Meet Dominique Jones

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Dominique Jones. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Dominique below.

Dominique , we sincerely appreciate you joining us today and agreeing to talk about some very personal topics. So, to kick things off, let’s talk about a tough one – divorce. Can you talk to us about how you overcame divorce?

I overcame divorce by Praying to God on a consistent basis to help and heal me. I knew for sure that I couldn’t make it without God. I literally needed him to to pull me through. I was severely depressed and isolated myself from the world. One day I got out the bed, fell to the floor and began to cry and singing “I need thee Oh I need thee, every hour I need thee, oh bless me now my savior, I come to thee”. I repeatedly sang that song until I began to feel something. That was the boost I needed. After that, I began my healing journey. I first accepted that fact that I was getting divorced and it was real. A lot of times we struggle to “accept” because we don’t want to believe it. I then began to look at myself in the mirror to see where I went wrong and what things I needed to change about myself. I started to work on the things I struggled with and didn’t want to deal with. I faced ME. I then gave myself space and time. I realized that because I wasn’t in the healthiest space that I needed to separate myself for awhile to work on me. I needed that space to release, heal and be intentional about my journey. I had to spend time with myself. I needed to know what I was feeling, what my emotions were saying and what my heart was saying. After that space and time alone, I stopped feeling sorry for myself and started journaling my thoughts, feelings and emotions. I had to decide whether I wanted to be a victim or survivor. Did I want to continue carrying the anger and negative emotions. I had to deal with the guilt and shame, the embarrassment. I had to learn and find my identity. This was a game changer for me as many times I really didn’t want to talk to others about my thoughts and feelings because I really couldn’t trust anyone and didn’t know who to trust. Journaling saved me! It allowed me to get those bottled up thoughts, feelings and emotions out. I realized I no longer had to hold them but could release them to my journal which at the time was a safe space for me. Finally I created a “healthy” support system. Although I had come a long way, I knew that I would need support along the way. I finally was ready to talk, so I reached out to those who I wanted to support me and allowed them “in”.
I overcame divorce by “accepting” divorce, giving myself space and time to process and heal, no longer feeling sorry for myself and creating a healthy support system.

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

I am truly a person who enjoys helping others and enjoying life. My Brand is Purple Butterf.l.y. I created this with the mindset of pushing people to trust the process. When dealing with anything in life especially mental health it’s a process. Many times when we feel pain or hurt we want to “escape” the process because that’s the easy way out. I am lover of butterflies and I thought about the process a butterfly goes through. There’s no way to become that beautiful butterfly without going through that “metamorphosis” stage. You must go through those phases to become the best version of you. I want everyone to understand that YOU matter so no matter what forever love on you. My brand encompasses transformation and all things that pour into you. Self Love. As a certified Life Coach I am always looking to push people to their highest potential and helping them to navigate the challenging life moments by helping them to do the work and trust the process.

Additionally I am the author of a 90 day journal entitled “A Journey To Becoming A Better Me Journal”. This journal was birthed during my divorce process. It was a great outlet for me and I felt that if journaling helped me it could surely help others. I wrote this journal for girls and women who needed a healthy outlet to deal with whatever they’re going through. For the month of September I launched Operation 100 where I had a goal to really focus on mental health and get my journal in the hands of 100 teens/women who are struggling with mental health. So many suffer silently and I wanted to be intentional about combatting that. I am working to expand my brand to reach more teens and girls struggling with mental health. I plan to launch a few events in 2025 that will be super exciting.
https://a.co/d/5traBDA

Currently I work as a Committee Chair Leader for a non profit called Beautiful Spirited Women. I am a founding member of this organization and I have been serving for the past 14/15 years. Beautiful Spirited Women is a support group of women whose sole purpose is to uplift women and girls to higher spirits, rebuild, fellowship and assist worldwide. We mentor girls ages 4-19 about life. We discuss things such as low self esteem, depression, suicide, relationships, college, building healthy relationships with parents, entrepreneurship, resumes, healthy boundaries and so much more. I love this platform because it has allowed me to help girls and women by sharing my story and giving girls tool and resources to overcome trials and challenges.
www.beautifulspiritedwomen.org

I am also a certified DOULA! I love everything about helping mothers understand that their voice matters when it comes to childbirth. I want them to know that they have support during the pregnancy, during the delivery process and post delivery. Having a healthy pregnancy process is important but better yet knowing your rights and being able to advocate for yourself is even more important. My most exciting moments with my clients is when I see them advocate for themselves, get results and enjoy their process.

I guess you can say I’m the Jack of all trades! I’m a servant at heart and I love what I do!

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

I would say the 3 most important qualities, skills or areas of knowledge that were most impactful to me were patience, self care and setting boundaries. You must know that healing is a process and it takes time. It doesn’t happen overnight so you must be patient with yourself and your process. The same grace that you extend to others, extend it to yourself. Things take time and we have to understand and accept that.

Self care is essential. Nurturing your soul, mind and body helps you to center yourself and restore resilience. If your mental is off and you aren’t in a good space you are NO good to yourself or anyone else. Always remember you can’t pour from an empty cup, only from your overflow. Stop giving out from an empty well and that your cup is full and overflowing first THEN give out. Eat healthy meals, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, meditate, get a facial, take a solo vacation, end exhausting relationships and friendships, say NO and be intentional about YOU and your well being.

Setting boundaries….whew I never knew how important this was until I had to know how important this was. I am a lover of people and sometimes I overextend myself to others. It’s exhausting always giving out but never replenishing. I had to learn to say NO and so do you. It’s important to learn to set boundaries and stick to them. Make sure that people respect your boundaries. Boundaries are for your benefit and are much needed. Healthy boundaries matter. Remember boundaries can be physical, mental, intellectual and emotional.

Sometimes these things are hard to do but make sure you take ONE day at a time. Practice these things until they become apart of your daily regimen. Nobody will ever take care of you like you do.

What’s been one of your main areas of growth this year?

My biggest area of growth or improvement in the past 12 months have been self. I found myself always being there and showing up for others and realized that I hadn’t been there or showed up for my own self. I had to take a break and start to really zone in on myself and what I needed and wanted. This was a struggle for me because I like to be there for others, support others and help in anyway possible, however doing that caused me to lose sight on my goals and the things I wanted to achieve in life. Taking a year to really be intentional about myself has grown me in a lot of ways and allowed me to see people for who they really are. It has opened my eyes to a lot and allowed me to discover new things about myself. Being intentional about me this past year has caused to me to see things in a different light, see people in a different light and learn more in depth about myself. At one point I didn’t even love myself, but now, I LOVE ME and the growth I’ve experienced.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.purplebutterfly.shop
• Other: https://a.co/d/5AU38sz

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Beautiful Spirited Women