Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Jamie Day. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Jamie, so great to be with you and I think a lot of folks are going to benefit from hearing your story and lessons and wisdom. Imposter Syndrome is something that we know how words to describe, but it’s something that has held people back forever and so we’re really interested to hear about your story and how you overcame imposter syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome is a reminder for me that I am a work in process. Maybe I always will be. The fear that I’m not really who I say or think I am goes deep. How many of us have childhood wounds from being accused of bragging or thinking too highly of ourselves? It’s like those closest to us believed they had to keep us small, almost diminishing our potential, to keep us safe. And that fear is legitimate. Human history indoctrinates us with the narratives of striving for greatness and then being punished for having the audacity to think we could achieve success. We even have a well-known phrase: “The bigger they are, the harder they fall.” This dynamic was hard for our younger selves to make sense of, and it remains a challenge for our adult selves of today. There is a huge part of me that knows, without any doubt, I am meant to change the world. There is also a side of me that wants to do that from the safety of my own living room. And, truthfully, as an energy healer, I can heal, transform, and alchemize while sitting cloistered my couch. Yet, sitting in meditative solitude everyday isn’t really who I am. I love facilitating groups. I love creating new courses and workshops, I am energized by sharing the teachings that I am actively receiving. I’m so proud of the book that I have written. I know my private healing clients are receiving a fantastic service when they work with me individually. However, sharing this information with others is not easy. The reasoning for this is complex. Sure, I’ve got limiting belief systems from my human journey. I’ve also got the very real fears of humiliation and abandonment – which might seem like drastic examples in this context, but that is the part of the brain that is dictating our reactions when it comes to internalizing imposter syndrome. We are terrified of being found out. If we’ve suffered the very real traumas of being torn down by our tribes – and this can be from our families of origin, peer relationships, romantic partnerships, and even professional groups – our nervous systems are in heightened states of hyper-arousal to avoid ever experiencing that type of pain again. We are interdependent by nature. We have survived as a species because we’ve stuck together. In infant mental health, a popular phrase for brain development is: “We need relationships like we need oxygen.” If we have been led to believe – in any way- that our success, wisdom, talent, beauty, divinity, power, or compassion is something that we can be ostracized for… we learn to hide it to fit in. We will do whatever we have to do to be accepted. And, even with the prized acceptance, something about it still doesn’t quite satiate. We dim, shrink, and silence the very things that make us special for the perceived protection of the pack, and still, it just isn’t enough. That is the part of us that I want to access. The core thread of our Golden Source Self. The part of us that unconditionally knows the purity of our hearts and the goodness of our Souls. The part of us that collectively embodies the greatness of all living things as a benefit for every living thing. When we can activate our memories of how aligned we are with inherent generosity, benevolence, grace, and love, we can shift ourselves away from the vibrations of perceived failure, judgment, separation, and isolation. I say ‘perceived’ because – as real as these things may have felt on our human journey – that does not mean they are true. I know fear is powerful. We are so afraid, and this fear is a habitual state. It is so familiar that we don’t even realize it anymore. The architecture of this fear has been constructed and upheld through our continued energizing of its structures. We believe that the potential fallout, pain, humiliation, & ‘fill-in-the-blank horrible consequences’ are real, and when we believe them, they become just that – real. What if, through conscious effort, we create a new habit? Why don’t we construct a new belief? What if we spend a few moments each day giving our intentional energy to ourselves? What might it feel like to expend commensurate time and focus on creating functional community, personal sovereignty, healing & transformation, and healthy, fulfilling personal & professional relationships? It sounds so simple and logical, doesn’t it? That is because it IS! Our logical left brains can talk all day long about how rational and valid this perspective is. However, just talking about it lets it stay there, in the land of knowledge. That is a land ‘outside’ of us. Attainable to a certain degree, but never fully received and never fully satisfying. When we can receive this knowledge into our hearts, bodies, and minds, it can become actualized through our relationships and the most important relationship this actualization is lived through is our relationship to ourselves. No longer stuck in the land of knowledge, we now have organic, authentic, personalized, and empowering WISDOM! This is integration. Wisdom is the internalization of our own unshakable inner knowing. This is the full receiving of our love and our light as well as our darkness and our shadow. This is the acceptance and joyful witnessing of our own humanity and divinity. When we can begin to process, hold, integrate, and illuminate ourselves – imposter syndrome cannot co-exist. Would you accuse Source of being an imposter? Every time we negate the unconditional nature of our love, accept limiting beliefs about ourselves, and dim the light of our brilliant and infinite intelligence, we do just that. Thank Goddess our Source Self is patient, understanding, and accepting. Your Source Self is these things because your Source Self is you. You are these things because you are your Source Self. How does imposter syndrome show up for you? Is it always there? Does it flare up in certain situations? Do you notice it at all? Take a moment and get quiet. Spend