Meet Dr Brendly Clark Singleton

Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Dr Brendly Clark Singleton. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Hi Dr Brendly, really happy you were able to join us today and we’re looking forward to sharing your story and insights with our readers. Let’s start with the heart of it all – purpose. How did you find your purpose?

I’m not sure if my purpose was described in the previous article but here goes.

My youngest son was murdered on Mother’s Day 2020. Having experienced what was a tremendous tragedy like that can cause a person to lose all hope and sense of direction. I did just that. I am known to rescue others in need. To be that person that is always up and never seen as down or sad. Positive. Positive. Positive. That’s was me. To allow others to see me any other way was just not comfortable for me.
This tragedy turned me inside out and took away my drive and focus. Where do I go from here?

It’s not a common thing to seek out therapy in the black community. We, I was taught to keep my business at home and off the streets. I tried that approach for 6 months and failed. A friend told me about a therapist she had seen and had really good success. It took me a few weeks to make the call, but I did.

Dr. Ron Hornecker became my guidance to a new beginning and purpose. Because I chose to open up to and be vulnerable..I found new purpose. I was able to replace my obsession of revenge with purposeful giving back to my community. I was a changed person on 5/10/2020, unrecognizable to myself. Without a purpose I don’t know where I would be today.

After few weeks of time with Dr. Ron I began to focus on creating another pathway to address my grief. I created a not for profit called NSync Community Development Corporation (NCDC). That became my vehicle for grief therapy and the outlet to giveback to others in my son’s name. Mykahl Zebadiah Singleton. Sunrise 09/15/1994 and forced sunset 05/10/2020.

Today I continue the giving. The first 3 years of purchasing every item for personal care packs for unhoused seniors and veterans and school supplies for at-risk students. I would go out and serve that community twice a year the first 2 years. I connected with others who joined my efforts. Target (24th Street and Baseline), Schiniqua Brown-Rodriguez (Agape on Earth), Brandon Kitchings (Marathon Insurance Group), Nicole Larsen (Hummingbird Healthcare), my two son, Christopher Walker leads a Mentoring and leadership Boxing Club (NCDC No Mercy Boxing) every Saturday (11a-1p) for youth and their parents, Ronald Land II my middle son provides guidance, mentoring and is our DJ for all NCDC events and fundraisers, Monique MCCoy, Rosemary Hill joined in packing bags and providing cases of water to our unhoused community.
I have been blessed in so many ways by others joining in not realizing this was grief therapy for me. It’s year 5 and we are still serving the unhoused seniors and veterans every first Saturday. I look forward to getting out and making that contact each with our team of volunteers, donors, friends and family. What great feeling robberies part.

We’ve been blessed to obtain a beautiful space in Mesa (659 E Main Street #110) in 2024. We provide community development services to the community and residents of El Rancho Del Rio in the form of tutoring, parent support (Parent University), financial literacy, STEAM Summer camp, Fall Break Sessions, cultural events, STEM activities, No Mercy Boxing Club, Senior Caregiver Support services, Social Emotional Learning for students and the parents and so much more! We are learning, growing and changing each day with each personal connection we make.

I tend to forget my grief on NSync Saturdays and time at the center.. It is replaced by the grateful smiles and hugs we get the first Saturday of each month.

Nothing will ever replace the life that was taken from me. I do believe Mykahl would be happy at what I am doing in his name. I appreciate my Christopher and Ronnie as well as my family and friends for their continued love and support.

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

I’m get excited about NSync Saturdays! Time with the unhoused community, time worth our at-risk students and setting them male progress when they thought they couldn’t.

I’d like to invite you readers to join us in supporting our cause through donation of supplies for our persons care bags for the unhoused seniors and veterans, joining us by coming out to experience the spirit of giving on the first Saturday community giveback. Join us in donating your time and/or expertise with a student who could benefit from your skills. Join us by teaching a new skill or class.

Learn more about here:
www.imaginethis-nsync.org

Thank you for your gifts of support, time and service.
Dr. Brendly 🌻

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

My skills were revised as a result of grief and loss.

Perseverance-my persistence to do something difficult during a very painful time in my life

Enhanced resilience- navigating this emotional storm helped me find an inner strength I didn’t know I had. The strength of developing new coping skills and reframing my perspective allowed me to shift my focus and redefine my purpose.
Vengeance would have led to prison. That’s would not have honored my son.

A deeper appreciation for life-I value the present moment with a newfound intensity and appreciation for relationships. I have less tolerance for BS and ppl who want to want my time. As my priorities shifted my core values and beliefs changed.

I have new insights and sense of purpose.
Don’t get me wrong, I would I still have days where I’d like to make his killer suffer like I have. Today that intensity is just not as strong as it was the first year of firsts without Mykahl.

If you knew you only had a decade of life left, how would you spend that decade?

I would spend my last decade of life just as I have these last five years. I would like to serve more people than I have. Money keeps me from that. I will always make time. That’s the easy part.

Hopefully I have another decade to make Mykahl proud and continue to set the example of strength of giving for my two sons and five beautiful grandchildren. Incidentally, my youngest grandson helps pack the personal care bags. Even my 4 year old grandson. He can tell you who the bags are for. He reminds so very much of a young Mykahl. ❤️

What a great feeling to include them
In my final decade or two…

Contact Info:

• Website: www.imagine this-nsync.org
• Instagram: ncdcnonprofit
• Facebook: Facebook/bren.clark.12
• Linkedin: //linkedin.com/in/brendly-c-38115ab