We recently connected with Helena Goto and have shared our conversation below.
Hi Helena, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?
It is no secret that failure builds resilience, so one can rightly assume that I have had my fair share of failure.
I remember at times wondering if there was something wrong with me because nothing ever seemed to come easily. Was it that I expected to fail? Did I send out loser energy? Was I pushing so hard that I was pushing what I wanted away from me?
Although looking inward, and trying to understand what is your responsibility is important, I think in hindsight, I had such a long way to go from where I began to find my happiness and success, that it was simply a long journey of trial and error. And all that trial and error, never giving up and always getting back up, is what has built my resilience.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
No one wants to be miserable at work and my job is to make sure you are not. Companies hire me to support their people navigate through conflict they are experiencing at work. People don’t leave companies they leave managers and the impact both negatively and positively a manager can have on a person’s life is extraordinary. When this goes unchecked due to a lack of oversight, really bad things can happen that not only impact the company’s bottom line, but also people’s lives.
In addition, I have applied my conflict resolution skills to my marriage ending and have successfully created a third option to living miserably married or blowing the family apart through a high-conflict divorce: Living together and separate. Recently I published a book about this journey, titled, A Modern Family, keeping the family intact when the marriage is over. This is a subject I am deeply passionate about as, unlike work where if you are miserable you can quit, there is no quitting being a parent, no matter how badly you perform or hate your marriage.
My work is all based in supporting people to be honest and gain clarity about where they are now and where they want to be, then motivating and enabling them to close the gap.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
The most important skills I have used to navigate my journey so far are the ability to listen to myself and to others, to be honest with myself and with others and finally to be patient with myself and others.
One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?
Collaborating is one of my favorite things to do, we all have unique skills and genius, and when we are able to combine them, the outcome can be exponential.
Firstly, I have recently launched The Resolutionary Leaders Podcast where I interview leaders who have successfully navigated conflict in the workplace, if this is you I would love to discuss the opportunity fo you to be a guest on the show. Alternatively, for anyone looking to create a workplace environment that is free of toxic conflict, or finally if you are struggling in a miserable marriage and would like to discuss how to apply the together-apart approach, I would love to hear from you.
To book a time to chat please visit my website www.helenagoto.com.
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