Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Lindsey Bobbitt. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Hi Lindsey, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?
I always have a hard time writing about myself and the things that have happened to me. My life has been a series of you can’t make this sh*t up events. If I had to pick the biggest three that have helped me develop my resilience: 1. Opening the mail with my mom, only to find that it’s the online relationship my father carried on with a woman in another state, telling her she died and he was left to take care of the girls. They stayed together until he died of cancer. There are many more things that carried on with my father and me, it wasn’t until I started digging into my past and healing that wound where I made peace with him.
2. Getting pregnant at 19 and having the father tell me its not his and his famous last words were “in my head, she isn’t mine, but in my heart she is, and when you have her, I know I will want her.” We never spoke to him again until 3 years ago, and that is a wild story that lead to my daughter making the decision to keep him where he is at.
3. My almost 10 year career in finance. It was the fees business, which can lead to some crazy customer service calls. This career helped me turn my life around. I started partying a lot when I turned 24, to the point where I was not home at night or on the weekends. Drugs and alcohol included. I honestly should not be alive with the amount of dumb things I have done and put into my body. They saw potential in me and I moved myself up the ladder, we never had titles, it wasn’t corporate, yet very close. I wore a lot of hats and was able to learn all the skills I have now to run my own business.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
I own a residential cleaning business, specializing in vacation rentals and post construction clean-up. I had a friend who was moving out of town that cleaned airbnbs, and she gave them to me, then I had a water leak in my living room and now I work with the contractor I called for help.
I also run a free women’s group on Facebook, with free self-care challenges. video training, and downloadable guides. I started this because I wanted to help other single moms. Within the last few years of the finance career, I kept on feeling like there had to be more. Like this can’t be what I will be doing for the rest of my life. My original idea was to start a blog – this was when they were really taking off – I did start, then it turned into me wanting to be a coach, and then I landed on the free group.
My old boss was very generous and paid for me to go to Unleash the power within and date with destiny. I attended both in 2019. This propelled me into studying at Robbins-Madanes Training for coaching. If it was not for this, I would not be as far as I am now!
Our next challenge is starting in October 2023, we go live for training for 10 days, daily support, and daily emails that include journal prompts, affirmations, and self-care tips.
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
Taking responsibility – its easy to play the blame game; past situations, people, events. Taking responsibility is saying yes, I did this, and this is the part I played. The hard part is not adding guilt and shame into the mix. Focus on moving forward.
Getting out of your own way – This is inner work, the why I do things the way I do. Yes, an old behavior may have helped you in the past, however it is no longer serving you for growth. Learning about your wounds and what triggers you will help move you forward in your goals, relationships, your overall quality of life.
Asking for and accepting help – As a recovering hyper-independent, I can do it myself woman, the hardest thing for me to learn was that by not allowing others to help me, I was literally blocking the blessings that were trying to come my way. I had to learn how to allow others to help, am still learning, because with new growth comes new challenges and new things I need help with. For me, it was simply the act of asking for help. I had been let down so many times in the past, it became almost impossible for me to even ask for help. I learned how to not let my past experiences dictate what I do in the present and future.
Okay, so before we go we always love to ask if you are looking for folks to partner or collaborate with?
Women in the wellness industry, mothers, and women who have overcome challenges in their life. Contact me directly at [email protected]
Contact Info:
- Website: www.lindseybobbitt.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsey.bobbitt/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LindseyEBobbitt
Image Credits
FemForce Photos – Stacey Poterson
