We recently connected with Matthew Carter and have shared our conversation below.
Matthew, thank you so much for joining us today. Let’s jump right into something we’re really interested in hearing about from you – being the only one in the room. So many of us find ourselves as the only woman in the room, the only immigrant or the only artist in the room, etc. Can you talk to us about how you have learned to be effective and successful in situations where you are the only one in the room like you?
Being the only one in the room that looks like me, or the only one in the room drawing focus, can be very intimidating if you let it. There are times I feel the anxiety of being the only one in the room when I first enter rooms like these, but I have learned how to center myself and focus on the positives.
Once I’ve allowed myself to calm down if I have gotten anxious, I begin to focus on the opportunity I have to make a positive impact and inspire someone else who may get a chance to hear what is being said just in case what I’m saying is being recorded. Even if the conversation is not being recorded, I feel it’s more important to make a positive impact on those who don’t look like me to get a chance to understand and disperse any negative views that may have developed because of ignorance. I then give them a chance to adjust their way of thinking, if they are willing to do that, and if not, I gain the understanding the people in the room are only interested in their perspective.
Regardless of how those in the room receive the message I do my best to take advantage of the opportunity I have and focus on the mission at hand. Being the only one in the room doesn’t always require speaking. Sometimes it just requires the attention you receive from entering and either way, I understand I have the opportunity to leave an impression.
Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?
Lately, I’ve been focusing on my acting and filmmaking journey. I enjoy being a part of a story someone has written. I also enjoy sharing my own story through film. I found myself rooting for a few famous actors who came out about having HIV but noticed I didn’t see them as the face of any promotions to inspire and share with others through any ongoing platforms, so I decided I would work on being that face myself if God allows it. Either way, I will continue to do what I can as I stated before, until God calls me home. I’ve learned a lot on this journey called life, and I have learned a lot about how to restore myself while helping others. Learning this has been very crucial in my development.
Telling stories and making films can be entertaining, but it’s also a way to educate and inspire. The second novel I self-published, “War-Angel: Inner Demons (Secrets Revealed)” was the latest film I created as a proof of concept, and I’m looking forward to making a series out of the story. I’m looking forward to getting support from many resources available. I know this story will have a major impact on the community and give those interested a chance to be a part of the story by including their own. When someone shares how my story has helped or inspired them it makes me very excited, and I get inspired to keep going.
Looking back, what do you think were the three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in your journey? What advice do you have for folks who are early in their journey in terms of how they can best develop or improve on these?
Looking back there are a lot of factors that play a key role in my journey. It’s hard trying to name only a few, but if I had to I would start with the ability to identify and understand the situation. Once I’ve done that, I can adjust and adapt very quickly to my surroundings or the situation at hand. My understanding of the spiritual realm, and my willingness to learn more about it, has also been a key role and impactful on my journey. A quality that comes to mind in being impactful and necessary is the kindness that flows from my heart.
As I learn more about the spiritual realm and build a relationship with the God I believe in, a significant change in my heart has happened. I’ve gained the ability to understand others and the possibilities of why they respond in a certain way. Tapping into this skill makes the journey easier for me and it also allows me to heal others spiritually if they are willing to do the work they need to do.
The advice I have for others is to make sure they understand that they must to be open to possibilities, change, and have the right work ethics. I also tell people to be comfortable being the only ones rooting for themselves and to be aware that it’s their dream and no one else’s. I then remind them that the journey isn’t easy, because if it was, everyone would be on it. Although it’s not easy, it’s always worth it. you just need to understand the true value to keep you motivated.
All the wisdom you’ve shared today is sincerely appreciated. Before we go, can you tell us about the main challenge you are currently facing?
The main obstacle I continue to encounter is finding the financials to move forward. I continue to make sacrifices to obtain what I need to build the platform and film projects. When I think I’ve connected with someone who can help me grow, I find myself helping them to build what they’re working on. This has caused me to pull back, reassess, and refocus on what I need, but it has also made the process very slow.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://www.arealdesire.org
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arealdesire
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ARealDesire
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewcarter1980
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@arealdesire9020
- Other: https://warangeluniverse.com
Image Credits
Matthew Carter
Printing Depot NYC
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