Meet Melody Honey-Odette

We were lucky to catch up with Melody Honey-Odette recently and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Melody, really happy you were able to join us today and we’re looking forward to sharing your story and insights with our readers. Let’s start with the heart of it all – purpose. How did you find your purpose?

Finding my purpose wasn’t a single moment of revelation, it was a journey, shaped by every challenge, heartbreak, and lesson life threw my way. It wasn’t something I sought out intentionally at first. Instead, it was born from my darkest moments and the small steps I took toward healing.

My purpose began to reveal itself when I realized I needed to heal, not just for my children but for myself. That realization set me on a path of self-discovery, learning, and growth. It wasn’t easy. Every book I read, every course I took, every meditation and breathwork, every sleepless night I endured, was another piece of the puzzle coming together. Another small piece of my soul coming back together.

But it wasn’t just the lessons in personal development that shaped me. It was my connection to the spirit world, an ability I first discovered as a child through my little friend Kathrine. Over time, and deep study this connection deepened, and I realized that my gifts of intuition, mediumship, and channeling were part of my purpose. They were tools I was meant to use to bring comfort and healing to others.

I found my purpose when I realized that everything I had been through the abuse, the fear, the grief wasn’t just suffering. It was preparation. Every wound taught me how to heal, every fear showed me how to be brave, and every moment of despair taught me how to find hope.

Now, I see that my purpose is to use these experiences and the knowledge I’ve gained to help others. To guide them out of their own darkness, to help them find their strength, and to show them that healing and transformation are possible.
I didn’t find my purpose; it found me when I was ready to embrace it.

With Love

Melody

Xxx

Great, so let’s take a few minutes and cover your story. What should folks know about you and what you do?

Hello, my name is Melody Honey-Odette, and I’d like to share a little about my journey. My story isn’t meant to seek sympathy, but rather to offer a glimpse into the path that shaped me into the strong woman I am today. My hope is to inspire others and to remind you that healing is possible and that you can remember who you are.

I grew up in Canada, surrounded by the love and warmth of a beautiful family. When I was a child, my family welcomed a young, pregnant girl into our home a girl in need of love and support. She became my sister. She gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, and a few years later, after remarrying, she had a baby girl.

When her daughter was just six months old, she was diagnosed with leukemia. Our lives were turned upside down. I quit my job to dedicate myself fully to helping my sister care for her baby, while my mum, dad, and my brother in law worked tirelessly to cover the mounting medical expenses.

In and out of the hospital, we watched her tiny body fight a battle that seemed impossible to win. Over time, her condition worsened. I held her as she suffered strokes, losing control of one side of her body. Going from a baby that had just learned to crawl, to not even be able to hold herself up. Eventually, the doctors ran out of veins to administer her treatments. In the end, all they could do was offer morphine to ease her suffering.

But through it all, we made a promise to her and to ourselves: she would never be alone. Someone was always holding her, cradling her, wrapping her in love so she would feel safe and cherished.

One memory is etched in my heart forever. I was sitting in the hospital, rocking her in a chair, staring out the window. I prayed for her suffering to end. She was in so much pain, and she was just a baby, a precious, fragile soul who deserved so much more than this relentless struggle.

She passed away when she was only 15 months old. I remember the deer that appeared at the window the last night she left us. It felt as though they had come to guide her on her journey, a quiet and sacred farewell to this life, it was time to return home.

I had prayed for her pain to end, and when it did, I was overwhelmed with guilt. I thought it was my fault. At just 19 years old, I didn’t know how to process that kind of loss or the weight of my feelings.

After her passing, my mum and I flew to Australia and we didn’t return for a long time. I didn’t even stay for her funeral. The guilt consumed me, and I blamed myself for her death. So, I ran. I ran across the world, trying to escape the unbearable weight of it all.

But in running, I lost more than just time. I lost contact with everyone back home the family who had once been my anchor. And that’s how it all began. This was the start of a pattern for me, running from the pain I didn’t know how to face.

I attracted a man who treated me exactly the way I felt about myself, unworthy and broken. In the beginning, he seemed nice. But it didn’t take long for him to reveal a darker side, like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I’ll never forget the first time he hit me.

He asked me to turn off the light, and when I didn’t move quickly enough, he picked up the lamp and split my head open with it. That moment marked the beginning of years of abuse. Over time, I became a master at making excuses for him, for the bruises, for why I was always hurt. I thought I could help him, what was I thinking.

But the violence only escalated. The beatings became more severe, more terrifying.

I remember one day vividly I was holding my three week old son, my daughter clinging to my leg in terror. He just kept hitting me, having absolutely no concern for my babies. I begged my four-year-old daughter to call the police, but she was frozen in fear and didn’t know how.

When I told him I was pregnant with our fourth child, he packed up the car, drained our joint account, and left me-pregnant, with three children, and not a cent to my name. But his absence didn’t mean peace. He would appear at any time to threaten me, hurt me and his presence cast a shadow of terror over our lives. I wanted to go home, but my home was across the world, we had no money or passports.

