lacking self-confidence and self-esteem. So, we’d love to hear about your journey and how you developed your self-confidence and self-esteem.

I grew up in Quito, Ecuador, a city shaped by the mindset: “Tell me how much you have, and I will tell you who you are.” As part of the upper-middle class, I felt the constant pressure to strive for more, to reach the next level of status. Comparison and criticism were deeply ingrained in the culture, and as a result, I struggled with self-doubt and a lack of confidence from an early age.

At 21, I moved to the United States, and just a few months after my arrival, I made the decision to follow Jesus. Through Him, many things in my life became clear, yet my identity was still clouded by sin, shame, and self-doubt.

As I grew in my relationship with the Lord, I began to understand more about the Father’s love for me. Years later, I received the baptism of the Holy Spirit—a turning point in overcoming old habits. However, I was still trapped in a mindset of comparison. At the same time, I was navigating an emotionally abusive marriage. When I discovered that infidelity was a recurring issue, the Lord gave me the strength to end the relationship and move forward with my life.

Yet, even though I knew of God’s love for me, my self-esteem had taken a significant hit. Old feelings of doubt resurfaced, and I found myself seeking affirmation from men rather than from God. In the wake of this identity crisis, I turned to control as a way to find value. I tried daily affirmations, manifestation, gratitude journaling, and self-love exercises. While these practices provided temporary relief, they were still rooted in performance and comparison. My confidence became dependent on maintaining these rituals, and when I failed to keep them up, I was left with an empty, self-absorbed identity that easily crumbled.

Recovering my identity in Christ has been a long journey. His love and mercy found me again, renewing the way I see myself. I no longer seek affirmation from anyone but God. I have learned to hear His voice, to recognize the ways He delights in me. The Lord has shown me that He joyfully created every part of me—my attributes, my talents, and my very being.

My confidence is now built on the unshakable truth that the King of the Universe saw something in me worth dying for. It has been developed through walking hand in hand with Him—even through the valleys of sin, failure, comparison, dishonor, self-doubt, and control. He has shown me that every trial and every victory are part of His work in shaping my character.

Truly understanding that I belong to Him—and that nothing can change that—has given me an eternal perspective on my identity. It has relieved me of the pressure to perform and has allowed me to stand tall as a daughter of the King. My self-worth is now rooted in Him and His love. I am intentional about spending time in His presence, receiving His immense love, getting to know Him more deeply, and embracing His purpose for me.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

I help people connect with Jesus on a deep level, allowing them to receive revelation and healing directly from the heart of God.

I love what I do because I get to witness the Holy Spirit at work in every session. People often uncover things about themselves they never knew, gaining a deeper revelation of their identity and destiny. My passion is to see lives transformed by the love of God, and being used by Him to help bring that transformation is priceless.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

Staying consistent in my relationship with the Lord and committed to Him—regardless of my circumstances or emotions—was key to growing in confidence. Humility also played a crucial role in my growth, as it allowed me to recognize my mistakes and seek help and prayer when needed.

Encouraging others through my own valleys of sadness and disappointment kept me from being consumed by my own struggles. It also helped me realize that I wasn’t alone in my battles—many others were fighting their own.

To close, maybe we can chat about your parents and what they did that was particularly impactful for you?

The most impactful thing my parents did for me was pursuing Jesus for themselves. When I was 12, they began their own journey, shifting our home from a religious atmosphere to a faith built on a personal relationship with God. Their example and commitment laid the foundation for me to later find my own freedom and deepen my relationship with Him.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://Lovingfirst.com
• Instagram: Danielalarcopair
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