some time within the Sanctuary of your own heart and ask yourself, “Where am I not showing up and shining as boldly and brightly as I can due to feeling fear, feeling like I’m not enough, or feeling like I will be judged?” When the answers come, do not be harsh with yourself. That only feeds the energy that we want to shift. Somethings that have helped me when I’m feeling these ways is that I reorient myself to the present moment. I check in with my senses: What do I see, hear, taste, smell, feel on my skin, & feel in my body? This simple practice reminds my brain that I am in the now moment and safe to be present. I then converse with my Higher Self and review the ‘why’ of what I am doing or attempting to do. Our Higher Selves are always going to reawaken the often forgotten knowing that our Soul’s Purpose is here for everyone. We aren’t just striving to make a difference for ourselves, we are working toward a better future for all, and that is a noble, needed endeavor no matter the validation or invalidation we receive from the external world. Thirdly, I ask for help. I call in my Guides and Ancestors, my Angels and Soul Family. I am clear and deliberate in these requests. I consistently ask for support regardless of how unworthy or unimportant my brain tries to convince me these requests for help may seem. These entities are our Council of Light. They are here with us and for us. They want to help. Let them! And finally, I intentionally journey into the web of oneness through my Source Self consciousness and say, “Show me how easy and blissful this can and will be.” These are just a few of the techniques that I use and share with my clients in my groups and healing practice. Every one of the 180 journaling exercises, called ‘Sacred Play Suggestions,’ in the ‘Soul-to-Sisterhood’ Book are also rooted in this type of self-awareness and self-love. Yet, I cannot express enough how crucial being in community is for reminding us of our goodness and our true nature. We’ve been through a lot these past few years and isolation is at an all-time high. Trauma, which is part of our Earth School curriculum (and if you are not human, or at least partly human, raise your hand:-), is anything that compromises our sense of physical, mental, emotional, and or spiritual safety. These experiences lead us to believe that separation is necessary for protection. Sometimes this is true and toxic relationships need to end for overall health and well-being… but applying this to our lives full stop can wound us even deeper. Like I mentioned above, we are relational creatures. We crave the interdependence of shared community, communication, and compassion. If you can, get out of the house and away from technology and go ‘commune’ with other living things. Plants & animals count! Have your special brand of love reflected back to you, in real time, from a living being and see what happens. Take note of what you notice. Re-remember how valued and valid you are. This can come from a wagging tail, a smile at a stoplight, or the gentle fragrance of a rose. Find a healer, a group, or a gathering. Gift yourself a little smidge of spontaneous play, giving yourself permission to experience an experience with no expectations, and see what happens. Your brain will drink up this connection like an antidote to imposter syndrome. Your Soul will be integrated into your awareness in a new and different way. Transformation and healing will occur. Knowledge will grow into wisdom. The questions and fears will quiet down. Your glow will be contagious. And the feelings, thoughts, and experiences that led you on this journey in the first place will shift and grow with you to create the next chapter of your growth and evolution. This is Namaste in action.
Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
I am Jamie Day, MS, MFT, RDT and I am the Creator of the Divine Mommy Movement, Author of the Soul-To-Sisterhood book, and a Registered Drama Therapist. Before pursuing the Healing Arts, I was a professional actor & singer, traveling nationally and internationally working in touring shows and regional theatre productions. After making a career switch almost 20 years ago, I am honored to share that my healing practice has grown, as have my psychic & multi-dimensional abilities. To say I am grateful for my psychotherapy background is an understatement. I believe that this previous experience is something that offers a unique level of support to the clients that I serve. The foundational principles that I work with in all of my offerings – and that includes Individual Sessions, the Divine Mommy YoniVersity 101 and 201 Priestess Path Programs, the Soul-to-Sisterhood Self-Love School, and All Divine Mommy Workshops – are always informed by the pillars of my clinical experience. When I worked as a Marriage and Family Therapist, I specialized in Trauma Informed Care. This is a fascinating aspect of mental health that is becoming very popular, and rightfully so! My compassionate understanding of Infant Mental Health, Attachment Theory, and Trauma Wounded Neurobiology offers my Healing Clients a unique opportunity to be simultaneously supported and witnessed in their humanity while they are also energetically supported and witnessed in their divinity. This merger of modalities is something that I am grateful to offer everyone I work with. Whether we are traveling through the portals of space and time to address past, current, and/or future timelines for wisdom and guidance, or we are ascending through the Layers of Existence to call forth different Guides, Angels, Ascended Masters, and Ancestors, the co-creation of Ceremonial Space to bring about the Greatest and Highest Good for my clients and for all living things is a safe and secure Sanctuary. I am not only proud of my offerings, but I am also truly honored to do the work I do in the way that I do it. My Private Healing Practice, Groups, Programs, Workshops, and Social Media Collaborations are created with the intention to empower others to access their Source Self Consciousness. The prayer I pray is one of collective ascension, and this purposeful desire is made manifest by a world that values compassion, connection, love, and peace. In my heart, I believe that evolution starts within and through the service vibrations of my offerings, I support this prayer becoming answered.