For two years, my children and I slept together in one bedroom, too scared to be apart. They slept, while I could only catnap, my mind locked in a constant state of fight or flight. The anxiety was crippling, the kind that consumed every waking moment. Even in a crowd, I would scan faces, always on high alert, fearing he would appear again and we would run again.

When I gave birth to my son, it was under police guard. He stood on the other side, he had threatening to take my child the moment he was born. This was my life, a life of survival, fear, and unrelenting anxiety.

But after a very long time he faded from our lives. He’s still alive, but he doesn’t bother us anymore. Today, I have my daughter, my boys, and three loyal dogs. They are my family, my strength. I’ve come to realize that my past, while horrifying, doesn’t define me. It’s shaped me, yes even to the point of changing my DNA, I’m told but it doesn’t own me.

It’s time to let go of the fear that man planted in me and break the ties that keep me tethered to the pain he caused. Fear no longer defines me. I’ve learned there is a gift in everything, even in the darkest of moments. And now, I’m ready to move forward, stronger than ever before.

I was diagnosed with CPTSD, depression, and an overwhelming level of anxiety. My brain completely crashed I couldn’t get out of bed anymore. I didn’t want to live. Multiple suicide attempts. But honestly, my family and I were all battling our own versions of this pain CPTSD, depression, anxiety whatever labels people want to give it. In the end, the label didn’t matter. What mattered was that it was time to heal.

And so began my obsession with recovery.

We had survived a nightmare, but survival wasn’t enough. I needed to find a way out of the darkness. The first steps came when I discovered Tapping and Reiki, introduced to me by an incredible Clinical Psychologist. These practices helped me, so I dove deeper. I studied energy healing and eventually reached the Master Teacher level, determined to understand and use these tools to help myself and others.

While working from home to keep food on the table and keep everyone safe, I immersed myself in learning. I listened to Tony Robbins and educated myself about personal and spiritual development. If I wanted to recover, I needed to understand the workings of the brain. I became obsessed with knowledge, studying every course and program I could access, pushing myself forward, even in the midst of debilitating anxiety, depression, insomnia, flashbacks, and the unrelenting weight of CPTSD.

My children, in their own ways, found comfort in the sound of me working through the night. They knew I was fighting for them, for us. But at the time, my sole motive was to save my children. I wasn’t winning, though. My daughter had fallen into a deep depression and was suicidal. I could see her pain, and it broke me to know I had modeled this darkness for her only a few years earlier.

In my desperation to save her, I attended an event searching for answers. I was a crying mess, completely shattered, when an amazing woman sat me down and spoke the words that would change my life.

“Melody, it begins with you. Stop trying to save them. Save yourself, and they will follow.”

People have been telling me for years, “You need to heal yourself first.” But I couldn’t hear them not until that moment. I was so terrified of losing my daughter, so desperate to save her, that I finally heard the truth.

Human nature often demands we hit rock bottom before we change, and I had hit my wall. I was there.

From that moment on, my focus shifted. I turned my attention inward and committed fully to healing myself. It became my mission, my obsession. I dedicated myself to personal and spiritual development with unwavering determination. I attended every course, every event I could find. I devoured books, listened to countless recordings, and absorbed every piece of knowledge I could get my hands on.

As I learned, I began to heal. Slowly, step by step, the pieces of me started coming back together. But I didn’t stop there. Everything that helped me, I committed to mastering. I wanted to use these tools not only for myself, but for my children and for others who were suffering as I had.

Over time, I built a repertoire of healing techniques: Reiki Healing, Lemurian Light Healing, Breathwork, Crystal Healing, Sound Healing, Blessing Giver, archetypes, Golden Kundalini, Relationships, Mediumship, many more, each one adding another layer to my transformation. Amongst others many years learning from my amazing coach Teja Wood, every course she has to offer. Eventually, all these modalities blended into what became my own unique healing method.

After many years of deep, transformational work, I walked out of the darkness and my children walked with me. Today, they are thriving. My daughter has become an incredible photographer, and my sons are thriving in their own paths. My youngest son even works alongside me to help others find their way to healing.

I’ve been to the darkness. I’ve lived it, endured it, and come through the other side. Now, it’s my greatest privilege to help others step out of their shadows and into their light.

When I was a young child, a little spirit named Kathrine became my closest friend. She appeared whenever I was scared, offering comfort and companionship. Kathrine had long dark hair and wore an old fashioned cream nightie. She loved to play, and we spent hours running down the hallway, spinning in a swivel chair, and giggling together. I was only six years old, but to me, she was as real as anyone else.

I remember my mum calling out, “Time for bed, girls,” unaware that one of those “girls” had passed many generations ago. Kathrine was a relative who had died as a child.

Looking back, Kathrine was my introduction to the spirit world. She opened a door for me that would later guide my life’s purpose. Through her, I developed a connection to the unseen, a gift that has allowed me to help others in many ways.

Today, I use my abilities to bring comfort to those who are grieving and seeking peace. Combined with my personal and spiritual development knowledge, I’m able to guide people through their struggles, helping them heal and find hope.

