Meet Fallon Jaye

We recently connected with Fallon Jaye and have shared our conversation below.

Hi FALLON, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?

re·sil·ience
/rəˈzilēəns/
noun
1.
the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

2.
the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.

Resilience is a choice. While we may never “bounce back” we can always view the obstacles in our path AS the path. As well as view our experiences as ways we’re being sharpened in our character, our faith, our capacity to hold space, as well as heal.

My resilience comes from my chaotic childhood, as I was raised by a single hard working mother which resulted in be being alone a lot from the age of 5. I walked myself to school and back, and learned some independence very young. I moved a lot as well, and went to multiple schools which required me to hold myself in my discomfort from a young age, and quickly adapt to my new environment to ensure I did well in school, made friends, and fulfill my own extrovert desires to play sports, try out for the school plays, and build a new social life with each new beginning.

I’ve also lost a lot in terms of my material life as a teenager, so much so I didn’t know where I’d be living due to unforeseen circumstances out of my 16 year old hands. Once I reached my 5th Highschool, because of moves and parental choices, I decided to graduate early as a Junior, while simultaneously making up most of my 10th grade year due to not being in school much because of home life, and doing my senior year work, all as a junior. I graduated with a 3.9 GPA because I always refused to let my life circumstances deter me from my goals and dreams.

Fast forward MANY years and I needed up in an abusive relationship with my daughters dad where I had to leave with $600 in my bank account and start my life completely over at 39. Let me tell you what I didn’t see coming, THAT! I have to find levity in all now, because I’m on the other side at 42 years old and thriving, healthy, happy with my kiddo. I’ve never given myself the option to give up, or quit, but I have taken time to rest and heal. My resilience and deep healing in this iteration of my life has been because I went into my childhood trauma, felt it fully, grieved it, let my body move it through me with tapping, embodiment, and honesty with myself in each moment of what sensations are happening, and what that part of me needs.

My resilience comes from walking with my fears, not trying to outrun them. It comes in the raw moments that life brings you to your knees in prayer, and decided that faith is exactly what can carry you through because the unknown is all we ever truly live. I’ve learned to deeply trust myself and my body’s wisdom, as well as my own intuition.

My resilience comes from looking at myself in the mirror and seeing where I played a part in ALL areas of my life, and not demonizing myself, but loving those parts of me. I no longer let those wounded parts of me drive the car, but I don’t leave them behind either. I let them come, in the back seat with their snacks and reassure them we’re safe, and they don’t get to dictate my life anymore.

Resiliency means knowing when to rest, knowing when to move, getting out of your own way by taking the next right step in front of you, but leaving the starting line even if you can’t see where the entire path will take you. It requires you to fully feel your wounds, your pain, as what’s on the other side is so much beauty, peace, and more confidence, abundance, and satisfaction.

We get to be the ones to decide what we do when Life LIFE’s us hard, it’s in the next choice you make, it’s in the next mindset you choose to subscribe to. We can make that pivot at any point, no matter what our past experiences have been.

Love yourself and leave no parts of yourself behind you resilient Queen, you!

– Fallon Jaye

Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?

I am an Embodiment Coach, but what the heck does that mean? I believe, and we have so much studied evidence now that everything happens in the body, and it’s through the our sensations, feelings, and emotions that we learn what we are still holding that is either keeping us where we are, or moving is in the direction we dream.

I help women, and a few men, move through their self perceived limitations through guiding them into their body’s wisdom. With women, I really guide them in their sensuality work as well. I guide to dissolve the shame of being sensual, and teach how to trust the wisdom of each of their senses for a more successful, well rounded, healthy, fun, abundant life.

I’m often told how one session with me is like, “Therapy times 100!” because of the modalities I use, along with my own healing energy and intuitive gifts.

I am also the creator of TEAM SYNERGY DAYS for businesses, as I coach the CEO and their team on how to cultivate healthier conscious communication in their work, to support the synergy of the team. We do this through practices, and exercises, as well as creating deeper awareness for each employee of where their own traumas may be playing out in ways that are holding them back. I consider myself HOLISTIC HR – another facet of what I’ve created as I’ve seen what my clients and their businesses need.

I sprinkle in Human Design in all I do, as I believe it’s so helpful for my clients to know how their body was meant to move through Earth and communicate with God, and the Universe.

I have a powerful group mastermind called THE DEEP END, which is 4 months long of intense, powerful, healing work for the woman feeling stuck, or just not connected to the incredible life she worked hard to build. I will be doing my next enrollment for that soon.

I’ve also just opened up spaces to work with me One on One where we meet and curate an individual plan for what you most need, be it in business, or sexual healing, or healing with partner, it’s all similar innerwork but we’re able to direct the energy where you most need and want.

Lastly, but most importantly, I am a single mom of my 8 year old daughter who teaches me so much about being embodied, as she feels her feelings, expresses them so well, and never forgets to have fun in it all.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

The 3 areas that has been most impactful on my journey are,
Learning what my trauma did to/for me,
How it’s still playing out in areas of my life,
and Learning where my emotional intelligence is/was because of the above.

The skills, tools, and practices to get honest with myself and observe the above is what led me to enhance and increase my own emotional intelligence, which has drastically changed my life, relationships, and work. It’s absolutely something I teach and help my clients through, as it’s a game changer!

My advice here is to look at where your emotions feel like they are running your life more, and what emotional responses to you have right now when life is challenging. Are they serving the person you want to become? If not, that’s ok, start to learn emotional regulation, and holding yourself differently in discomfort, and foundational start to journal out your feelings before you communicate them with others, this will help you stay grounded, in your body, and aware so you can actually receive more from what this experience is trying to teach you.

Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?

As a single mom with a less than stellar coparenting relationship, and no family support where I live, overwhelm can often try to be a good friend. However, overwhelm is feedback where it’s time to take a step back and choose a different perspective on your life at the moment. It’s also feedback where you may be repressing feelings and emotions that really need to move through you to help you feel lighter and less full of pressure, frustration, and overwhelm. Running a household solo, and ensuring I’m a present Mother, while being an entrepreneur it could be easy to let it creep in, take over, and feel justified in it, but I made myself a promise a long time ago. Which is, to be really honest when my victim mentality comes up, and not bypass her, but not let her take over either, and for me, that’s what my overwhelm is, my victim needing attention, love, rest, or validation. I do not set up camp in overhwelm-ville though, but I don’t ignore that part of me either, and neither should you.

So, identify where you feel overwhelm in your body, what are the sensations? colors? textures? Ask that part of you what does she need? Take a breath, take 5! Always come back to your breath, and come back to present moment recognizing everything right now is ok. Drink some water, take a step back, do some embodiment work like intuitive movement, or tapping, and when you return just assess the next best step and nothing more. Once you take that step, the rest will be revealed. You can also break things out into digestible pieces and focus only on that once piece at a time, not the entire picture of what is in front of you. Hire someone or join a group to help you navigate through this as well! THAT is a huge part of selfcare, seeking and investing in support for yourself on your journey.

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