We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Lisa Stuart a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Lisa, we’re thrilled to have you on our platform and we think there is so much folks can learn from you and your story. Something that matters deeply to us is living a life and leading a career filled with purpose and so let’s start by chatting about how you found your purpose.
I had to deconstruct my previous life in order to build my authentic life on a solid foundation. After my divorce and taking the brave leap to follow my heart and soul and be with my twin flame, it caused a lot of “drama” and I endured backlash as a result. I thought that my current husband was meant to save me. However, he was meant to show me that I could save myself. And through years of challenging inner work and fighting demons of doubt and judgment, I came to the conclusion that the most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves. I also realized that we cannot escape the darkness or shadows. Instead we must embrace the darkness in order to shine. We must dance with our fears but lead with love. And now it is my mission to spread light and share with others my secret sauce of The Drama Diet.
Let’s take a small detour – maybe you can share a bit about yourself before we dive back into some of the other questions we had for you?
My name is Lisa Stuart. I’m a wife, mother of 3, attorney, speaker, writer, spiritual stylist, life coach, and more. But I don’t believe in labels, nor do I believe in limiting yourself to fit in a one-size-fits-all box. That’s why I created The Drama Diet, book to be released in 2024. The Drama Diet is a sustainable way of living with inner clarity and peace despite swirling drama and chaos. Whether that drama is internal – cue to limiting beliefs, self sabotaging thoughts, mind chatter. Or external – other people’s judgments, negative opinions, energy vampires. My approach is a bit different than others in that I believe you have to embrace the darkness in order to shine. To accept your fears and shadows so that you can live a life of peace, joy, and love. My tagline is “dance with your darkness but let love take the lead.” This way you can navigate life with fear but lead with love. I have card decks in the form of “exercises – quotes – recipes” for daily inspiration, and can also be used in conjunction with the book. And so much more … My mission is to help others learn from what worked for me. I don’t preach what I haven’t practiced – it’s the lawyer in me. I need the evidence and proof to support the verdict that leaning into the energy of love truly transmutes the energy of fear – two competing energies that can’t exist without each other – yet only one can prevail in any given moment. This is the roadmap to becoming a Drama Ninja … yep, that’s a thing.
If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?
Confidence. Commitment. Courage.
Confidence is a mindset, it is different from worth. When I felt unworthy of something, I would tap into the energy of confidence to build my worth. I would hone in on what I could provide despite the negative self talk of imposter syndrome or perfectionism.
Commitment is key. Once you commit, you become a “doer” not a “talker”. Less talk, more action. Commitment gives you the permission to forge ahead and build momentum, despite any fears along the way. Which brings me to ….
Courage. Courage is having fear and doing it anyway. This is different from confidence because confidence is a mental mindset. While courage is an emotional energy. In fact E-motion is simply Energy in Motion (E for energy). it’s infusing the energy of excitement into the energy of fear and alchemizing it into courage.
The 3 C’s have helped me navigate on this journey of life, even when it felt as if I was walking on a tightrope, balancing my past self with my future vision.
Who has been most helpful in helping you overcome challenges or build and develop the essential skills, qualities or knowledge you needed to be successful?
Honestly … Me. I thought that my current husband came into my life so we can show the world that love always wins. In fact, as a lawyer I always say that the most supreme L.A.W. is that Love Always Wins. Like I said earlier, my husband did not come into my life to save me but rather show me that I could save myself. Even against major obstacles, and many years dealing with inner and outer drama – which was not an easy road to navigate, recreating my beliefs, drawing boundaries, shedding old stories, and courageously losing my identity as a people pleaser. But through tough and truthful inner work, I was able to do just that. And in doing so I broke generational chains, I freed myself from the shackles of my past, and I emerged lighter and freer. I soon realized that others were just trying to understand me from their perspective. Standing in my truth, no matter how difficult and lonely it felt at times, was freeing. So .. what did I learn? I learned that the most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves, that if we are authentic to our true selves we can create the life of our dreams, and that others who are suffering from this can transform their lives. This is why I created The Drama Diet. I am compelled to serve others on their journey to living a life they deserve. Embracing the shadows with the light leads to more freedom and inner peace. From contrast comes clarity. So I say dance with your darkness, but let love take the lead.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.lisastuart.com
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