Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Ibbie Aromolaran. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Ibbie, we’re thrilled to have you on our platform and we think there is so much folks can learn from you and your story. Something that matters deeply to us is living a life and leading a career filled with purpose and so let’s start by chatting about how you found your purpose.
My journey to this path began in my early 20s when I was working at a bar. I often found myself listening to the stories of friends, coworkers, and patrons. I became a supportive, empathetic ear for others, and I was frequently told that I should become a therapist. Over time, I realized that I not only had a natural affinity for it, but also genuinely enjoyed helping others in this way. This sparked a curiosity in me to learn more about the underlying causes of common relational challenges and their connection to mental health. Driven by this desire to deepen my understanding, I decided to pursue further education and make this passion my career.
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
I’m a licensed mental health therapist and dating/relationship coach, and my passion lies in empowering women to break free from unhealthy relational patterns. My work primarily focuses on women who have cycled through toxic relationships, but I also work with a range of concerns like anxiety, depression, trauma, codependency, eating disorders, and various relational challenges.
What truly excites me about my work is helping women reconnect with themselves and heal from the deeper wounds linked to their childhood relationships, especially with caregivers. I enjoy guiding them through the process of understanding how their past experiences connect to the challenges they’re facing today.
One of the most rewarding parts of this work is seeing women shift from feeling isolated in their struggles to realizing that they are not alone. I’ve had the privilege of working with women from all over the world, and it’s remarkable how, despite our unique backgrounds and stories, there’s always so much overlap in our experiences.
Looking ahead, I have big plans for 2025! I’ll be hosting various webinars and group coaching sessions, designed to further support women on their healing journeys and offer practical tools for navigating relationships. I’m constantly evolving my work and creating new ways to support and inspire the women I work with, so be sure to stay tuned for exciting updates throughout the year!
In the meantime, I wrote a book of poetry and prose titled “Tales of a Situationship”. It’s written as journal entries from the perspective of a woman who’s cycled through the stages of an unhealthy relationship—from the initial excitement, to the confusion and heartache in the middle, and finally, to redemption and healing. Each stage comes with reflective journal prompts to help guide the reader through their own journey.
I have also created a deck of conversation playing cards called “Sick of Situationship: Conversation Starters for Reflection on Crappy Relationships”. These cards are designed to help people reflect on their relationship experiences and spark meaningful discussions about healing, growth, and self-awareness.
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
One key thing I would say is to have the courage to put yourself out there. When I decided to start posting my knowledge and advice on social media, I wasn’t just sharing my expertise—I was also putting myself in a space where I was open to judgment, criticism, and other vulnerabilities. But with that vulnerability, I also created an opportunity to connect with others, invite them into my world, and offer a space where they felt seen. The right people resonated, and they were drawn to my message. If I had held back or shied away from following my purpose, I wouldn’t be where I am today, and I wouldn’t have been able to help as many people as I have. Develop an “idgaf. I’m going to do it anyway” attitude.
Another piece of advice I would give is to stay mission-driven and always remember your “why”. As a business owner, I’ve learned that outcomes are never guaranteed, and there will always be moments when I need to pivot or adapt my approach. However, what has kept me going is staying connected to my mission. Whether it’s coaching, “therapizing”, speaking, writing, or offering resources, my core mission has always been to help women heal and thrive in their relationships. Even if my path has shifted at times, the mission has remained my anchor.
A final piece of advice is to stay connected to who you are. Whether that means staying close to loved ones, engaging in your hobbies, or taking time to rest and reset, filling up your cup is essential at every stage of your journey. When you’re connected to yourself and your passions, you’ll be able to pour from a joyous place, rather than feeling drained. You’ll also have the ability to block out unnecessary outside noise and distractions. I’ve found that the moments when I knew I was off course were when everything started to feel draining and irritating. Once I tuned back into myself, I returned to enjoying what I do, focusing on daily actions that feel aligned with my purpose, instead of stressing over the end outcomes. When you take care of yourself, your gift will flow freely- guided by passion and purpose.
Who is your ideal client or what sort of characteristics would make someone an ideal client for you?
My ideal client is a woman who has cycled through unhealthy relationships and is finally ready to break free from the patterns that have held her back for so long. Maybe she’s successful in her career, crushing it in other areas of her life, but when it comes to her relationships, she just can’t seem to get it right. Maybe she grew up in a household where she had to shapeshift or people-please to feel safe or loved, constantly appeasing her parents just to keep the peace. This has led her to develop a deep fear of abandonment, and now she finds herself stuck in relationships that don’t fulfill her, feeling like she’s giving more than she’s getting, or staying in situations that don’t align with her values or needs.
She’s tired of repeating these patterns and is ready to heal. She knows she deserves more, and she’s ready to step into her power, learn how to set boundaries, and let go of the people-pleasing habits that have been keeping her stuck. She’s ready to create new, healthy relationship dynamics, where she is honored, seen, and loved for who she truly is. She’s ready for the tools, strategies, and support to curate the relationships she truly deserves—not just in love, but in friendships, family, and within herself.
Contact Info:
- Website: www.auroraloverelationships.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sickofsituationship/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/auroralovecounseling
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sickofsituationship
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sickofsituationship
