Meet Kris Long

We were lucky to catch up with Kris Long recently and have shared our conversation below.

Kris , sincerely appreciate your selflessness in agreeing to discuss your mental health journey and how you overcame and persisted despite the challenges. Please share with our readers how you overcame. For readers, please note this is not medical advice, we are not doctors, you should always consult professionals for advice and that this is merely one person sharing their story and experience.

Firstly I would like to say that mental health is a journey of acceptance for what is, and being present to the moment/experience. Accept what is happening, process the energy & emotions, shift my perspective, embrace the wisdom and learning, generate a new story, belief or thought, and be grateful. I have learned to ask for help, let go of judgement, and do the work necessary to heal/be present to myself from moment to moment. My life has drastically improved untilizing these skills.

I have come to understand my mental health concerns are directly related to childhood trauma, and effected how my brain developed.

The first vivid memory I have of trauma which changed my life forever, I was 6 years old. There was an incident with my neighbour, preceded by a misunderstanding. My adult neighbour spanked me, shamed me, yelled at me, and sent me home crying, running a kilometre down the country side road home alone. I was terrified, shamed, and utterly confused at what had unfolded.

I was confused and overwhelmed by what happened, because there was just an attack on me, and I did not understand what was happening. She mis perceived a situation and had immediately attacked me.

This is one of the first substancial traumas to rock my world. I believed I was “bad”, and “something is wrong with me”. I became very timid and afraid of others after that.

There would be MANY more life events, situations and circumstances of trauma, abuse, abandonment, and acts of violence against me. Each time it would solidify “I am bad”, “I am broken”, “I need to be fixed”, “Somethings is wrong with me” etc. I believed I was cursed, God hated me, so after that I would ask to go to church hoping my soul could be saved. I wanted to hide from the world, leave the world, or I wanted someone/anyone to rescue me.

Throughout my life I would dream of dying, wish to die, I just wanted the suffering and pain I was experiencing to stop.

When I was around 13 or 14 years old, my brothers best friend took his life. That would devastate my brother, family and community. Witnessing the emotional, and psychological effects of those around me, left me with no option but to figure out how to live here even though I seeded death, or at the very least and end to my suffering.

Something also happened after my experience of the suicide. I would hear people condemn others for taking or attempting to take their lives. They would shame the person, say terrrible things, or make it wrong. However something deep within in me felt so much love, compassion and acceptance for their choice. I felt nothing had gone wrong. I felt that is was destined, or perfect.

Years later an accaintance attempted to end her life, and I was called to connect to her. She was extremely shameful, guilty and drowning in emotions. All I felt was total love and acceptance for her. I told her about my desire to die, and how it is so present all the time. We created a beautiful friendship, love and connection from that day forward. She will say to this day I helped her heal because I never judged her. She is one of the most incredible humans I have EVER met, and I believed than, and I still believe today it all happened for her to do greater work in the world. She has helped so many people because of her mental health struggles.

It is important to mention that at a very early age I developed high sensitivity. I had terrible eczema as a baby due to artificial products, scents, fabrics etc. I was sick often with many illnesses, and generally not a well, energized or motivated. Being so highly sensitive I could feel the energy and emotions of others. I could read a room well, and knew when things might go side ways.

At 16 years old I began working at a health food store, where I would begin to learn about nutrition, alternative healing and spirituality. This is when life began to take on some new meaning. I began meeting people that understood me, who I deeply understood. I would begin to feel aliveness within again.

At 18 years old I would visit a psychic medium that would tell me profound knowledge of my life and how I would help others. I was told I would help others through spirtiual work, energy healing, pshychic/mediumship readings etc. I had no idea what an energy healer was at that time, and was told not to worry it would be revealed shortly. And it was throught the medium of reiki. At 18 years old I began learning and practicing reiki. During that session I was also told I would live a difficult life for years to come. But to trust in the universe and God to direct me.

For years I would experience 2 extremely opposite worlds. I would experience the spirit world and I would experience the earth world. I often felt like I was going crazy riding the highs and lows between the 2 worlds. I felt misunderstood, alone and isolated. The only time I was truly happy was meditating, connecting to spirit, helping others, nature, or being with like minded sensitive individuals having a similar human experience.

Living life in the world has been extremely difficult and challenging. I wanted friends, connections and community, but it always seemed to end up re traumatizing me.

The more incidents of trauma that occurred the more I withdrew and became afraid of people. I often felt life was not worth living. I never attempted to take my own life, but dreamed of dying often.

Mental health and feeling good became a personal obsession.

I tried working with counsellors and psychologists but it only gave me momentary relief from suffering because I was finally opening up and sharing what I had been through. But the energy I experienced would spiral and suffocate me, leaving me having panic attacks and massive anxiety.

I was willing to do anything to feel better:
Reading self help books
Faithfully watched Oprah
Worked with healers, psychics and mediums
Attended many church organizations of different faiths
Trained, studied and learned whenever I could, whatever I could that might help me.

I did attend one school of natural healing which made the biggest impact on my life, where I would learn many alternative, spiritual and healing modalities. I took every course they had to offer. Reflexology, aroma-touch, body reflexology, energy medicine, traditional chinese medicine, spiritual classes, and teacher training.

Still the mental health issues prevailed.

I was introduced to a powerful quantum energy healer in January 2022 and began a journey of personal transformation with her. This is when things really began to unravel.

My life would blow apart and begin to come together all at the same time.

I also began studying Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work. It was like a new world began to open up. What I wasn’t prepared for, you must unravel and heal the trauma blockages, face life head on and accept EVERYTHING as divinely perfect. These lessons and teachings are grounding deeper into me every day over the last 2+ years.

