We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Gina Delbello a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Gina, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?
Resilience? That came from my mother. 100%. My mom was probably the most resilient person I’ve ever met.
I had a hard childhood. We had a very tumultuous relationship . But I couldn’t imagine learning to be a strong woman from anyone else.
She was a single mom throughout 97% of my life. And she did it well.
She was a cattle farmer in my younger childhood . A SINGLE FEMALE cattle farmer. In a time when men were door knocking to get oil rights. When I was about 6, she did a herd dispersal, sold all the land, kept her leather couches, dinning table and coffee table – and put herself back through school. This was all when she was in her late mid to late 30s? Like there is 9 years between me and my next sibling. And when they were old enough to decide they didn’t want to live with her, they all left and I was the only one left with her.
She really did it all on her own. Not always well. But she always came back to herself. And in my entire childhood – and now looking back I know how hard it was for her. To champion for herself when no one else was , but I never saw my mom cry. She never let me know how hard it was . Even when we moved back in with her parents and she was studying until all hours of the morning, and I was falling asleep with her at the computer. She never let me know how hard it was and looking back that’s amazing given everything she went through.
I think any sliver of strength I have as a woman as a mom I owe to her.
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
Right now I feel like I’m rebranding.
I feel like I’m trying to redefine myself as a content creator and that’s a journey in itself. I don’t think anybody really talks about how hard it is to rediscover yourself in the middle of your life because everyone who gets close to you in the last phase of your life almost feels like they’re being let down when you grow onto something else and being a people pleaser that’s really hard for me because I do try to make everyone happy and sometimes I find myself getting away from the content that I actually want to make, and I’m analyzing “what will the message be portrayed as” and so on and it gets quite tedious at the end of it.
I got into content creation and a time where it wasn’t really a thing and I was just sharing pieces of my life and people really enjoyed it and then getting brand deals and having to promote and I really do try to stay 100% authentic, but I do find myself being like “is this actually something I wanna say or not” so I think I’m just trying to recover myself in the midst of getting so caught up with what everybody else wanted to see so I’m excited to see how this goes because before my life was the exact opposite and now I’m in a homesteading era and to be the best mom and housewife, I can be. Living my best life in the country where it’s quiet and things move slower.
I feel like we ended our psilocybin company, packed up, wanted a change and created a farm instead and right now that’s kind of where all of my dedication is being put. I’m enjoying every moment of raising our child, being a future wife to an amazing man and trying to make our lives as healthy as possible.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
I swear these three things are the secret to success. I’m not even joking so confidence even when you aren’t feeling confident, the second one would be kindness because you can literally get anywhere with kindness and the third is slowing down. And we’re gonna dive into all 3 of these.
So confidence is the first one right? So when I say confidence I mean when you get out of your vehicle, I want you to act like you are in a hair commercial. You need to be feeling it because just like you watch people people watch you and everybody is going to see you get out of your vehicle and see you radiate this, amazing energy and that makes people turn and look that makes people watch that makes people take notice and look at themselves and go. I don’t have that but I want that in your favor yourself get noticed it is a game changer. It’s a confidence boost and nothing bad happens on a confidence boost .
The second quality would be kindness.
I’ve learned that kindness can go a long way in getting what you want. When you show kindness, people are more likely to remember it and return the favor. I was reminded of this when I watched the movie Homeward Bound as a child. There’s a scene where Sassy, one of the main animal characters, wants shrimp but pretends she doesn’t. Her owner tries to feed it to her, and eventually, she gives in and enjoys it. The owner rewards her with more shrimp. This scene taught me that sometimes, playing the long game and being kind can lead to positive outcomes. By being kind, you can build relationships and earn the respect of others, which can ultimately help you achieve your goals.
And the 3rd. I think this is a new one for me and more important as I get older – but slowing down. And I grew up very – quick, quick, quick. There was no time for slow. My mom did everything fast. I think shouting “quick” in French was honestly one of her favorite things.
But it’s good to slow down. And it’s good to do things that make you slow down. I do everything fast and I’m really getting good at being like ok, I’m going to walk slower, I’m going to drive slower, I’m going to talk slower, I’m going to chew slower. It’s a constant, but the reward it actually just being more in tune with myself and being present so it’s a skill I need to work on but it’s extremely important.
Any advice for folks feeling overwhelmed?
This is a great question. I think the biggest thing to do is to take a step back. I myself tend to think of everything all at once , so instead of looking at things in steps or stages and making it smaller to move ahead and accomplish the bigger things or deal with what ever it is, I think it’s really good to dissect as many aspects to not get so overwhelmed. Stress is no joke and neither is not being able to sleep because you have something looming over your head. Stop. Take a breath. And analyze it differently. Start with a small step first.
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