Meet Kristy Scher

 

We were lucky to catch up with Kristy Scher recently and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Kristy, really happy you were able to join us today and we’re looking forward to sharing your story and insights with our readers. Let’s start with the heart of it all – purpose. How did you find your purpose?

When my children were still in grade school, I went back to college for a second degree in nursing. I knew I wanted to work with mothers and babies; I thought I would become a nurse midwife, eventually. However, the first job I got out of nursing school was on a postpartum unit, working as a neonatal and perinatal RN. Over the first half of my tenure as a hospital nurse, I realized that when I walked into a new mother’s room I could immediately feel that she had what I now called a “mother story”. Depending on what her mother story was, I began to see the kind of challenges new mothers had in tending, nurturing, and feeding their new infant.

I became a IBCLC certified lactation consultant and began to work specifically with mothers around feeding their new babies, and in that very intimate work I realized that what I was teaching to mothers was how to attune to their baby’s needs; how to read and decipher their baby’s behavioral cues so that they could meet their child’s needs.

At the same time in my own life, I had begun to realize that I had experienced significant relational trauma in my family. And I felt an increasing dissonance between the fact that, by day, I was teaching mothers how to nurture and meet the needs of their newborns, yet at the same time, I had no idea how to relate to my own needs. I really have no idea, up until that point in my life, that I had needs. This revelation sent me on a path of growth, inquiry, and initiation that became the foundation of my work with women today, The Way of The Adored Woman. My purpose is to guide women in a journey of rooted, reverent self-return.

Appreciate the insights and wisdom. Before we dig deeper and ask you about the skills that matter and more, maybe you can tell our readers about yourself?

There is a particular type of intimacy for which I have found no name outside of the work that I do.

I have the unparalleled honor and pleasure to sit with women as they remember who they are.

To sit with her as she begins to recognize, in tender, hard-earned increments, the way she learned to abandon, contort, or make herself small for something like love.

To offer her a loving but unflinching mirror and walk beside her as a witness in the process that I believe is inherent to all of us:

remembering and reclaiming our wholeness.

This is a kind of intimacy, in our culture, for which we have no name.

I hold a relational space with a woman in order that she may see and feel the truth of what is within her — and then bring that out into her life in a way that creates deeply satisfying relationships in every corner of her world.

My signature program, The Way of The Adored Woman, is a nine month journey through the three pillars: self fluency, emotional fluency, and relational fluency.

This is also the foundation for my 1:1 coaching with women, and greatly informs my couples coaching.

A couple times a year I offer intimate, semi-private women’s retreats for 4 to 5 women. These warm and luxurious sanctuary-like retreats allow me to so deep relational work with a small group of women and incorporate my background as a yoga, meditation, and sensuous-movement teacher for the last 25 years.

Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?

The three most significant skills that have impacted both my personal and professional journey are:

Attunement – what I call loving, responsive presence

Presence – the capacity to stay in contact with our inner-experience while being connected to another

Self-authorship – the ability to be conscious of the narrative we are telling about ourselves and our lived experience, and make discerning choices about who we choose to be in every area of our lives.

If you knew you only had a decade of life left, how would you spend that decade?
If I knew I only had one decade left to live I would spend every minute doing exactly what I do now.
The only conversation I have ever wanted to have is how to have truly great relationships in which we feel emotionally free and deeply nourished.
When a woman remembers and reclaims the life-affirming power she already possesses — the greatest power for good that exists, her capacity to love — everyone in her orbit benefits.
I am on a mission that every woman remember that she has the power to create a deeply satisfying, happy, (and hot and holy!) relationship.  And when a woman reclaims this capacity, it is not simply her life that changes, but the lives of everyone she loves.

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