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Looking back, the most impactful areas of study on my journey have been the wisdom teachings around how to embody the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine. When it all began, I realized I was starving for a reawakening of my inner Goddess Consciousness. I poured through different books that offered me a glimpse of our pre-patriarchal Goddess Worshipping Societies. Learning about our Matriarchal Her-Story inspired me to share this wisdom with others. As I was digesting and integrating a truth that I had previously felt but could now “know,” I was beyond energized. I traveled to Sacred Sites. I participated in the Goddess Conference in Glastonbury. I created a 35 Week program for women to teach this type of Divine Feminine Reawakening. To say I was on fire is an understatement. All this information flooded me and yet, as I was learning and filling my mind, I wasn’t allowing these teachings of the Goddess to fully be absorbed into my heart. In my life and relationships, I was still applying my own internalized version of misaligned masculine energy to my feminine embodiment. I worked through exhaustion and loneliness. I clearly heard my intuition telling me to slow down and enjoy these new levels of consciousness to which I would consistently reply, “Later… I will slow down later when I’m finished.” Only, with that forceful approach, I could never be finished because there is always more. More to learn. More to teach. More workshops and offerings to create. More books to read. The irony is that this aggressive and oppressive leadership style –something that I was putting on myself – was in direct opposition to what I was sharing and teaching. I was simultaneously living my dream while feeling unrested, unfulfilled, and unhappy. Something had to shift, and that change came about when I honestly opened to receive my Sacred Masculine energy through the acceptance of my deepest shadow. Deep personal healing had to happen in the form of revamping my relationships to almost everything in my life. Softening to the possibility of my inner Divine Masculine allowed my inner Divine Feminine to fully expand and this alchemical marriage, known as Sacred Union, became the third piece of my awakening. Allowing them both to be present within my awareness through mutual support, respect, and reciprocity has inspired me to evolve and grow in ways that are unrecognizable and surprising to me while simultaneously being blissful and ecstatic for me. My psychic abilities are growing, my vibrations of love and compassion are intensifying, my peaceful states of being are becoming more constant, & my sovereign empowerment is active and ON! For others looking to embody this type of journey, like many wise ones have already suggested, “The path is simple… that doesn’t mean it is easy.” I have had to release the conditioning of the outside and increase the loyalty to the inside. I’ve done this through radical self-love, self-acceptance, self-understanding, and self-compassion. All of this really does start within and there is no thing outside of us that can gift us our own happiness. Try putting your hand on your heart the next time you are deciding upon something and ask, “Does this bring me closer to joy and love?” If it the answer is “no” – shift. Play with spontaneity. How can feelings, thoughts, behaviors, and choices bring us closer to joy and love? Determine one small change that can recalibrate you closer to these vibrations and do it. One step will lead to another and another and another. You really are much wiser and more capable and able than you give yourself credit for. You CAN figure this out and you CAN make yourself your number one priority. If it all feels like too much, find support. You really are deserving of all the time, love, and attention you give to everyone and everything else. Knowing about the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine within every living thing is extremely beneficial. Our world is begging for this knowledge. Living from this awareness with embodied wisdom is a whole different experience. In this place, we don’t have historical data to proclaim and lists of qualities to show our intellectual capacities. We don’t need them. In this place, of consciousness, we are no longer beggars, we are Divine Receivers of this most incandescent gift. It lives through us, and we live through it. No need for validation. Only infinite knowing and unlimited possibility.
How can folks who want to work with you connect?
Collaboration is very important to me. As a psychotherapist who specializes in transforming trauma, I am dedicated to honest and authentic community. I value coming together with others to co-create in spiritually integral and emotionally mature containers. As we continue to strengthen our knowing of this energetic grid, the lightworker DNA is exponentially activated within our systems. In my groups, I say, “we are here together today because we were there together then.” I truly believe this! We find one another on the Earth Plane and whether it is for a moment or a lifetime, I honor this sacred connection. Working with aligned individuals is great and working with others who hold different belief systems is extremely important as well. The more of us who can come together and show unity through our individualization, the more we can way-show that what makes us different can indeed make us stronger. We are allowed to be unique. Thank goodness! My grandmother used to say, “This world would be a pretty boring place if we were all alike.” She is right. My passion is finding ways to offer mutual respect for what makes us different while also joyfully highlighting where we are similar. As a vegan and a mother, my prayer is that when more of us can do this without fear, without feeling the need to ostracize or other, we can engender more love and compassion for every living thing. That is going to make this world a better place for our children, for the animals, for the plants, and for all of Mother Earth’s creation – including HER!
Contact Info:
- Website: www.divine-mommy.com
- Instagram: @divine.mommy
- Facebook: Facebook.com/divinemommy
- Linkedin: Jamie Day
- Youtube: @divinemommy7060
- Other: https://linktr.ee/divinemommy1
Image Credits
Blonde Cow Photography (for the first image shared of just me outside on the sidewalk.)
