Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Lindsey Shelton. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Hi Lindsey, appreciate you sitting with us today to share your wisdom with our readers. So, let’s start with resilience – where do you get your resilience from?
To be honest, I didn’t even know I had “resilience” until I started therapy in October 2020. I told my therapist about my past and she kept using that word over and over. I asked her to explain and so she did. She said that most other people would become a statistic with a childhood / past like mine. I chose to overcome and break generational cycles. Women in my family have consistently married low life men who abused them in one way or another. They’ve been physically, mentally or emotionally abused. Unfortunately, that trickled down to the kids as well. I dated abusive boys as well until one day I just snapped out of it and didn’t want that anymore. I found my now husband who slowly, but surely instilled a sense of worth back in me. I started to see differences with his quote on quote “normal” family and was confused why mine was so different. I started noticing my friends family dynamics and realized that what I thought was normal really wasn’t.
I started learning boundaries, self worth and self respect thanks to my therapist and my husband. I’ve been told my whole life that I was different, but little did I know it meant I was going to be breaking generational cycles.
Thanks for sharing that. So, before we get any further into our conversation, can you tell our readers a bit about yourself and what you’re working on?
I have built a brand for the healthcare community that includes education, inspiration and most importantly, comedy. I love sharing my skits for healthcare workers to bond over and the general public to learn from. I also like dropping little tidbits about my past because to me, that’s the most inspiring of it all. I came from an abusive background with drug/alcohol addiction in the family and chose better for myself. It wasn’t / still isn’t easy, but it’s my responsibility to choose for my life. I like showing my audience this because at one time that is what I was watching online and chose to act on it like the people who inspired me.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
1. Listening to the gut feeling / environment around me. I always knew I deserved better even if I wasn’t sure what better was. 2. Not using my past as a crutch. It’s okay to do this for a moment. You’re allowed to FEEL what happened to you, but don’t let it determine who you are and what your future is.
3. Acting. Choose change. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Do the hard things. Cut people out of your life that are toxic, regardless if they’re family. Move away. Start fresh. Learn new cultures and see how others live their life.
Alright so to wrap up, who deserves credit for helping you overcome challenges or build some of the essential skills you’ve needed?
THERAPY! I know it’s not easily accessible for everyone, it wasn’t for us either. We chose to restructure our budget and add therapy in as a “utility” bill so that it was always accounted for. We stretched our budget to make it work because that was helping me gain the most efficient results.
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