Meet Heidi Carlson

We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Heidi Carlson. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Heidi below.

Heidi, thanks so much for taking the time to share your insights and lessons with us today. We’re particularly interested in hearing about how you became such a resilient person. Where do you get your resilience from?

Growing up, I witnessed committed, hard working parents who had a hard life, unhappy and difficult marriage. My parents’ upbringing and life was not easy—it was filled with a lot of struggle and disappointments. But seeing how hard they worked to provide for their family and give us opportunities, instilled a strong work ethic, belief in myself, determination, and the same level of resilience they had.

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

Heidi Carlson is a Mother Wound Coach who helps women heal deep-rooted wounds from their upbringing that affect their relationships, marriage, parenting, and careers.

She guides women to reclaim their power, achieve inner peace, and build healthy, meaningful connections in all areas of their lives — so they can thrive and create the life they deserve.

As the youngest of five children born to immigrant parents in an arranged marriage, Heidi witnessed the complexities of her parents’ unhealthy relationship.

Growing up, she realized early on that many essential relationship skills were missing from her environment, inspiring her to seek growth.

At just 19, Heidi began her journey of self-discovery and personal development, starting with therapy and coaching, followed by enrollment in diverse personal development programs.

Through this process, Heidi healed her own mother wounds, transformed her relationship with her mother, and learned how to build powerful, healthy relationships.

In 2021, Heidi decided to transition careers and apply her life’s work to help others. She completed a rigorous nine-month training program, graduating as a Certified Master Life Coach.

Throughout her life, Heidi has passionately guided hundreds of people on transformative journeys of healing, growth, and empowerment.

Over time, Heidi decided to focus her practice on helping women heal their mother wounds as she feels this is where she can make the greatest impact on people, families, generations– the world.

In her coaching practice, Heidi Carlson Coaching, Heidi offers 1:1 coaching sessions (virtual and in-person) and small intimate group coaching (maximum six women).

Heidi is also available for speaking engagements on the topics of:

– why and how wounds and traumas form during our upbringing
– lasting impacts of (unhealed) mother wounds and traumas in adulthood
– how to gain the awareness of and heal your mother wounds
– navigating a difficult mother-daughter dynamic
– raising secure children
– intergenerational trauma and its lasting impacts on individuals and families
– hidden barriers to building healthy, secure relationships
– how to build healthy, secure relationships

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

Looking back at my life, what was most impactful in my journey was my lifelong pursuit of self-discovery and personal development work.

The personal growth work I’ve done since age 19 has been life changing, for me and for all my important relationships. I’ve also helped many people along my journey heal, grow and transform.

I fell in-love with personal development work at a very young age and knew the power of it.

I grew up in a people pleasing family without any awareness of boundaries, self-compassion, self-prioritization, self-approval, self-love, self-acceptance, vulnerability and emotional expression. Codependency was also present; we were a very enabling family. I also did not see healthy communication and conflict modeled.

I knew I had a lot of work ahead of me,

The work I’ve done (and continue to) has allowed me to vividly understand who I am, my upbringing, my personal struggles, recurring relationship patterns, triggers, my parents, their upbringing, their and my wounds and traumas, and all I was lacking when it came to relationships, i.e., the list noted above.

Through my work, I healed all my known wounds and traumas, learned how to prioritize me, have self-compassion, self-love and acceptance; and I learned all the essentials to build and maintaining healthy, secure relationships.

I now have healthy boundaries, know how to communicate my needs/desires/opinions without worry and know how to show up in conflict.

I freed myself from a lot of internal struggle and freed my son from the possibility and likelihood of inheriting my intergenerational trauma. While I have had many wins in my life, this is my biggest win.

A quality I am extremely proud of: I am an outstanding listener.

I have been that way my entire life. People, friends, even strangers, have always naturally gravitated towards me for sound advice, a compassionate ear, for guidance, understanding, encouragement, and wisdom. I have been helping people since I was young and I knew early on it was a gift.

It was no surprise I became a life coach. I knew I would enter this field eventually because I have always had a deep desire to help people heal and grow from struggle, become a better version of themselves, put them first, and be the best human for themselves and for others.

I light up when I see joyful people. And when I see people in pain, I want to help.

Another quality I am proud of: I see the good in all people. I admire and honor the uniqueness in every human. I believe we are all equal; no one is better than the other. I believe we can do anything we want, be anyone we want as long as we are not harming others or putting people in danger. I also believe we all deserve respect and the same opportunities.

Another quality I am proud of: I make all people feel seen, heard, valued, important. When I engage with people, I give them my full attention and enjoy calling out the good I see in them. I am a big complementer; my complements are always authentic, straight from the heart.

How would you describe your ideal client?

My ideal client is a women who is struggling with themselves. They do not prioritize themselves, do not have healthy boundaries nor self-compassion; they have insecurities and low self-worth, struggle with healthy communication, conflict and being vulnerable. They do not know how to express themselves emotionally and share with others. They are living for other people or on other people’s terms (i.e., their mothers’ terms and always seeking their mothers’ approval); they struggle in their (intimate) relationships and in their relationship with their mother. They are unclear as to why they keep struggling and want to figure it out so they can heal and break free from the (constant) pain. They want a better life. They do not know how to build healthy relationships and heal the relationship with their mother. They have triggers they don’t understand and recurring patterns and behaviors that repeatedly impact their relationships. They are conflicted internally, lack peace, self-trust and do not how to put themselves first.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.heidicarlsoncoaching.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heidicarlsoncoaching
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heidicarlsoncoaching
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heidibcarlson