I believe that everything I’ve gone through the pain, the challenges, and the transformations has prepared me for this work. My journey has given me the tools, intuition and empathy to support others as they navigate their own darkness and find their way back to the light.

I am currently working with people in Private 1: 1 secession
Meditation/ Breathwork intuitive Circles

Coming soon
Exciting new programs
Recover from Overwhelm, Burnout, Emotional Fatigue on-line program

Exciting New books on the way

With love,

Melody

Xxx

If you had to pick three qualities that are most important to develop, which three would you say matter most?

Looking back, three qualities, skills, or areas of knowledge that were most impactful in my journey were resilience, a commitment to learning, and self-awareness. Each played a pivotal role in helping me navigate my darkest moments and step into my purpose. Here’s why they were essential and my advice for anyone starting their journey.

1. Resilience: The Power to Keep Going

Why it mattered

Resilience was my lifeline when everything seemed impossible. It’s what kept me moving forward even when I was exhausted, scared, and overwhelmed. Resilience allowed me to face the pain and rise again—no matter how many times I fell.

How to develop it

• Shift your mindset: View challenges as opportunities for growth rather than insurmountable obstacles. Remind yourself that setbacks are part of the process.

• Practice self-compassion: Resilience doesn’t mean being perfect or never struggling. Allow yourself to feel and process your emotions without judgment.

• Build a support system: Surround yourself with people who encourage and uplift you, even if it’s just one trusted person or a community online.

2. A Commitment to Learning: Knowledge as a Healing Tool

Why it mattered

My obsession with learning saved me. Whether it was personal development, spiritual practices, or the workings of the brain, every piece of knowledge I gained became a stepping stone toward healing. It not only helped me recover but empowered me to help others.

How to develop it

• Be curious: Ask questions about your pain, your patterns, and your life. Dive into books, podcasts, courses—anything that speaks to you.

• Learn at your own pace: Growth doesn’t happen overnight, and healing is not a race. Take it step by step, allowing yourself to absorb and reflect on what you’re learning.

• Apply what you learn: Knowledge is powerful, but transformation happens when you put it into practice. Integrate small changes into your daily life as you learn.

3. Self-Awareness: Understanding Your Own Story

Why it mattered

Self-awareness was the key to breaking free from the cycles that held me back. It helped me understand my triggers, my patterns, and the beliefs that kept me stuck. Without self-awareness, I couldn’t have made the changes I needed to heal.

How to develop it

• Create space for reflection: Journaling, meditation, or even just quiet moments alone can help you process your thoughts and emotions.

• Be honest with yourself: Healing requires a willingness to look at the parts of your life—and yourself—that you may have avoided.

• Seek feedback: Sometimes others can help us see what we can’t see in ourselves. Trusted friends, mentors, or therapists can provide valuable insights.

My Advice for Those Starting Out

1. Start where you are: You don’t need to have all the answers right now. Begin with one small step, whether it’s reading a book, joining a support group, or simply acknowledging that you want to change.

2. Be patient with yourself: Healing and growth take time. Allow yourself to progress at your own pace, and don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s.

3. Focus on progress, not perfection: Celebrate every small victory along the way. Even the tiniest steps forward matter.

4. Remember your “why”: Whether it’s for yourself, your family, or your future, keep your reason for healing close to your heart. It will give you strength on the hardest days.

Ultimately, your journey is your own, but resilience, learning, and self-awareness can guide you through the toughest times. Trust yourself—you’re capable of more than you realize.

Alright so to wrap up, who deserves credit for helping you overcome challenges or build some of the essential skills you’ve needed?

My journey has been long and filled with many layers of growth, transformation, and self discovery. Along the way, I’ve had the privilege of learning from some truly remarkable individuals who profoundly helped shape my path.

I owe deep gratitude to my coach, Teja Wood from Soul Calling. Her incredible programs and transformational work have been a cornerstone of my healing and growth. Teja has a rare gift her intuition and knowledge seem limitless, and her ability to connect on a soul level is nothing short of extraordinary. Her teachings helped me peel back the layers of pain, fear, and limitation, guiding me to reconnect with my authentic self. Through her guidance, I found tools that not only helped me heal myself and empowered me to help others.

I must also acknowledge the immense impact of Tony Robbins. His programs, books, and teachings lit a fire within me. From him, I learned to harness the power of my mind, to take control of my emotions, and to see challenges as opportunities for growth. His ability to blend practical strategies with deeply personal transformation gave me a framework to rebuild my life.

Through both Teja and Tony, I discovered the power of resilience, self-awareness, and consistent growth. Their teachings became my foundation—each lesson and insight a stepping stone toward the life I’ve rebuilt today. I approached their work like a sponge, soaking in every bit of wisdom I could. And through their guidance, I not only healed but found my purpose in helping others heal too.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://Phoenixhealings.com
• Instagram: @melodyhoneyodette
• Facebook: Melody Honey-Odette
• Other: My website is a work in progress, until its finished please contact me by
  Hello.phoenixhealings@gmail.com
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Image Credits

Tabitha Lin @sundaze.photographyy