We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Kimberly & Scott Horn. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Kimberly & Scott below.
Hi Kimberly & Scott, really happy you were able to join us today and we’re looking forward to sharing your story and insights with our readers. Let’s start with the heart of it all – purpose. How did you find your purpose?
For myself, (Kim), It took years of being resilient against all types of traumas and setbacks. It started at a young age; I knew that I was different when I saw things that others couldn’t see and felt with such deep empathy that made me a very sensitive child whose heart would break for others easily. I had to hide this side of myself growing up so that I would fit in. As a teen, I went through a very traumatic time suffering from being beaten and raped which led to my first suicide attempt when I was around 16. I was put into a medical induced coma and spent a week in ICU. During that time, I had an OBE where I woke up staring at my body lying incubated in the hospital bed while I watched my dad leaning in holding hands with a chaplain as they prayed, while tears ran down my dad’s face.
My abilities were somehow acerbated by this making them more intense and I didn’t know how to deal with them. When I turned 18, instead of dealing with the traumas that I had been exposed to in these formative years, I chose to run away and join the military, where I felt I could hide who I was inside, recreate myself and forget my past. It wasn’t until I had suffered more traumas and broken relationships and was dealing with a medical discharge partially from a precancer diagnosis that left me unable to have children of my own.
After years of broken marriages and counseling I broke down again and had another suicide attempt in 2012. This was my rock bottom which ultimately led to me doing some hard work on myself finding self-love and forgiveness and giving myself permission to not hide who I was anymore. Shortly after, I met my soulmate, Scott in 2013 and we married. That is where I was able to become my true self and find my purpose, our purpose together.
We formed Horn Paranormal Research where I was able to safely explore my intuitive gifts and the paranormal world. In February 2019, we were struck with another devastating blow with Scott being diagnosed with Stage 4 metastatic renal cancer. Together, we agreed not to waste any time living in fear. We agreed to live each moment to its fullest. We wanted to be a beacon of hope for others who may have struggles.
We made the decision to use the business platform to help give people hope and to pay it forward when we could. We want to be that voice for people to know that life is what you make of it, and to show others that your past and situations don’t define you.
Our message to the world is to not give up no matter how hard it gets. If I had succeeded with either of my suicide attempts, I would have missed out on the joys in between and the love of my life. I also want to say that Scott is also a walking miracle. I don’t want people to stop believing in hope.
Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?
There are so many people out there who are curious about the paranormal world. There’s a community full of people like me that have the ability to see, hear, and interact with things that aren’t always seen by the naked eye. They shouldn’t live in fear of that. Our personal hope is that one day science will be able to catch up and explain the phenomena that people like me are able to tap into.
We also understand that people need tangible proof of such claims. As investigators, our approach is to try to validate what my senses are picking up with something tangible which gives it validity. This began our pursuit of making equipment to be used in the paranormal field, but to do it in such a way that it is affordable. Scott and I never set out to do this for profitability. It is a labor of love, to be able to share our experiences with others and to help find answers for people who need them.
We also are big advocates of paying it forward. We like to help location owners who are also big into preservation and history. We are currently in the process of designing and making special spirit boxes for some location owners to sell to help with their restoration projects.
We do raffles and different periodic giveaways to promote the community, and we advocate for mental health on our platform pages. We are big supporters of our Veterans. We largely advocate for Sacredmtnretreat.org that is a nonprofit private organization out of Lead, SD, which offers a free retreat to veterans, active duty, gold star family members, police officers, fire fighters, who deal with PTSD and trauma. They also offer the Puppies Healing Heroes program where they place a trained service dog with a service member in need. We list them on our banner and take their brochures with us when we do events.
I have also authored a fantasy fiction book that can be found on Amazon called the Lost Son, which I plan on making into a trilogy. I am currently working on book two of three. We also have an article that I wrote that is featured in Eerie Expeditions Magazine (Eerieeexpeditionsmagazine.com) and plan to contribute articles based upon different tech and its uses within the paranormal field.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
I feel like meditation, journaling and not giving up on oneself are the three key factors that kept me going. Through journaling, I was able to purge the ick in silence and in privacy where I did not feel threatened by having to share those deepest inner thoughts with anyone else. It provides a safe place. It is through meditation that I was able to let it go and release it and the third part, was not giving up.
Some days, that only felt like I could hold it together for only a second of my day until a second turned into a minute, into an hour, then into a day, until I found myself able to unfold all the things that mattered and didn’t matter.
From there, I found the “why” it hurt so bad. Without even realizing, my journey of self-healing began as I started to unfold the matrix of what hurt me through my journaling and then I was able to make small, tiny changes in my own thoughts and behaviors. Now I feel like I am in a place to share that love with others and be a beacon of light.
My husband Scott had an ordinary childhood; he didn’t have any traumas per se until his diagnosis. Together we work through that every day, and he knows he’s not alone in his fight.
One thing a person should note is to write it out, but don’t get hung up in it. The best thing I found is to purge it out on paper then shut that book. Go outside and get fresh air. Get your mind busy, don’t sit in it.
If you find your mind is too busy, find a meditation online and practice it every time you get a free moment. Then one day when you are ready to visit those thoughts you purged, delicately go back in and take a peek and work these things out in small doses. Maybe even make a list of all the good things you can say about yourself, even if it’s as simple as writing something like “I planted a flower today and I saw a bee pollinating it, and there was beauty.”
Pretty soon you’ll be ready to burn those journals for good. Some people even do it as a type of ceremony. One day you also may realize that these things don’t control or define you that you are so much more and have so much awesomeness inside.
Before we go, any advice you can share with people who are feeling overwhelmed?
I go to my mental toolbox. I continue to find ways to add to my toolbox. I try to avoid situations that are chaotic and surround myself with people who seem grounded and feel good to be around. It’s like an alcoholic who can’t be in a bar. If there’s heavy energy always around, it will eventually bring you down if you are constantly in that type of environment. It’s sometimes hard if you are in a toxic work environment but you can do it on a break or on the way home or whenever you have five minutes.
Personally, I love to go and find a place to ground down. What that means for me is to go out into nature and just let nature wash away my cares for a moment. I do a lot of visualization, and I begin playing a mental game of looking at my surroundings, almost like a game of mental “I spy” for example, “I spy a little yellow finch” … then I may study it and what it’s doing.” I find this helps take my mind off my own stress and worries for the moment and then I can catch my breath.
It’s like allowing your inner child to come out to play. Allow yourself to daydream some, enjoy the sun on your face or the breeze blows through your hair or think of a memory that you had of an activity you once enjoyed. Maybe it was a good concert or just going fishing or going to the beach. A person can reprogram their thoughts if they don’t dwell in the sad ones.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.hornparanormal.com
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