There is a way out of suffering, but you must be willing to meet the resistance and suffering head on and be with all of it.

What I now deeply realize, and know to be truth, trauma comes in many forms. It stays stuck in your physical body creating pain, discomort, anxiety, fear etc. The brain is like a computer program, programed from childhood, all of the thoughts, beliefs and traumas you experience. The nervous system is your safety system, like an alarm system. If you have trauma, a belief or thought that is rooted within you, if you bump up against a person, place, exerience or situation that is of a familiar frequency, or experience that has previously harmed you, your nervous system alarm will be triggered. Creating states of fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Your brain and nervous system are designed to protect you. However your mind can only offer you the programs it has downloaded. So if you grew up in a harsh, negative, traumatic experience you are hard wired to recreate the pattern or loop until you heal it. The path out is reprogramming your systems, brain, nervous system, and body. You have to learn to create safey from with in. Unfortuneatley this is not what most of us have learned. We look to the outside world for validation. It is a trap. The outside world mirrors back to you your internal reality. So people are walking around emotional, traumatized over and over, because their program is hard wired for it. In oder to live a different life experience, you must reprogram your internal world.

This can be done in many ways. I am so passionate about this work, I now, mentor, coach and teach it. I will be offering readings again shortly, because I have recently awakened a new truth. I was judging doing readings for people because I believed I was only supporting them in staying stuck where they are. A new mentor said it is not for me to judge or decide. People will come to me for what they are available for. Maybe all they are available for currently is some channeled wisdom about their current life experience. She encourage me to release my judgement and just help people where they are.

Just recently I have had 3 very huge life relaizations come through. What I find interesting is they all happened within days of preparing my submission to this magazine. So inspite of my fear around sharing this wisdom, stepping out and owning my gifts, it is abundantly clear to me this all happened to inspire me to step up and do this article.

I know this is alot of information, and I invite you to take what serves and leave what doesn’t. This is my truth, my story and my journey that I am vulnerably sharing.

Inspite of my website not aligning to this article, not having a booking link, and still learning tech issues, this is me, raw, real and still just figuring it out. What I know for sure, I have the ability to deeply impact others and help them heal and create the same change I am undertaking.

Wherever you are on your journey in life, I send you so much love, light and blessings.

Everything is happening for you, you are not broken and you don’t need fixing. I invite you to take a leap, invest in yourself and be willing to face your fears, and resistance with an open heart. Life is happening for you.

Blessings Kris

Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?

Professionally:
Energy Channel for Spirit offering readings and wisdom about peoples life experiences
Mentor and teacher for those suffering in emotional turmoil, teaching knowledge, skills and wisdom to move through their life experiences with greater ease and flow.
Coach for a mental health program called Positive Intelligence

I am still in the begining of building my business discovering my client base.

Clients often say there is no words for what I offer them. The feel balanced, aligned and more deeply connected to themselves. I often get reports of deep inner peace and euphoria. A deep sense of connection to everything. Often other report being able to cope with life with more ease working with me.

I offer 1 hour sessions – Readings, support, mentorship
6 month Coaching Program – Offers education about your brain, judge and saboteurs which are controlling how you perceive the world
You will learn how to:
* Repattern the brain with tools
* Manage energy and emotions
* Recognize limiting patterns, beliefs and stories your brain is offering you, which sabotage your success, results and happiness in life
* Connect to your sage power which is your intuition
* Become a powerful effective communicator that can influence a room
* Love yourself and other in deep profound ways
* Create a new life story so you can life the life you dream of

I offer free readings on Facebook Live every Friday @ 11am EST
Facebook Link to follow -https://www.facebook.com/krisk.long

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

My 3 most important skills or qualities I possess:

My ability to connect with others on a deep level. I am deeply empathetic and compassionate.
I can understand and relate to peoples challenges or struggles, holding space for them during their time of need.
Offer perspective shifts, which free them. By being able to see events, situations or circumstance from a new lens, it allows space to see things in a different way.
What people leave with is a deeper sense of peace and perspective.

The advice I have for others is life is a journey. You are a soul in a body here to evolve, and grow. Your life is predestined for your evolution and growth. Suffering is optional. You have a choice to stay stuck in pain and suffering, or you can begin to free yourself from the limitations and blockages creating your current life experience. Life is happening for you. The path to freedom is through doing the deep innerwork and healing. There is a path out of your pain and suffering. But you must be willing to make the investment in yourself, face life head on, and learn to embrace all of life. Life is simply and experience. When you learn to accept what is, increase gratitude, look for the gifts and learning in the challenge/struggle, life will begin to take on new meaning.

Alright, so before we go we want to ask you to take a moment to reflect and share what you think you would do if you somehow knew you only had a decade of life left?

The current challenge I have been facing is overcoming my fear of people and sharing my gifts with the world. When I was nominated for this article I froze with fear. I was going to decline the offer because of my fear. To be honest I was procrastinating on doing my submission on time. The woman who nominated me reached out to see if I had done it yet. She has been an inspiration to me, so I took a deep breath used my tools to move through the fear I was expeiencing.
I than asked myself what was the worst thing that would happen?
People might judge me, laugh at me or say bad things about me.
This is nothing I have not already lived through. So I dug deep and decided to be brave and do this anyway.
The other fears I am facing is about my website still being a work in progress, that I don’t have a booking link because my life has been constantly changing over the last few years, and judging myself about it.
Here I am facing my fear and doing it all anyway!
If I can do it, ANYONE CAN!

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.krisklong.com
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/krisklong
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krisk.long
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/krisklong

Image Credits

Caitlynn Hoogendoorn – for some of photos