Meet Lilliebrook Perry

We recently connected with Lilliebrook Perry and have shared our conversation below.

Lilliebrook, we’re so excited for our community to get to know you and learn from your journey and the wisdom you’ve acquired over time. Let’s kick things off with a discussion on self-confidence and self-esteem. How did you develop yours?

I developed my confidence by looking at what was holding me back from experiencing it. Confidence is something that all of us have, we’re born with confidence and self-assurance, but based off of how our environment responded in our early years, most people either develop a sense of depleted or inflated confidence. I was hurt badly at a young age, around 3 years old, and I kept it inside as a source of shame. My internal sense of insecurity was fed and nourished by my experiences in the next many years of life, I began to believe that there was something wrong inside of me. When I started the Grinberg Method as a client, I experienced more sure-footedness simply from re-connecting to my body (since my body, like all of ours knows how to be confident). As I began my personal process, the thing that helped me most to gain back my confidence was to stop blindly agreeing with what was implied to or about me. I realized how I would take a comment, critique or reaction as a sign that I am doing, acting, or being wrong. I have spent time working through this reaction, learning what it feels like when I am creating guilt but not really feeling guilty, and dropping this reaction. This is what has helped me the most in reinstating my confidence.

Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?

I work with clients through the body to break down patterns. Through our life experience we develop habits, behaviors, and postures we walk in the world with that dictate how we respond to the world around us and limit the possibility to be reacting relevantly (they narrow our options).

I work with folks on breaking down patterns that disturb them in their life… the things that come up daily or weekly that they want help changing. How they relate to people, how they show themselves or don’t dare to, how they communicate, how they handle money or stability, what their experience of pain is… things like that. I work on this with someone through verbal description and then primarily through touch. Teaching through the body how to stop reactions in a way that gives you back responsibility and autonomy to react freely rather than out of the past.

How do we do this? Through touch, breathing, and verbal guidance.

I offer sessions in Boulder Colorado and am hosting a 15 day study intensive that will encompassed the material for the first year of training. Reach out if you’re searching for a grounded, reality focused, clear and direct approach to working with clients.

There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?

Clarity. Being clear with myself, about what I am feeling and what I want has been monumental for me in my personal life and in my ability to reflect back to clients what they are facing. I can recommend learning to experience your head as a physical place in your body, somewhere that is a part of your body rather than a place where you think. To experience the head as physical can bring silence and clear thought patterns that keep you foggy, unclear, and so on.

Body Attention. We are our bodies and our bodies are the compass for everything. If you pay attention, you will react physically in situations (smiling when you’re not happy, raising your shoulders, shortening your breath), and this is a sign that there is a trigger there sending you into your past. The body is the clearest indicator for our reactions, and it’s also the way out of them.

Humor. When working with intense trauma, current struggles, and mental health, many people become serious. What I have discovered in my life and in my work with clients that the ability to laugh is something that is always there. As a practitioner, finding ways to appropriately bring humor adn as an individual bringing lightness to your own journey helps it all move along much smoother.

Is there a particular challenge you are currently facing?

Facing challenges in my home. My partner and I moved into a home in August with people who ended up not being the right fit for us. There has been a lot of turmoil, instability, and frustration since August, having peaked in the last month. I was taken aback by how frequently I have been taken into other realities, that I have for days or weeks believed something that I really don’t agree with, and even taking months to realize that I have been unsettled from the start. The situation I’m facing today has many similar threads to my life growing up, with dynamics at play that feel eerily similar. I’ve taken this as an opportunity (over the last weeks especially) to develop my clarity and ability to be confident in conflict. I’ve been learning a lot about how to define and trust what I need.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://becomingyourbody.com
• Instagram: @lilliebrookperry
• Facebook: Lilliebrook Perry
• Other: Keep your eye out for the podcast I am developing, titled Becoming your body… it will release by the new year 🙂

Image Credits

Estella Myers, Carina Lemire